Feeling crap

[lemonysky]

I am just gone 8 weeks pregnant and like a lot of others, feeling really nauseous a lot of the time. I have had reprieves but not many and today has been a pretty bad day. I work at home and had to go back to bed - just this awful feeling in my stomach, like a huge inflammed knot, if that makes sense, combined with motion sickness. I'm really tired and while I feel like this, i'm completely unmotivated to do any work or do anything - which is really, really hard for me because I'm trying to finish a novel and deliver a lot of work for my clients.And I like work.

Anyway, it's all combined to make me feel really teary and low and question what the F* I'm doing. I should be grateful - the month I conceived I was told that, for various reasons, I probably would have a bat in hell's chance of getting pregnant - and I am excited (sort of) but the whole thing just gets completely dampened by this crap feeling. I have just sat and cried over feeling so rubbish while watching Jeremy Kyle. How bad can things get?

Then, with all this time lying around, my head goes to all the places of what could go wrong, what the risks are for me given my fertility issues -

• basically, I'm not in happy la-la land and I feel guilty about this. I'm a strong woman and I feel completely unstoic. Is this normal?

Thanks for listening to me.

hi all sounds pretty normal to me i am 6 weeks preg with my second. Feel really sick all the time and tired.
crying over everything, one min i am excited next min thinking god what have i done. Remember your hormones are all over the place. so thats why you are up and down. And as for guilt, welcome to being a parent you will spend the rest of your life feeling guilty. The morning sickness will soon pass and you will start to feel better, and start looking forward to seeing your baby.

good luck and take care.

I think that's incredibly normal to feel what you do - I have had days like that, too; when you feel really rough, your resources are down and things can be overwhelming.

Be kind to yourself and know that it will pass - and when it does, you'll feel much happier about things. Congratulations, by the way!!

Hi,

I was exactly the same. It lead to arguments between me and OH (we very rarely fought at all) and I couldn't believe I had fallen pregnant in the end... although we tried and baby is very much wanted!

At about 10 weeks I turned a massive leaf, my hormones seemed to die down, and all of a sudden I was a new person! I'm now 32 weeks and so excited!

I know how you feel, I felt so low and crap and thought me and OH would never be the same again. Your body is going through a massive rollercoaster of emotions right now and I promise you will feel better!!!

Thanks all - Nikkisbump, did you also have morning sickness or just the hormonal nightmare? x

No sickness at all, just very tired, grumpy and extremely sore boobs! I literally felt like I had the world on my shoulders and completely miserable, but then was constantly beating myself up thinking I should be happy. Then one day I just felt better and have been fine ever since. Work even took me to one side and said I had lost my drive and wasn't sharp enough, but I couldn't tell them as it was before my scan and I'd had a miscarriage before so was too wary.

I've suffered a bit in the past with feeling like this when I have been on the contraceptive pill, so perhaps my body doesn't respond too well to certain hormones!

Hi. I am 9 weeks + 3 days. I just wanted to let you know that you are so not alone. I have been feeling so rough for weeks now, feeling really sick, off food, really exhausted, bloated - and it is getting really mentally exhausting feeling like this. I too have the hormonal ups and downs, more downs than ups, and just want to get through to the "blooming" phase. Work is really tough and noone knows. I feel totally guilty about feeling so miserable because I spent almost 18 months trying to get pregnant and wanting nothing more! And if I lost it now, I would be absolutely devasted, and know I am not out of the woods!

Its such a mental and physical battle!

So we are all in this together!!

Good luck

Thanks Sunshine15 - you sound in exactly the same place as me. So good to know I'm not alone. I knew I wasn't, but sometimes you just need the reassurance. I hope that it passes for you soon. For both of us! It's complicated stuff, I think, when your hormones start to be wreaked havoc on...

Take care
xx

Thanks Nikkisbump - I wish you all the best for the birth of a beautiful baby!

And you Lemonsky! Good luck and congratulations!