depression in pregnancy

[hidingawayfromitall]

I am expecting another baby - I have 3.
I have suffered with depression and anxiety in the past and I am finding this pregnancy very difficult to deal with to the point where I now hide away all day. I have tried talking to the midwife but she ignored it because my blood pressure was high so she was more concerned about that. The baby is due in 10 weeks and I just dont really care.The gp was pretty useless in the past so I havent got much confidence in them.
The house is a mess
the children are just getting through
my husband is just ignoring everything
What can I do?

I wish I could help. I have posted enough times about how shit I feel in pregnancy, it's so hard isn't it.

Can you try and make your DH understand how you feel? You need support at home more than anything.

In your experience will this go away when the baby is born? Have you had PND?

[anger] at your MW hidingaway. As you have had depression in the past they should be on extra alert to help you this time.

I have found (having had both depression and PND previously) that everyone (MW, consultant) has been very quick to say I must ask for help if I need it either before or after DC2 arrives.

I would suggest getting to your GP asap. If you feel it will be hard to discuss, write down how you are feeling and how it is affecting you before you go, and make the GP read it. It's fine to have antidepressants while pg if you need them. Please please get some help asap, before this baby arrives.

Wishing you all the best.

I had similar problems when i tried to talk to my midwife about my problems with depression. they knew i had previous history of severe depression but still managed to ignore my comments of feeling low and depressed in my appointments.

What i did was tell my consultant about my problems, ok she wasnt much help either but she suggested me doing a self referral to the local mental health services. I did this and a couple weeks later i had an appointment for an assessment.

If you find that the midwife isnt listening to you, go to your GP and be honest about how much you are struggling, ask to be referred to see a professional. and if the GP doesnt listen to you, you can always call up the local community mental health unit (the receptionist at your local GPs should have the number) and do a self referral.

i hope you find the help you need. good luck

Yup - you need to go to your GP and state super-clearly about what you are feeling. Don't walk out of that door with-out some sort of action having happened or going to happen ie: a referral or a prescription etc.

I've had depression on and off for 12 years and am pregnant for the first time and have definantley had my days/weeks during! But i have support at home and this has been invaluable.
So - i suggest - and make yourself do it (i know how hard it is)

To do today: Ring the GP and make an appt straight away.

To do tonight: Talk to the Husband - and really talk to him. Turn the telly off, make sure all distractions are gone and tell him everything.

To not do - and not worry about: The house! Forget it girl - seriously as long as it's not a hazard you don't need to worry about it for the moment.

Good luck - and don't forget there is always someone around on MN that is here for a chat.

if you cant do it alone(get help) tell a friend/family member to come to gp with you!
Lots of pregnant mums get depressed and it can be treated. You and your family deserve it.

How ya doing today Hiding?