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22 Weeks and feeling miserable!

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 16:42

Newbe to Mumsnet...
I am 22 weeks and am feeling rather miserable, it seems that all appointments or rather anything to do with being pregnant doesn't go the way everyone tells you its supposed to... all appointments with healthcare professionals I have so far found unhelpful, disappointing and at times unpleasant... I now have this great fear that all appointments right up to and including birth are going to follow a similar pattern. I have lost faith in it all. I have not as yet been able to meet any other expectant mums, and the antenatal classes aren't due to begin until 34 weeks, its getting pretty lonely here not knowing if everyone else in my area is experiencing the same thing. I can hear myself moaning but could really do with someone in the same condition to talk to, someone who might just understand!

Is there anyone there... ?

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Hevster · 26/04/2010 16:45

i am here....
sorry you are having such a bad time, i too have had crappy appointments with both midwife and consultant. is this your first baby?

Pepsiginn · 26/04/2010 16:50

Yup - i'm here too.
I wonder - is it just one consultant/professional that you have found unhelpful? It's just you may be able to change your midwife - say if it's in particular that person.

1stTimeMum2B · 26/04/2010 17:24

Sorry to hear you're having a bad time. I'm almost 20 weeks with my first baby and have found my experiences with healthcare professionals quite mixed.

One thing I've found really useful is joining a pregnancy yoga class. You don't need to have done any yoga before but I've found it great for helping me relax and for meeting other mums-to-be in the local area. My class is taught by a former midwife and she's able to answer all of our questions without feeling rushed like with the doctor or midwife. If it appeals I'd suggest you google Birthlight and see if they have classes in your area.

mum2oneloudbaby · 26/04/2010 17:25

for meeting other mums check and see if your local nct has a bumps and babies meeting, they are usually during the day but if you can make it they can be a great place to meet people or try your local childrens centre they may have something.

but to be fair mumsnet can be very good for support and of course a good moan

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 18:20

Thank you... it is my first baby and apart from all health professional I have come in to contact with I actually like being pregnant! The big issue for me I suppose is that my husband is a Gp and I think everyone assumes I know everything, which sadly isn't the case as my husband isn't my Gp he's my husband!!!
There are two classes i could join, yoga and aquanatal but sadly both are during the day and I work full time... there doesn't seem to be anything for mums to be who work.

It's nice to know that people are in fact there... literally within minutes but its a huge shame that there's nothing face to face... Thank you all I just don't want to struggle on my own anymore with advice from people to don't understand very much of what is going on... I know that probably sounds hugely ungrateful to my family and friends but i don't think anyone realises that half the time they are adding more pressure.

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Hevster · 26/04/2010 18:29

lilvix know what you mean about the working and not meeting people, i got very lonely when i was pregnant last time, added to which i had just moved to Wiltshire so didn't even have any friends, however i made brilliant friends at both NCT (when i was 6 months) and post natal group when DD was 6 weeks old.
people on MN are brill for on line chatting (and moaning)

Pepsiginn · 26/04/2010 18:37

If you are looking for more face-to-face stuff - try what mum2oneloudbaby said. I know that my pregnancy yoga (even though i don't work) and my aqua-natal classes have after (normal) working hours spots.
And also - don't underestimate MN. Because i don't work i have been very isolated (it's my first pregnancy too) but have been constantly surprised and cheered by the network of friendly people on here.
And don't feel as if you are being harsh on your loved ones/friends - it is much easier to talk about pregnancy stuff with others whom are going through it at the same time.

Nymphadora · 26/04/2010 18:38

I have just changed MW as mine was unhelpful.

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 18:53

Thank you all... your all very helpful and supportive, just what i needed today. XX

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starshaker · 26/04/2010 18:56

Hey lil when is it your due. Im 22 weeks with twins and without mumsnet i think i would go mad

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 19:03

I'm due on 30th Aug according to the MW however I have always had a 30 day cycle which would actually make me due on 01 Sept... My monies on 03 Sept don't know why. I think today has been particularly bad again because i had another US scan, baby wasn't the right way and feel like they got second rate measurements, I just wanted to be reassured and i simply didn't get that, instead I got 8 fuzzy pictures as compensation when the sonog... realised my husband was a Gp.

Starshaker what day are you due on, Twins I'm feeling quite envious as I would have loved to have had Twins, especially as I am a Twin myself...

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starshaker · 26/04/2010 19:12

Im due the 29th aug. You should come join us on the due aug thread. here
I had always wanted twins but at the moment im really struggling to get comfy and wish i could sleep for the next 4 months lol

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 19:20

Is this your first pregnancy... I'm a very small person and am to a point struggling already, I started to show very early and a lot of the newletters you get sent week on week are about 2 to 3 weeks behind my progress however I am still on for an average baby. People ask me all the time if I'm having more than one... you have to laugh really but sleepless nights, very bad reflux and breathlessness isn't always a laughing matter. I feel for you but Twins, such a blessing. I would love to join your Aug thread, thank you.

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starshaker · 26/04/2010 19:30

I have a 5 yr old dd (my baby is growing up sob) but this is my 7th pregnancy so feel really bad about moaning when i know im seriously lucky to be carrying 2 healthy babies. Im 5ft2 and wondering if there is actually room for 2 babies and my organs. Its the organs that are losing the battle and are being kicked out the way. Never mind its not like i actualy need them

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lilvix · 26/04/2010 20:17

Wow that's quite a story... 5 years old same age as my neice, it's a wonderful age if not an exausting one. Do you know what flavour your babies are or are you going to leave it as a suprise... Our's is now a suprise after another 20 week scan this morning... sadly the legs were well clampeted together felt very disappointed this morning when we left the hospital its not important to find out but for some unknown reason had this huge disappointment. It's funny how life's reactions are so different when your pregnant. X

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starshaker · 26/04/2010 20:27

She is totally amazing and is so excited. Its a boy and a girl so i couldnt be happier. Just wish i could detatch the bump for a few hours a day and feel normal and pain free lol

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