22 Weeks and Miserable

[lilvix]

Newbe to Mumsnet
I am 22 weeks and very miserable despite the fact that I am surrounded by loving well meaning people. Every appointment I have had so far seems to be the complete opposite from what you are told to expect and every healthcare professional I have been in contact with has been unhelpful and some times unpleasant... I am worried that all appointments including the Birth day will follow the same pattern. I am begining to feel very alone here especially as it is a very small community and I have not managed to make contact with anyone else who is pregnant, yet the antenatal classes don't start until 34 weeks.
I can hear myself moaning and feel very guilty for it but I could really do with soem contact from other women in the same condition who might be able to help or understand...
Is there anyone out there?

Hi lilvix, have you recently moved somewhere? Are there any exercise classes you can join or anything like that? Post on mumsnet in your local area for people?

If you are worried about the birth itself then perhaps you could get a doula?

I don't know what to say about the healthcare professionals being unhelpful, other than sometimes you have to push hard and be proactive to get the services that you want. It shouldn't be like that but sadly it is for some people depending on where they live. Can you talk to your family about it?

Have you joined one of the antenatel threads on here?

They're a fab way of sharing your worries with people and also getting to know others at a similar stage of pregnancy to yourself.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs

Here they are, look for your due month and get stuck in. I love the October thread, everybody is so supportive and lovely.

Also don't feel guilty, pregnancy can be an isolating time for you. I'm in a similar situation, there are very few people round where I am who are pregnant at the moment. But the October thread lets me know that I'm not the only pregnant person in the world and it's a nice feeling.