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Struggling to juggle work, toddler and pregnancy - anyone else?

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mellymooks · 25/04/2010 14:46

Hello, don't want to sound like I'm just moaning but just really finding it hard to juggle all these aspects of my life right now.
I'm 19 weeks pregnant and have a DD who is 2.4 and work 2 days a week, I commute to this job which is an hours drive both ways which means one of my working days is 13 hours long.

I just feel like I can't cope with it all and am finding the smallest tasks like shopping and washing up so hard. The last few days I have been hit with extreme dizziness, sickness and overwhelming tiredness and have just wanted to sleep.

I find myself wishing I could just get signed off for the rest of this pregnancy so that I could just concentrate on my lovely daughter and our new bump.

I know there are lots of people working fulltime right now and coping and I fear I just sound sorry for myself but I needed to say this somewhere so hope you don't mind too much me wallowing a bit

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2babesmum · 25/04/2010 16:01

Hi, sympathies with your situation. To help put it into perspective I've got 2 DD'S (6 and 9) am 26 weeks pregnant and in the last 6 weeks of a degree, juggling placement, dissertation writing and exam revision. So housework happens if and when, and time with the kids....

I just focus on the fact that it will end at some point and I can then relax and enjoy the end of the kids, pregnancy and then new baby knowing I've got through it and come out the other side. x

2babesmum · 25/04/2010 16:02

meant end of the pregnancy, not kids

SecretSlattern · 25/04/2010 16:15

Similar situation here. Have 2 DC's 6yo and 22 months, am 4 weeks off of the end of my degree, am still working and am 36 weeks pg. I'm totally knackered, stressed and fed up. Still got 2 weeks of work to go too...

You're not alone.

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mellymooks · 25/04/2010 16:41

Oh you see, feel bad for moaning!! Am in awe you guys managing to do all that!

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2babesmum · 25/04/2010 16:50

Moaning's good lol. Hopefully the tiredness will pass soon, I tend to get it in fits and spirts x

Hevster · 25/04/2010 18:07

melltmooks don't feel bad everyone finds different things hard to cope with I have a DD who is 2.5 and have had 5 weeks signed off (am 16 weeks, bad morning sickness and totally knackered as well as crap at being pregnant) and now gone back to work 3 hrs a day. If you feel you aren't coping then see your GP and be honest about it hopefully they will be sympathetic.

MarthaFarquhar · 25/04/2010 18:12

I am in a similar position (one toddler, very stressful job 3 days/wk, 14 weeks pg)

I have given up housework - what DH doesn't do doesn't get done.

I have partially given up cooking - we have takeaways/convenience stuff on work nights.

In my "spare" (ROFL) time I am mostly sleeping

The house is a bit squalid, and we're a bit fat, but it's not forever.

Jacksmybaby · 25/04/2010 18:12

Know where you're coming from melly, in a similar situation, was signed off for a week last week (kidney infection caused by vomit-induced dehydration!) and thinking about whether to go back to dr this week to be signed off again.
Can you get signed off for a couple of weeks - it might give you enough of a rest to make all the difference? I'd suggest going to see your GP. IME they are happy to sign you off in this sort of situation.

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mellymooks · 25/04/2010 18:30

Thanks everyone, is good to know I'm not alone. I think I will take your advice and try and get signed off for a bit, work is very full on and I feel under pressure to get so much done while I'm there and even more now that I know I only have few months left before leaving, yet at the same time I already feel like I'm not as involved and am just marking time until none of this work bollocks will be my problem for a year....

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MammyG · 25/04/2010 21:02

Thank you for putting this out there! I was beginning to crumble. Thought it was just me. DS1 is 3, DS2 is 2. Both great fun but so full on and busy. Am a teacher - constantly knackered. Finding settling down to work in the evening terribly hard just want to collapse. Have had to let house slip entirely. DH doing more and laundry left for blitz days. Worst part is just this feeling of trying to get thru it. seem to spend my day just keeping my head above water and hope if I dont think too much about how i am feeling it will pass. Worried tho that will have stressed baby if keep this up??

SecretSlattern · 25/04/2010 21:08

Same here with the housework. Feel a bit bad actually, especially when DH comes in from work and I've promised to do lots of stuff indoors and actually I've done absolutely nothing. Barely managed to cook dinner tonight and get the kids clothes/lunches ready for tomorrow but that is it. Am annoying myself with it all now.

Allegrogirl · 26/04/2010 07:49

Can I join the moan? I have a demanding job and my poor brain just can't take it at the moment. I get 3 afternoons off a week but that means I still have to get me and DD 2.6 out of the door 5 mornings a week and it's hard work.

DD is really hitting the terrible twos at the moment and I am exhausted. I'm only 23 weeks and already getting back pain from lugging her around. We have food and clean clothes but the house is a mess and it's getting me down. It's my marriage that's really suffering as I am such a misery to live with at the moment.

Only 17 (or maybe 19) weeks to go!!

toja555 · 26/04/2010 09:58

Can I also join? DS is 2 years old, I am 13 weeks pregnant, working full-time plus DH has been away for a month now (should be coming back soon though). I am consolling myself with the idea that it is only about 6 months to go and I will then have a different type of moan!

WhoLetTheBuggerOut · 26/04/2010 10:24

Allow me too pleae ...

Have a 21 month old and only 6 weeks preggers. Working full time and I am already feeling rubbish

nicholetteb · 28/08/2018 13:35

Ladies, we are all different in pregnancy. Some can push through juggling lots others have too many complications to be able to do it. I to suffer from the guilt of letting things go and struggle to do this. I am 23 weeks pregnant with a 2 year old who is seriously regressing and work full time.
My work have sympathy for me having time off but not for my lack of performance. I just passed my probation with effectively a warning to 'pull my finger out'.
I am at a point where i do not care anymore, something has to give.
I am exhausted physically and mentally from running the house, raising toddler who wakes screaming throughout the night (cos mummies pregnant and i wanna be the only baby) and trying to perform at work.

My husband does some things but to be frank is not good at it. His version of tidy is a cesspit and he loses patience with our son at night so i end up being up half the night.
Either my job, marriage or relationship with my son has got to suffer so i have chosen work.
I am either going to be fired before mat leave or just make it to it in Dec. I wont go back after and plan on finding a new job.

Its hard ladies real hard and no one outside can understand and sympathy is not always forthcoming.
I want to say i give love to u all, u r doing all u can and a great job. Fuck em u n baby n children are the most important dont let anyone tell you different.
I am currently struggling to do a full week and tend to call in sick regularly from exhaustion and other complications including fainting.

Hang in there xxxx♡♡♡♡

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