reassurance scan - can toddler come?

[WilliamItWasReallyNothing]

Just a simple question really - is it ok to take a toddler to a scan with me (at a doctor's surgery) as I have no childcare available or is this really frowned on? I'm 10wks & I have no "medical" issue that I'm aware of but I've been v anxious and midwife has suggested I have a reassurance scan by a dr at our surgery.

You can, although if you can keep them strapped in a buggy that can be helpful (memories of DD1 running about in the room with DH chasing her ineffectually...).

I don't think it's a good idea to take any children to scans under any circumstances actually. My opinion is formed entirely by the experiences of dh's former colleagues - sonographers - who said that if there is anything wrong, having children there makes it much, much harder for everybody. Nobody is going to throw your ds out but it may be harder for you to concentrate if he's there. Don't you have ay mummy friends who could watch him in a nearby park for 1/2 hour?

Unfortunately, no. No close friends / family in the area maybe I'll just have to wait out the next 3 weeks until the dating scan. DH can look after DD then but if she can't come in I'll have to face that scan on my own too

Sorry for some reason I assumed you had a ds.
Look - you can take her and that's probably better than you being alone but you did ask for views and mine is that it isn't the optimum scenario.

I know you say no close friends - but surely you know somebody well enough that they can help you out with dd just this once? It will only be for a brief amount of time.

Hi NorthernLurker - no worries, thanks for answering my post . I suspected it might be wrong to take DD which is why I asked the question. I do have mummy friends but no-one I feel comfortable asking to look after DD (don't won't to impose on them when I don't know them too well)

I think maybe I need to pull myself together and stop worrying so much! (going to blame that on hormones)

How old is your toddler?

My DD came with me to both my 12 week and 20 week scan. Like you we have no family nearby to help. DD would only have been 17mths old at the last scan so too young to understand if anything untoward was found. She sat with DH with a snack to occupy her but was actually very interested in seeing "baby" on the TV- It was very cute.

If your concerned how about ringing the surgery and asking the Dr's opinions?

I used to take dd to all my app and scans. I would keep her in her buggy and just as the doc was ready, would hand her a bag of sweeties/crisps. Keep her occupied for about 10 mnts. Usually enough. keep another bag handy if you need more time. and a juice/water bottle.
Brush teeth when got home but it was damn useful.

It's hard to feel confident in pregnancy when you haven't see the baby and haven't got much of a bump and on forums like this there is always somebody having a dreadful time BUT whilst some pregnancies end in miscarriage MOST don't. Whilst some miscarriages don't show symptoms MOST do. So all in all the chances are overwhelmingly on your side that your lovely baby is rolling around in there snug and happy.
I would urge you to impose on your mummy friends just a tiny bit because it is going to make your life so much easier if you do. Maybe you could offer to take their dcs the next day? Also you could cry (sure that won't be hard with all the hormones atm ) most people like doing things to help others out you know. Explain you're alone and ask for help. I know this is easy to say and much harder to do - personally I'm crap at asking but sometimes in the journey of motherhood you need a bit of help and you have to ask - for everyone's sakes. Good luck

Thank you