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sleeping in the same bed when you're enormous!

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marl · 20/04/2010 20:57

Just wondering how many of you in the later throes of pregnancy have left your partners and gone to the spare room to get some (broken!) kip. I'm just so uncomfortable at night and just can't cope with having to take account of someone else's disruption with all my tossing and turning. Not only that, but I have now started snoring like an old man. Can't help but feel though that with 4 weeks to go it doesn't do our relationship much good to be cutting myself off into a separate bed as well as being a bit in my own world at the moment and avoiding anything much physical too. I did it last time but I think only right at the end. Any thoughts from anyone?

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greensnail · 20/04/2010 21:02

DH and I are both much happier in separate beds in late pregnancy. First time around he went into the spare room at about 31 weeks. This time we don't have a spare room, so he's been on an airbed in the living room since twenty-something weeks. Does our relationship no good at all to try and share and end up with neither of us getting any sleep - plenty of time for that when the baby comes!

nickytwotimes · 20/04/2010 21:02

It's pretty common to need to decant yourself/your OH during the last few weeks.
You can still enjoy some snuggly times in the evening to make up for it?
I did it during my first pregnancy adn dh was delighted as he got some peace! Unfortunately no spare room this time round.

FrumpyPumpy · 20/04/2010 21:06

From about 30 weeks we were separate rooms, we didn't argue about snoring/tossing & turning so did us a lot of good. From DS being born we swapped and DH went into spare room until DS stopped wanting to feed every 2 hrs in the night. I had our room with the TV so could feed in bed and watch crap TV use the light from the TV to see.

flybynight · 20/04/2010 21:22

My husband's been in the spare room for the last couple of weeks, (I'm 39 weeks) but prior to that I was wearing breathe-right strips and he had earplugs in, probably for two months. We both sleep much better apart, but we do both hate it. Not long to go now though.

Haggisfish · 20/04/2010 22:12

Gosh, i'm only 29 weeks and we are in separate bedrooms due to aforementioned snoring, tossing and turning and our normal bed being really bad for my hips and back.

It's not the best, but i felt too guilty keping hubby awake.

topiarygal · 20/04/2010 22:20

Get him in to cuddle you for a wee while when you go to bed - get that loving feeling and then he can mosie on out to the sofa or spare room - get your sleep - you're going to need as much as you can - and so will he - the earlier you recognise this the better for both of you!

kittykat77 · 21/04/2010 08:47

I am only 27 weeks and DH has been on the sofa bed for a few weeks now - mainly due to him snoring! I can usually put up with it but not along with pregnancy insomnia as well! I have to admit I am feeling loads less tired then afew weeks ago! At this stage sleep is definately the most important thing

flybynight · 21/04/2010 09:16

After my appallingly smug post yesterday, I was awakened in a fury last night when my husband jumped into bed at 11pm (working late) fully expecting to sleep there. How dare he, I thought? We'll never sleep like this. Sure enough, he had to admit defeat with my perma-snoring. But so much for "we both hate it..."

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marl · 21/04/2010 10:37

Oh flybynight that did make me smile . Same thing happened to us last night as I decided I had had enough of the single bed, got into our double only to be followed by DP half an hour later who then insisted on being nice, laying a 'heavy' arm over my bump and having an extra duvet because he was cold. It took me about 15 minutes to oust him! Thanks for all for your responses. You have reassured me that it's all normal anyway!

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dolphina78 · 21/04/2010 12:30

I am slightly worried myself as I have been sleeping in the spare bed for some time now, mostly because DH snores like a train! But can see how I need the space now but as soon as the carpet gets fitted into the spare room, the spare bed will be going which is leaving me with nothing but dread. I feel I'm getting bigger every day so is going to be harder sharing the bed again and don't know what to do!

Jayfer · 21/04/2010 13:12

DH and I still share the same bed (I'm 39wks) but we have a foam mattress so my tossing and turning only disturbs him a bit rather than making him feel like he's on a boat. DH has been wearing ear plugs for past few weeks due to my snoring (I really hope it goes after the baby is born as I wake myself up snoring let alone him!).
Before getting pregnant I took pills to help me sleep properly (I had extremely restless sleep due to pain from medical condition). These weren't suitable in pg so I haven't slept through the night since July last year! Do you think that's enough practise for when the baby gets here?

notso · 21/04/2010 13:33

Dh and I shared a single bed up until we finished work on our house when I was 37 weeks pg with DD, after that he can sleep through anything.

nunnie · 21/04/2010 13:37

We don't have a spare room, but if we did this would have been ideal. We tended to spend all our time in bed trying to sleep anyway, I don't see how trying to sleep in seperate beds would do any harm to the relationship. As someone else said, plenty of time for together time in the evenings. Don't feel bad hope you are getting better sleep now.

bloomingbex · 22/04/2010 10:39

I wouldn't worry. I'm only 17 weeks pg and have been in the spare room since about 8 weeks DP is a snorer and I was up so many times in the night for a wee that neither of us was getting much sleep.

I've tried rejoining him a couple of times but his snoring is so bad that I think I'll be in the spare room for a long time to come

Good luck with baby, not long to go now!

del1 · 22/04/2010 20:26

I did go and have a stretch / rest in the spare room with my first. But this time, we don't have a spare bed anymore, so stuck with each other! I am not snoreing, but keep waking myself up with loud wind!! much to the annoyance of my partner, who is on a stressfull works driving course. ( and keeps reminding me that he needs sleep!) oops

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