Is it normal to be so anxious??

[Honeybee79]

Hi everyone. I am 13 weeks pregnant today and am totally unable to relax about the whole thing. I had a nuchal scan at 11 weeks and 3 days and all looked fine but because I have had no symptoms at all (was almost longing for a bit of morning sickness) and my stomach looks the same as ever with no sign of a bump, I have convinced myself that something is amiss. I have not really helped myself by reading far too much terrifying stuff on the internet which has just worked me up into a froth of anxiety! Does anyone else feel anxious/stressed about things? Any tips on how to relax at all? Many thanks.

Hi there - no advice really but just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel - I'm 15+3 and had my 16 week mw appt today and had thought they'd listen for a heartbeat so I could get some reassurance, but they didn't. I also didn't get any ms (thank god) and the nausea passed at around 10 weeks.

However in the last few days my tummy has sort of popped out, so that's some reassurance. I can also feel the preggo seratonin in my system a bit, reassuring me more than before. Am planning to sign up for yoga to help me relax/sleep.

It's very normal to worry I think as the pregnancy progresses you'll feel more relaxed. Perfectly normal to have no real symptoms at 13 weeks and not be showing (especially if it's your first)

Try not to fret and enjoy the lack of symptoms!

Yes it is normal to feel anxious. Your worries are the same as many pregnant women feel.

Firstly
a) never google health worries. Ever. No exceptions. If you have a query use the NHS website or ask or here. There are some crazy/scary sites out there.

b) Exercise/plenty of sleep/healthy diet/no caffine can help you feel better.

c) Have a look for relaxation exercises online (that you can google ) to help.

d) if you find it is getting too much and you are struggling then contact your midwife or gp. If the anxiety becomes overwhelming then they can help.

If you have good stomach muscles you won't necessarily show until 20 weeks or maybe even later. I had no symptoms with ds apart from a bit of tiredness and then some indigestion towards the end.

Even with this one (am now 22 weeks) where I felt awful I still didn't really feel pregnant until the baby started kicking a couple of weeks ago. Even when the bump appeared. It is all normal. At every stage there will be something to worry about

Thanks for the reassuring comments and advice. Yes, it's my first baby so I guess pretty normal not to show until later and I did lots of running before getting pregnant (and still do some) which might well mean strong stomach muscles. I shall avoid the evil Google . . .

IMO/E it is normal to be so anxious, especially if it is your first baby. With my first I was told I would lose him so was very worried. I cried down the phone to DH one day because I had been watching Tricia and someone had had a miscarriage and I was convinced that would mean I would too, like a jinx. That baby is 9 now.

I got through by making lists, trying to keep busy and just phoning dh a lot when I was upset.