Do u have to let dp/dh choose the baby's name?

[LollipopSweetiePie]

Do you really have to let dp choose one of the babies names? Anyone got away with choosing the names for both sexes then dp just agreeing whether they're suitable? I really really really think it's one of the biggest things about having a baby and I have really strong feelings about wanting to use my names, and if dp wants to use a name I will be gutted! Even if I let him choose the boys name and me the girls, I dont wanna end up with a Walter or a Eric or somthing!

We both wrote a list of names in our family, friends names, ex girlfriends/boyfriends names, names of our friends children, names other pregnant people had mentioned they liked and decided to avoid these:

I asked my dh for suggestions and then went with one of those, and then shortened it (tee hee). We had 3 boys names and 2 girls names, and spent the night after ds was born "sleeping on it".

Good grief no! DH had the daftest suggestions. I suggested the names that I liked. Left him to mull them over until he was convinced he had chosen them. Job done!

dh found the most beautiful name for dd1 and I got her middle name.. but we both liked both names...

Again we both came up with dd2's name. It took us ages to find a name we liked for dd2 - we agreed quite quickly on a boy's name here though.

I think it is a little selfish - after all he is the child's father... surely you can find names you agree on.

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dh chose both our dds names and I chose the middle ones

we did the discussing which names we both liked (actually was me suggesting names and dh reacting, tbh). Then after the scan showed it was a boy, dh suddenly got all macho (very unlike him) and insisted ds had to have one of the names we both liked followed by both his grandfathers' names. I was a bit taken aback. Ds's name wasn't my first choice, but it was one we were both happy with. And dh was so insistent about middle names, I let him get on with it. However, if we ever have no. 2 and it's a girl I will be very, very forceful about my choice.

Has he chosen the surname (ie is it his)? In the old days, that's why the mother had final say - because she had no say in the surname.

Generally with all four of my children I came up with a list of names, and dh vetoed them all and I then carried on coming up with names until he liked one. I didn't feel that I could insist on a name knowing that he didn't really like it. I was annoyed because he never came up with a list of names himself but just vetoed mine. (I only got my absolute favourite name with one of my children). With dd2 we couldn't agree at all and in the end we both wrote a list of names we liked and her name was on both lists. (she didn't have a name for 6 weeks though!). I don't think you should let him choose a name though - too much danger there!