pregnancy affecting relationship with hb...help needed!

[Pumpkin078]

Hi all,

Im 16 weeks pregnant and since Ive been pregnant Ive been increasingly upset by the fact I cant cope with my husband touching me! I feel really horrible because when he trys to cuddle me or touch me in any affectionate way I find myself pulling away cause I cant stand it . Im really worried cause I always used to be really affectionate and cuddly and both me and my husband are confused by this reaction. I have talked to him about it but Im not sure what I can do to resolve this issue. I suppose it dosnt help with the fact that he is in the forces and is away during the week and I only see him at weekends. Im wondering if this is my hormones or have my feelings towards my husband changed??

hi
i would say its your hormones , im 39 weeks and throughout the whole of my pregnancy iv been blowing hot and cold with my partner lol
i can be really cuddily and wanting to be near him for a couple of weeks then im the total opposite for a couple of weks lol
i alternate between the two , i shouldnt worry about it if i were you .
your body is going through a huge change , your going to feel wierd and have your good and bad days
you and your husband should enjoy watching you grow , you both will feel closer

Thank you, it makes me feel better that Im not the only person experiencing this. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders

Oh I've felt like this with all 3 of my pregnancies!! I completely go off any physical stuff (even cuddles and kisses) in the first trimester. Then I'm horny as hell in the 2nd trimester (tmi!!) and then I'm back to wanting to be left alone in the 3rd trimester.

It IS very common to feel this way, and once the baby's born and hormones have settled things have always got back to normal with my DH and I. Just make sure you keep talking to him about it so he knows you still love him!

I'm normally an incredibly tactile person and could happily spend all day and night hugging my husband / holding hands etc. Since about week 7 with my morning sickness starting I haven't been able to cope with him touching me a lot of the time, and have had to sleep in another room. Its really hard, I miss being close to him. So no I don't think its your relationship

I have though just made sure I regularly reassure my husband that its nothing to do with my feelings for him, just pregnancy making me weird!