how can i find out the sex of my baby without my scan partner knowing?

[purplepizza]

have my 20 week scan coming up and the dad cant be there so i am taking along my sister.

i r4eally want to know the sex but dont want my sister to know.

how could i get around this?

was thinking about making a excuse to go in first to the room then asking her to put a b/g infront of my notes, or asking at the reception if they can let the scanner know but they may be peeved of with the extra hassle.

any other ideas?

The sonogropher won't mind. Ask your sister to get you a drink/tissue/something when you are waiting to be seen and ask the receptionist to write a note on your notes or put a post it inside your white book, the pages where the measurements are as the sonographer has to look at it, just say the midwife has written a note in there for her/him.

Hi Purplrpizza

My friend was unsure if she wanted to know the sex of the baby before hand, so the sonogropher put a note into a sealed envelope. Maybe you could ask for them to do something similar, that way you and baby's dad can find out together.

HTH

go on your own?? my husband hardly made it to any of my scans.

sorry bit obvious and clearly not what you want to do.

Is she there because you want her to see the baby - if so ask the sonographer to write it down.
If you need sis there for support in case anything goes wrong then ask her to sit outside unless required otherwise.

golly, round here they won't write it down in case they are wrong and get sued... they actually aren't allowed to write it anywhere but can tell you what they think it is.

mind you, a friend who went last week with her dh had decided that they didn't want to know (their third and they wanted a surprise) but the minute the pic came up on the screen all they could see was an enormous profile of what was v clearly outdoor plumbing. even the sonographer laughed and said, 'oops, i guess there are no surprises then!'

hope it works out the way you want!

Scan partner?

Why can't she know?

Ask the sonographer to whisper it to you . Explain to your Sis beforehand though, don't lie to her about it.

Ask her to leave the room?

i always went on my own... [no friends emoticon]

I explained to my mum that I didnt want her to know before DH and she was very respectful of this. I explained this to the lady scanning me when we entered the room and she asked mum to leave as I was getting the gel cleaned up and clothing reasembled and told me then.

I would explain your intentions to your sister before hand though and also explain if you dont intend telling anyone else in the family. My mum still doesn't know the sex and doesn't want to, your sister may surprise you.

slip sonographer piece of paper saying:

"i want to know sex but don't want my sister to know that i know - please either write it down or if you are uncomfortable with that please mouth it to me when she isn't looking"

Or of course the problem may not arise At my 20 week scan the sonographer couldn't tell me the sex as the cord was in the way PITA trying to buy everything unisex