All I can focus on is what can go wrong why?

[nunnie]

This is my 3rd pregnancy, 1st one ended itself between 4 and 5 weeks, so it wasn't classed as a miscarriage, and to me it was easier and still is to call it a period.

So really only think of this as my 2nd pregnancy, first one I was over the moon the whole way through, didn't even think about what might happen even though it was high risk pregnancy due to previous gynae surgery, I never really thought about it.

This pregnancy is totally different, I have all the symptoms worse, and some different, but I just don't feel pregnant as such all I can focus on is what can go wrong, with dd I had an early scan at 6 and 8 weeks, so this may have set my mind at rest early, but this pregnancy hasn't given me any cause for alarm so no need for early scan.

Why am I sooooo worried, and why can't I focus on the good?

No idea but I'm doing the same.I have 2 dds who I had no problems with then an early m/c last year. My confidence is V low with this pg even though I had a scan a couple of weeks ago when I had pains. I can't relax until I have my proper scan in 3 weeks

nunnie i am DEAD IMPRESSED that you manged to sail through your high risk pregnancy without worrying.

I have worried through all of my pregancies. I am on my third and I am worrying more than ever. My current theory is that I had two healthy children so there will be something wrong with this one........I have had 12 and 20 week scan. I am nearly 30 weeks now. No evidence anything is worng but I just have a feeling. I never voice it though (except here!) because I just think it is such a natural thing to worry. I make my self concentrat really hard on enjoying it!!

I spent so much time at hospital being checked and scanned that I didn't have time to worry really. May well be the same this pregnancy but won't know till I go for booking in and dating scan in 4 weeks ish.

Also didn't use sites like this didn't know they exsisted really and I have seen so many heartbreaking things on here and the conception forum that it as hit home how easy it is for this to go horribly wrong, and I think deep down I am stopping myself from getting too excited for that reason if that makes sense.

Hi nunnie, what your feeling is completely normal I have had 3 mc and although pregnant again now I cant enjoy it either I am constantly worrying every pain i panic! Iam the same as you and cant focus on the good just what if it all goes wrong! it is normal to feel the way we do I know it's not nice for us to feel that way though. and we should enjoy it, If you want to chat about it any time just let me know it nice to speak with people who have been through the same as you

Thank you, I so want to enjoy, but my heart and head will not let me, maybe I will relax a bit more after the scan.