I'm pregnant and terrified

[Lutyens]

I'm sitting here with a positive pregnancy test and I just cannot believe it! We weren't trying. I had a second trimester miscarriage in November and I was devastated by it and wasn't in a mental state to TTC so we stopped. In my last cycle we had sex just once on Day 4 (my periods had just stopped that morning). I actually stopped dh from going upstairs to get a condom, saying that it was a "safe day". And now I'm pregnant!

My head is all over the place. I should be happy, I am happy. But it is such a shock. I haven't told anyone yet, I don't have the words. I'm so bloody scared. I had hyperemesis in my last two pregnancies, and combined with the miscarriage last time, I'm just terrified. I'm sobbing over the computer. Don't get me wrong, this baby will be wanted. It's just so unexpected, especially when I hadn't even tried iyswim?

Sorry, this is a pointless post. I'm just so scared I had to get it our somehow and I'm not ready to tell dh or my mum yet. I thought writing it down would calm me, but I've actually scared myself more now. Bloody hormones...I'm crying a river

Just calculated that this baby will be due 25th November...the exact date I lost my previous baby (at 17 weeks).

Gawd, I've set myself off again. Where are the tissues when you need them?

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, Lutyens. You know, I've heard that people who have recently lost a child seem to conceive very easily shortly afterwards.

But congratulations - it sounds as if you need some time to get your head around it. Be kind to yourself.

Hi, i don't really have any advice but didn't want to just read and run! Congratulations on your pregnancy and please try not to worry too much, just take each day at a time.
I also lost a baby in the second trimester, and my pregnancy with my DD (now 6 months old) was full of fear and memories of that terrible time, but somehow I got through it and although I still grieve for the one I lost and will never forget her or what that time was like for us, time has healed a little and I'm so pleased I made the decision to try again and have another (I know you haven't made the decision to try again, but hope that you are able to enjoy this pregnancy).
xx

Well, congratulations!!!

I hope that this will be a totally positive experience once you get your head around it.

I have never experienced a miscarriage but always feared it, so afraid I don't have any experience just wanted to respond to your post as no-one else had

congratulations

I'm not surprised you're all over the place emotionally considering what you've been through and that's totally ok... cry and rant all you need to, sometimes getting it all out can help a bit.

Hi, I had a surprise pregnancy after losing a son previously at 21 weeks. I was pretified and had a big big panic... It did calm down and I did feel better after a week or two but it knocked me for 6, and I always thought I would handle another pregnancy in my stride. But no.... Hope you slowly get your head round it. Take as much time as you need getting your thoughts straight. I know its a nice idea to tell DH / DP straight away but in these cases there is nothing wrong with keeping it to yourself for a day or two to come to terms with it.

Thank you everyone for responding. This baby is wanted, just as the one I lost was. It's just very overwhelming at the moment.

I need to calm down NOW...have to go collect dd from nursery. She can't see me this stressed.

I'm hoping against hope that this time I won't get hyperemesis. It is a terrible thing and I haven't prepared to face it. Well, best start preparing I guess.

Chooster, I hope I'll settle down too. I know I will. At the moment though....

I'll blame it on the hormones.

Thank you so much everyone...you don't know how much good you're doing me