Pregnant for first time- need some advice

[dorcas111]

Hello, I just found out this week that I'm pregnant. It's my first and it was a bit of a shock but I'm so happy. My OH is too but he has had to go away on a pre-arranged trip for a few days so I'm at home by myself worrying now and it's so early I can't talk to anyone about it.
I don't really feel pregnant- I've got sore boobs and some cramping but this is how I feel around the time of my period. Apart from that there's no other signs. (Well, apart from the three positive tests I've done and the lack of a period). I don't really feel sick or anything- I felt a bit queasy the last two mornings but I'm fine today. Is this normal?
I'm about 4-5 weeks pregnant I think, I can't see my doctor until next Wednesday.

Congratulations! Yes sore boobs and minor cramping normal. Your womb is growing rapidly and thats why you feel cramps. I would go out and get a couple of pregnancy books and have a read. Its such an exciting time ahead of you. Enjoy!

Congratulations, how exciting.
The first 3 months are really tough to get through - you've done the test, but not a lot happens before your 12 week scan and you may be lucky enough to avoid the usual symptoms (like morning sickness). I used to feel a bit of a fraud and wonder when someone was going to call my bluff and say 'but your not pregnant'.

Thank you. It is exciting- I'm just afraid of things going wrong and scared to get too excited. I know I'm being daft but I'm worried that I should be feeling more pregnant. Shouldn't I have my head down the toilet? Instead I feel really well. I know I shouldn't be wishing morning sickness on myself, it just all feels a bit unreal. And despite this pregnancy being a bit of a surprise I am so overjoyed and scared of losing the baby. I'm sorry for rambling, I think I just feel a bit emotional, all these thoughts going through my head and not having anyone to talk to.

You're normal. I was quite young, 24 with my first pregnancy, and I felt really fab all the way through, no morning sickness and just like you a few cramps.

Enjoy it.

congrats and don't panic! with dd1 i had morning sickness from about 7 weeks onwards, with dd2 it didn't start til around 10 weeks. Perfectly normal to not feel much difference at this early stage.

I found out I was pregnant when I was about seven weeks and I felt like such an idiot for not realising - I didn't have any symptoms at first at all. I remember really worrying on the way to the 12 wk scan - that they were going to tell me it was all a mistake! It's totally normal to feel this way. Congratulations.

Feeling over emotional is a good pregnancy symptom

Sickness and extreme fatigue very often doesn't start until about 6-7 weeks so it's perfectly normal not to have that now.

congrats I totally understand how frustrating it is not being able to talk about it when you're so early on. Keep talking on Mumsnet, it's what stopped me from going potty in those first few weeks.

Dorcas111 - many women do not get morning sickness. I'm pregnant with number 2 and again no sickness.

Extreme tiredness hit me at about 6 weeks until 12 or 13 weeks.

Otherwise fine. Enjoy!

Thank you so much everyone for your replies, they really help. I think that I just expected I would feel instantly different when I was pregnant. I would never have known if it wasn't for my lack of a period. And it feels so surreal getting my head round this life-changing thing and having to pretend all is normal to everyone else! It is a relief to be able to come on here and talk about it. The strange thing is that for a week I was waiting for my period and kept hoping it would arrive, every time I went to the toilet I was hoping I would have started. But as soon as I did the test and found out I was pregnant I was over the moon and now every time I go to the toilet I hold my breath and breathe a sigh of relief that there is no blood, (sorry if TMI). I don't know what to do with myself- its all I can think of a the moment!

Technically you're a mum now.You will be totally obsessed by this baby from now untill forever! Definately keep chatting here and get your self a couple of good week by week and day by day pregnancy books to pour over!

Hi Dorcas111, try not to stress yourself out waiting anxiously for textbook pregnancy symptoms that might never manifest themselves. I am 7 weeks pregnant with my first baby and didn't feel any different until a few days ago when nausea and constant weeing kicked in! But I have many friends who never experienced nausea at all, so don't fret too much.

I've booked myself a private scan for next week, when I'll be 8 weeks, simply to put my mind at rest. It costs £100 but in my mind is money well spent as I can relax more if I find out the baby is ok and growing in the right place! If you are a worrier by nature, why not investigate a private scan too? Waiting until 12 weeks is torture, I know!

Hi. You sound very similar to me. I am five weeks gone and have been having cramps (particularly on the left...) and this morning when I was in the shower, my boobs looked harder, as did the nipples (sorry if too much information!).

I have been a bit mood-swingy, but have had no morning sickness. By the evening I am shattered and can barely make it to the bathroom to brush my teeth.

I have just ordered another pregnancy book off Amazon along with some Bio Oil for when I start to get bigger....

It is hard in the early stages as you want to shout about it but can't really.

Thanks for your reassurances, I am starting to feel a bit less stressed now hearing that other people have also not had many symptoms so early on. I will probably regret wishing for morning sickness later down the line! Bumbums you made me well up a bit saying that I'm technically a mum now- I'm clearly quite emotional at the moment! I am already obsessed, god what am I going to be like nine months from now!

Congratulations. The cramps and boob soreness sound normal to me.

It is difficult not being able to talk to people about it at first.

Have you signed up for the NCT's Stepping Stones? They give you loads of useful info from now until your baby is 2.

No I've not heard of the Stepping Stones but I'll check it out thanks. I'm off to a party tonight (not a wild one, more a small gathering) and it'll be the first time I've been out since finding out- I'm dreading trying to avoid alcohol without raising people's suspicions, I'm useless at lying! I might pretend to be really hungover from a big night out last night. They'll never know that in reality I was sat on the sofa, eating fruit watching a period drama!

No sickness here either, but nothing could have prepared me for the level of exhaustion early on.
Is there anyone friend-wise that won't remonstrate with you telling them early? Could be good to have a girlie squeal with someone, I did when I was about your stage with my sister in law and it really helped! Congrats!

No sickness here either, but nothing could have prepared me for the level of exhaustion early on.
Is there anyone friend-wise that won't remonstrate with you telling them early? Could be good to have a girlie squeal with someone, I did when I was about your stage with my sister in law and it really helped! Congrats!

Dorcas - that bit where you describe hoping for your period each day then once you found out out you were pregnant, terrified of seeing blood - that is exactly what i was feeling first time i was pregnant. It's amazing to go from one feeling to the complete opposite in the space of a few hours and totally overwhelming. That pregnancy is now my 3 year old boy and his brother and sister will be here in a week or two as well, but i still remember that feeling you describe as if it were yesterday. All sounds normal to me and you do have such an exciting time ahead of you. Hope your OH gets back soon so you talk it all through together - Many congratulations!

I also felt I must be making it up with my first - no morning sickness at all and apart from no period and positive test nothing else to show! Was exhausted but that never feels decisive!

Second pregnancy underway at moment- again no morning sickness. Plenty of other wee things now but the early days were again tired and a positive test/no period and nothing else.

Op, I honestly went to my first scan with my DS (now almost 2) terrified that they wouldn't find anything and were all going to turn on me and tell em off for wasting their time! it didn't help that when we got there I had a student sonographer so it took her a couple of minutes to find the baby!

I'd had only mild morning sickness up to that point (my bad morning sickness stage was between 12and 14 wks) so like you, I was still somewhat in denial. it was only when my little baby loomed up on the ultrasound that I realised it was actually happening, and got the outpouring of love.

And the first half does drag. It's really not until you start feeling the baby move (anything up to 18-19wks really) that you get past feeling like you simply 'ate all the pies' and got rather overweight. But once you get there, it's certainly magical.

I think I had a thread on here first time round asking when I would start feeling pregnant, this was around 6 weeks.

A week later and morning sickness hit and boy was I wishing I had no symptoms again!

It's natural to worry, and no one can promise everything will all turn out ok, but the chances are everything is fine, and make the most of your lack of symptoms.

It's hard to accept but the long and short of it is that there is nothing you can do either way at this stage. You'll see your dr and they won't want to see you again till 12 weeks which is hard as this is the time that you feel you need the most support.

Just look after yourself and try not to worry. At least don't worry to yourself, do it on here

Thank you so much for all your kind words and advice. It is starting to sink in I think that I really am pregnant and I'm going to try not to worry about the lack of symptoms. It's good to hear that so many others have felt the same. Being pregnant is both very exciting and very odd! I managed to get through last night without too much hassle- apart from my stupid brother asking me if I was pregnant and grilling me about it . I feel a bit guilty now for ever asking anyone not drinking if they were pregnant- luckily I've never been right but I am never going to do that again, now I know what it's like!
And it's a relief to hear NKffffffffee that you went through the same early experience. I feel a bit bad now for ever wanting to get my period so I'm glad I'm not the only one. It is very overwhelming to go from one feeling to the exact opposite so suddenly.