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So glad to have 2 little girls and would be quite happy to have a 3rd

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foxyjbro99 · 18/03/2010 17:51

I've got two girls aged 5 and 3. I'm expecting number 3 in August and would be very happy if it was another girl. I don't mind if it's a boy either, but am getting very annoyed at people who seem to be under the illusion that boys are superior!

Why do people(normally ones with sons and no daughters) think it's acceptable to talk about girls in such a negative way?

How would anyone without a daughter know what little girls are really like?

I don't particularly like some little boys I come into contact with, but would never tar the whole male race with that brush!!

I sometimes wonder if it is pure jealousy when these comments and generalisations come from daughterless women.

Anyone else have experience of this?

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PacificDogwood · 18/03/2010 17:57

Better brace yourself - there are going to be more comments if you do indeed have another little girl... !

I am currently looking after DS4 and you should hear the stupid illadvised remarks people make: 'Oh, what a shame' 'Well, you'll just have to have a 5th' 'Oh, I am so sorry' !!

Much as I would have liked a girl somewhere along the way, I am v glad that this (last) baby is a boy as I would not have wanted the other 3 to think we 'kept going' just to get a girl IYKWIM...

This has been done a few times on MN recently.
I think usually people mean well, don't know what to say and something silly comes out. Gob in operation before brain engaged IMO.

Good luck with the rest of you pregnancy.

myermay · 18/03/2010 18:00

congratulations on being pg with your 3rd, very envious, my hubbie said a big NO to number 3!

Until i had kids i didn't realise about this whole boy/girl thing. It drives me nuts. I have 2 boys and i've even had someone say to me, well at least you don't need to worry about them as teenagers! , no of course cos a parent never worries about sons!

On the other hand the amount of people who have a boy and a girl feel the need to say "well i have one of each" smugly

And yes i know what you mean about some mothers moaning about the opposite sex they have, it's also pathetic, they are all different regardless of gender. Can't help hthink they do it to make themsleves feel better about not having the opposite sex.

god, we are all lucky to have what we are giving and this gender thing makes my very sad. Good luck with your pg, whatever sex you have will be wonderful!

boogeek · 18/03/2010 18:06

I have just had my third daughter (and was thrilled, as I would have been delighted had she been a boy). I was astonished by the number of people who seemed to think the only possible reason to have a third child was because I must be desperate for a boy. You could go on a long time like that! Ignore 'em

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foxyjbro99 · 18/03/2010 18:11

'Are you going to keep going until you get a boy?'

and

'I don't need to have anymore, I've got one of each.'

are amoung my favourite comments

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Morloth · 18/03/2010 18:17

It really doesn't matter what combination of children you have. Someone will have something to say about it.

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foxyjbro99 · 18/03/2010 18:18

*amongst

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MrsHappy · 18/03/2010 18:22

I've just had DD2 and keep being asked if we will have another to "go for the boy". DH and I would love to have 3 girls if we were lucky enough to have a third child. We feel amazingly lucky to have our two right now!

A lady in the Post Office, on realising I had 2 girls said "Oh. Never mind. That's... ok". I told her in no uncertain terms that 2 girls is lovely, but the next week we had the same conversation again! Some people...

cloudydaze · 18/03/2010 19:27

I have 2 DS's & a 3rd on the way & I find the opposite - everyone assumed we had a 3rd in the hope of having a girl. It really annoys me how many negative comments I get when I say I'm pregnant with another boy. I don't say it in a sad/upset way I might add as I'm not, as long as my children are healthy really not bothered if they are girls or boys.
I think I would get some stupid, negative comment on an almost daily basis regarding the sex of my baby so you are def not alone!

Thirdtimer · 18/03/2010 20:06

I too have two girls (4.5 and 2) and am expecting third child in October. I know everyone will make stupid comments about us having another go for a boy once they find out... but let me be honest (in a way that only the anonymity of mumsnet allows...!) I really really want another little girl!!! I just love my little girlies! Even though before I'd had any kids I would definitely have have been hoping for boys - weird!
Obviously if a little blue one comes my way he'll be just as welcome - but then I know I'll be annoyed at people's 'oh, you got a boy in the end then, that's good' type comments! People can just say the most ridiculous things!

dymond · 18/03/2010 20:19

I have one of each- and was amazed at the number of people who said- 'oh you won't have to have anymore now that you have one of each!' I think some people just feel they have to say something. To be honest DS is far easier and less feistier than DD!- we have no.3 on the way and haven't found out but no one is really interested as we have one of each. I know of at least a couple of friends who have continued having babies to have a girl!

MinnieMalone · 18/03/2010 20:32

I have one of each and get plenty of 'aren't you lucky you won't have to have any more' comments (would quite like a third, actually!). Also get a fair amount of the truly bizarre 'ooh, aren't you clever?/didn't you do well?' type comments, as if I am of superior intelligence

However, I have a couple of acquaintances with two boys and they can be fairly unbearable in their own way. Lots of slightly snide comments about girls and 'the sea of pink' and how tiresome it all is. Jealous? Just a bit? hmmm...

MissusRabbit · 19/03/2010 08:13

I have one of each (although lost DD2, which causes no end of stupid comments in itself) and people were shocked we got pregnant again and asked if it was planned

Now i get comments about not being bothered what we have as we have one of each. If i had 2 the same sex i wouldn't be bothered either!!!

You can't pick what you have and i wouldn't have thought many people go ahead on the 'off chance' they get a certain sex.

What amazes me is that these people are normally parents themselves so should know better than to come out with daft comments about other peoples kids.

MissusRabbit · 19/03/2010 08:17

When I was pregnant with DS i kept getting told that i must be wishing for another girl as they were easier than boys...so my friends are the opposite of yours

sweetkitty · 19/03/2010 08:22

People are idiots who open their mouths without thinking.

It's funny how these comments always seem to come from smug "I have one of each" types (not all though)

I had "are you going for your boy now?" shouted at me across the playground yesterday. I am very sensitive to this at the moment having 3 DDs and now having a DS, it's like he is the golden child the one we have been waiting for. We fully expected another DD, girls are great as you will know. I am sure Mums of all boys get the same comments in reverse.

Of course if you do have one of each and get pregnant again of course it is unplanned as you have the perfect family why have another? You simply cannot love having children.

SPBInDisguise · 19/03/2010 08:30

I have one of each, and when i had dd I got this message from an elderly relative
"Congratulations on having a girl child, our prayers have been answered"

I was initially shocked as had never said anything to anyone about preference (had had a slight preference for another DS) but then got quite as it seems to imply another one like my DS would be dreadful

sungirltan · 19/03/2010 08:34

a friend of mine has 3 boys. she was desperate for the youn gest to be a boy but now says shes releived he wasn't because she thinks it might have been divisive for her family along the lines of dh saying 'you take dd and do girly stuff and i'll take the ds' to play football'

i will be mightily relieved if dc2 is a girl. mostly so i don't have to get rid of dd's baby clothes and also so that no one can say 'oh...now you have a boy! i expect he will follow his dad into the army'

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