How to stop worrying about scan?

[flintski]

That's it really! My 12w scan is on Monday and I am literally counting the minutes - I am so convinced that something is wrong that I just want monday to get here so I know one way or the other. I have been worrying myself about every little symptom (or lack of) and just want to know! This is a much tried for and wanted baby (2 years in the making) and I know that if the news is bad on Monday, I will just fall apart. So help please - how do I get through the next four/five days without thinking about it all the time?

It's difficult isn't it?

I suppose you could tell yourself that worrying will not change anything. It will probably be fine.

There's no good answer I'm afraid- I volunteered to work the Saturday am shift just to take my mind off it over a weekend, it drives you crazy. But eventually the minutes do tick by. Plan some trips out for the weekend? Shopping, or trailing round an art gallery or a big walk in the hills, whatever is your thing. Good luck with the wait- and if you've made it this far, the chances are good, don't forget

Thanks for the messages - i know the odds are it'll be ok but...... Shopping sounds like a good distraction. Roll on Monday!

I was exactly the same! I got my hospital letter a whopping 6 weeks before the appointment and the last 3 weeks were agony! I too totally convinced myself that there was a problem too. I ALWAYS prepare myself for the worst, I am a nightmare!!! Every senario possible went through my head I can tell you. Luckily all was well and I am now 14+5. Try to relax darling and you are already another day closer than you were when you posted!!!!

Where abouts are you from? Only reason I ask is I got the scan and bloods done and the results in the same appointment. xxx

There is no way to stop worrying, keep busy and do things that stop you thinking about it.

This is my second pregnancy and I was much more worried this time, convinced the scan would show the worst.

On the morning of the scan my husband had to go on to work afterwards so he went on his bike and I met him there in the car, I sat in the car park waiting for him for 15mins because he forgot he had no petrol, worst 15mins ever!!

All good in the end though and I'm 16 weeks now, it's such a horrible time especially if for some reason you have a bad feeling.

Plan something for the weekend, with you OH or with friends so you're not sitting letting your mind wander and good luck!!

Generalised pregnancy anxiety is just one of those things, I think. That's the conclusion I've come to anyway! For the first few weeks you worry that the positive test was wrong - then you worry about the first scan, then you worry about the 20 week scan, then you worry about getting to the stage where the baby is viable, then you worry about labour, then you have the baby and worry more or less all the time for ever.

Good luck. It will be fine.

Just wanted to add my support and say I can totally empathise. My 12 week scan is in 2 weeks and I'm terrified they tell me something's wrong. I cried my eyes out and didn;t sleep for a whole night when i got the letter throuhg with all the potential problems listed on it, convince myself I'm too old for this (I'm 37) and all kinds of other horrible nonsense. Think I reached rock bottom and since then I'm finding it a wee bit easier.

It sounds strange but I just keep telling myself there is nothing I can do and accept the situation is not within my control. You do need to keep yourself distracted, definately, and take it one day or even one hour at a time. and talk to people if you can.

I hope you come back and let us know how you get on. I know what its like to long for a baby for so long and then feel so anxious about it everyhthing ok. All the best x

I was just the same! Really convinced something would be wrong, or there'd be nothing there etc...! Am now at the other end of the pg, fretting over planned cs next Tues!

Don't think you'll be happy until you're clutching that little pic in your hand!

Good luck and try to think about something else!

Just to send my encouragement, ladies, try to remain positive. Just had my 12 week scan this morning and once I saw the little image, I was laughing with happiness. I wish you all the best, it will be worth it!

I have mine tomorrow morning (I'll be 12+1).... basically shaking with nerves... at work!

Hi

Thought I'd add my bit, I have my first scan a week on Monday with 1st DC and.....I feel exactly the same way ladies, if only I could calm my nerves with a nip of whisky or large glass of wine

So to flintski and legallyblond - I am feeling your worry - I hope all goes well, I am sure it will. Having read some of the more experienced posts I think we have to sit back and accept that from the moment we fell pregnant - we will have a lifetime of worry - damn someone get me a drink (non alcoholic please)

I can recommend Tesco Finest Elderflower & White Grape sparkling stuff - it's much drier than 'standard' non-alcoholic wine and really refreshing.

And Becks Blue non-alcoholic beer is quite good too!

You'll still worry though - but at least you'll have a cold drink in your hand eh?

Thanks everyone! Its good to know that I'm not alone in driving myself bonkers. You'd think i would know better, I do have a dd but i was pg with her 6 years ago and do not remember feeling anywhere near as anxious about everything as I am this time!!! I know there is always something to worry about during pg (and indeed motherhood in general!)
am going to take advice and plan a good weekend and suddenly it will be monday.
Congrats to all who have had successful scans and good luck to others like me who are in waiting!!

First of all, I hope your scan goes well.

When I was waiting to have my dating scan I just couldn't believe that I was pregnant, and that everything could possibly OK. The night before I didn't sleep well, and I caught myself thinking, "When this is over and everything's fine, I'll be able to quit worrying!" But this is just the beginning -- you will worry about this little person for the rest of your life! But that's what having a baby means.

Good luck!

Hi all again,

I said I would update - the scan all went well (despite a 2 hour wait for the sonographer!) so I can move onto worrying about the next one!

I am very relieved! Good luck anyone else.

Yay!! Now try and relax! That's an order!!!

A 2 hour wait!!!!

That is great to hear it went well Flintski, I am also very anxious about mine, 2 weeks to go still! Did you get your blood results back too or do you have to wait?

I have been told that I will have to wait a week or so! Really want to know on the day.

I'm 5 weeks and found out on Monday that I was pregnant. So have 7 weeks to go before scan. This baby is so wanted that I'm convinced it's a phantom pregnancy and that when I go for the scan they'll be nothing there! It's so frustrating that sometimes the only sign you are pregnant is a positive test. I think I have other signs but it's still early days and I'm not sure if it's just my imagination!