Not really pregnancy related but i'm feeling really down today.

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I'm 30 weeks pregnant and can't seem to shift this mood.

I'm at sahm and recently (well 6 months ago) gave up my career to be a sahm. Before that my lo was in full time nursery and althought she loved it i felt i didn't see her enough. Anyway i have since given up my job and moved to the county (cheaper area to live lol) with my dh. He has long hours and we see him for about 1hr at night if we are lucky.

I feel so alone here right now and think i have made a massive mistake by giving up work and leaving all my friends behind. I have made new friends but they are not the same as my old friends.

I miss my work, my social life and worst of all i suddenly feel like i'm not doing that great as a sahm so feel like i'm failing my daughter too and now i'm going to have another baby and i'm not sure i can cope with it.

Feel free to tell me i should be grateful for what i have - i would have said the same 6 months ago but i really can't seem to shake this feeling right now.

I think I would feel exactly the same in your shoes. How far is your new home from the old one? Do you keep in contact with your old friends? New friends are nice, but aren't interchangeable with old ones.

Giving up work does feel isolating, suddenly your world gets really small and seems unimportant.

Not too much advice, except that looking forward to the baby being here and being a lot busier might help? I am failing to take my own advice at the moment and am bored to tears staying at home at the moment. I have everything crossed that once the baby's born it will all turn itself around, so let's hope that's true for both of us.

Chin up hopefully it is a minor wobble but if not sure you'll have opportunity to meet some more potential new friends through new baby's arrival and all the appt/clinics/meetings that seem to go with it!

Talk to your DH and let him know how you are feeling.
Sorry not much useful advice but didn't want to read and run. It's a huge change in your life, it is bound to take time to adjust so don't beat yourself up about it and there is always an alternative - you just have to find it! X

I can definitely sympathise. I am 14wks, have a DS (4) - I'm not working, and now there's no possibility of that happening, I just feel really bored and frustrated. I feel like I'm just sitting around waiting for baby to arrive, and in the mean-time being a not-very-good-mum to the one i've got! No useful advice to offer I'm afraid - but heartfelt empathy.

Thanks ladies

Well i spoke to my dh last night and it was good to get things off my chest. I am really hormonal at the moment and very emotional so i don't think thats helping.

Its a 4 hour drive to home so although i have ket in touch with friends its not easy to meet them that often.

We have agreed that once the baby is born i will look for a job. Just something to get out the house and give me a little extra money to spend on myself. Dh is also saying i should go away for a weekend on my own back home before baby arrives so i think i will do that too - all in all i'm feeling more positive today only another 10 weeks til i meet my baby and things can get back to normal (well as normal as things will be with 2 los)

Thanks again for replying it meant a lot x