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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Bump or baby? Which is harder, out of interest....

23 replies

MummyElk · 10/03/2010 19:46

Am 39 wks pg with DC2, my DD is 2yo and, well, she's 2! it's fun!!

The reason i'm asking, is I've had a COMPLETELY mixed bag of comments over the last few days of people either saying
"oh my god it's so much easier once the baby is out, it's hard work being pg with toddlers"
OR
"oh my god i'm so tired i didn't realise how tiring it is with a newborn and a toddler"

WDYT?! I don't mind either way (it's not like I can change anything as it is!!) but I'm interested to know people's views really.....

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WillowM2B · 10/03/2010 22:52

I am really, really, really crap at pregnancy and would much prefer a houseful of newborns and toddlers than being pregnant. (Actually, I should really have been a cat breeder)

(I am a miserable cow at the moment though suffering badly with SPD only just over half way through Aargh!)

LaDiDaDi · 10/03/2010 22:53

Dd was 3.7 when ds arrived and I much preferred a newborn and a toddler to a toddler and pregnancy.

minxofmancunia · 10/03/2010 23:06

I hate hate hate being pregnant. I found it easier with newborn and dd (then just 3) than going through the whole of the terrible 2s whilst pregnant.

BellasYummyMummy · 11/03/2010 07:35

i have been thinking this too... baby2 5 days overdue now and my DD is 21 months. I think it will be a lot easier once baby is here, i will be able to bend over again and pick up DD! and give her proper cuddles which i have missed. And also just be able to do stuff without feeling like i am going to collapse from physical exhaustion! (i know i will be exhausted from newborn but it will be different).

FatSeal · 11/03/2010 11:27

I didn't already have a toddler, but remember well that I was most truly shattered and exhausted when pg, and after she was born was never quite so tired again. I think that although you only get snatches of sleep with a newborn, it is good quality sleep, as opposed to a whole night of trying to turn over, having nightmares, burping up acid and getting up to pee.

susiey · 11/03/2010 11:53

my dd was 2.3 when my son was born and its was definitley easier once the babies out
just walking anywhere becomes easier .I remember walking down the road baby in the sling dd in her pushchair and realising I was so much more comfortable than when I was pregnant

also you can seperate yourself from the newborn to a certain extent rather than working round them all the time.you can put a newborn down to sleep in a moses basket and walk away but can't do that when you're pregnant

Morloth · 11/03/2010 13:28

Definitely prefer baby to bump. At least you can put them down sometimes AND take a deep breath AND walk at a proper pace!

RunningGuerita · 11/03/2010 13:41

I'll tell you at the risk of embarassing myself completely, but hopefully giving you a laugh: When I read the title of the thread I thought you were asking which was harder (as in a rigid surface) the bit of the bump with the fluid or the bit with the baby.

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RoseBlossoms · 11/03/2010 13:47

Sorry to go against the grain here but having a newborn(dd 4 weeks) and toddler(ds 2 years) the the hardest thing i have ever done. And i had a shite pregnancy.

Get lots of help in the early weeks you'll need it!

Good luck

BadGardener · 11/03/2010 13:49

baby all the way, but then I have shit pregnancies

mnistooaddictive · 11/03/2010 13:53

For me the last 2 weeks of second pregnancy were the worst. Once the baby arrives at least you feel you are working towards getting a decent nights sleep again. Also people are very helpful after the baby is born but before you are on your own! Mine are 20 months apart so DD1 still needed to be carried down stairs etc and doing this when heavily pregnant was awful.

Lotkinsgonecurly · 11/03/2010 13:55

Babies all the way for me too. I really dislike the pg part and I don't do it well. But once the babies are out, feel so much better and able to sleep.

StepSideways · 11/03/2010 13:57

I can only speak from second hand experience, but DW seemed consisently happier during the 9 months PG than at any other time I've known her, the two months since seem much harder and less 'happy', though of course she's delighted with DS's arrival.

I would guess it's different for different people, even 1 week before arrival we where going out for nice walks and having a great time, so for us during PG was easier.

foxyjbro99 · 11/03/2010 19:27

babies r easier!!!!!!!!

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MummyElk · 12/03/2010 14:18

LOL runningguerita love it!!

thanks for all the responses!! Still awaiting the bump to become the baby so can't comment other than to say it's definitely getting harder to carry DD around by the hour!!

i do see where people are coming from though - the whole Putting Baby Down thing does sound lovely... if only i could unhook the bump!

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peppapighastakenovermylife · 12/03/2010 14:31

Babies are definitely easier! Even when you havent had more than 30 minutes sleep in a row for months it is nothing like the exhaustion of pregnancy.

DarrellRivers · 12/03/2010 14:35

Babies easier
At least you can move quickly when not pregnant
And you don't ache

mixedmamameansbusiness · 12/03/2010 16:02

Definitely once the baby is out easier for me... a different type of difficult but at least if I did ever get a few minutes or DH was around I could go to sleep and snooze or relax in a bath when pregnant even if i did get a min to just relax and regroup pregnancy just made it uncomfrtable. Good luck.

I have 2 years between my two boys and you have plenty of fun on the way but it is lovely and would have it no other way.

PanicMode · 12/03/2010 18:47

I had 15 months between my first two - and baby and toddler was MUCH easier - but DC2 was an 'easy' baby - slept loads, very contented etc. If I'd had them the other way around, then perhaps my answer would be different!

pregnochicklol · 12/03/2010 19:03

I rememberwishing dear child was back inside my tummy at times after he was born, as then at least I couldn't hear him cry!

I am thoroughly enjoyin glazying around and giving 3yoDS all my attention right now.
I think it will be hard in 4 weeks when DS2 is born.
Onky difference is that I may be able to stay on my feet longer.

pamelat · 12/03/2010 22:58

I am 31 weeks preg with DS and have a 26 month old DD and really struggling but terrified also of having a baby and a toddler.

I ache, I am tired and I am emotional. However, I can get an almost full nights sleep.

DD was a very high maintenance baby and didnt really sleep for 4 months, really dont feel that I can do that again with this baby and look after toddler in the day, but part of me just "knows" or rather hopes that he will be more relaxed than DD was. DD did have reflux which complicated matters.

I am hoping that after the first 3 months it will all be ok its easy to say that now sat in bed knowing I wont have to wake up until at least 7am . In 8 weeks that wont be the case.

gaelicsheep · 12/03/2010 23:04

Both hard for very different reasons I reckon. I'm hoping the first one, but I suspect the second.

BusyMissIzzy · 13/03/2010 12:27

I think it depends on the bump, and on the baby. In late pregnancy I had awful heartburn, was generally really uncomfortable, couldn't sleep more than an hour at a time without needing the loo, etc (morning sickness wasn't too bad though, obviously for some people that's a nightmare too). Now have 6 day old baby who usually (so far, touch wood) sleeps 4 hours at a time after changing and feeding. I may be getting less sleep overall but it's much better quality sleep, and I'm sooo much more comfortable. So I'd say I'm having an easier time with the baby, but then it's still early days..

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