Should we have a baby?

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Ok ok ok... I know many of you will be getting ready to tell me that only we can decide, but it would be nice to know what you think anyway!

I am 24 and have been with my DH for 5 years now. He is 10 years older than me and we have a fantastic relationship. I am finishing my MA in the summer and have never worked before. DH has a very good job.

I have been thinking about having a baby for a while now and in the last few weeks spent hours surfing mumsnet ! DH would also like a baby, all his friends are having babies now. He does not pressure me, but I know he is keen.

I don't know whether it's too early, whether I should experience working before, whether I'm going crazy...

None of my friends are thinking about babies. Most of them have never even had a serious relationship. Some of them have never even had sex!!!

Anyway... let me know what you think!

Thanks!!!

Degrees are not just routes to jobs (if the non-vocational ones ever really were), I believe that very strongly. You would not in the least be "wasting" your education should you decide to have children. In fact, it will be of benefit. I have never "used" my degree in the sense of getting a job precisely based on it, but I have used the skills I gained from it.

Had my circumstances been right, I would have loved to have had my first baby by 25 because I would like eventually to have four children. Ever since I was little, I knew I had wanted to be a wife and mother, and every annoying admin job I had to take after uni was just so much treading water until that time came.

If you and your partner really feel ready (and it sounds to me as if you do), then I would go for it. Especially as falling pregnant can often get harder the older you get. You wouldn't want to leave it a few years and then find that you couldn't, having wanted it so badly in the first place.

Wishing you lots of luck in your decision making!

Hey there, I am 22 and DH and I are having our first baby. I'm sure a lot of people would consider that too young, but to be honest we've been together for over 2 years now, we've seen a hell of a lot of the world together and we've both got well paid jobs... at the end of the day, you sound pretty switched on and honestly, work isn't the be all and end all (at least not to me). I work in engineering and to be honest, it pays the bills although I'm lucky to not mind the job in many ways. In your twenties you've got masses of energy to help you along a bit and there's nothing to stop you having a good job as well. What about working from home? Or setting up your own business? There are a ton of options out there for work if you look for them in the right places.