Why are people so mean and bloody nosy?

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I just have to vent!!

I'm sure I'm not the only person fed up with complete strangers talking to me about my pregnancy. I'm 27 weeks and can't hide it any more!

On a flight home from Morocco yesterday, really tired and wanting some peace and quiet, the man next to me tried to engage me in conversation about my bump. Rude, I know, but I just put my earphones in and ignored him. I just didn't want another stranger to tell me what they thought about my body. a) it's none of their business, b) I'm not really interested in their opinion that I look like I'm more six months gone and c) no it's not twins. I'd put up with it a lot that day and it was just the final straw.

But he turned round to the women behind me who kept up a chorus through the three hour flight about how I shouldn't be allowed out of the house, and how I was acting as if nobody apart from me had ever been pregnant before. Honestly, I just wanted a bit of peace and quiet and didn't want a conversation with someone I didn't know about my personal gynaecological matters. They got really spiteful at one point and my bf turned round to ask them to be quiet, at which point they wouldn't look him in the eye and pretended they weren't saying anything.

I had had a really nice holiday up to that point, and now feel like they spoilt it for me. I don't see why my body has anything to do with complete strangers and I don't know why it made them get so spiteful about me.

Anyone got any tips on deflecting those nosey conversations? A quick one-liner would be really helpful for next time!

Thanks!

Sprogger - you got seats on busses and trains in London when pregnant!? Is this a different London to the one I know!? I've actually been sick and fainted on the tube and still not been offered a seat - I thought Londoners had a sort of pregnancy blindness that means they can't see pregnant women.

People have been extraordinarily kind to me in London (people standing on buses/tube, bus drivers lowering the kneeling buses, people in front of me for taxis asking if I would like to go first) since I have become obviously pregnant.

One lady even spotted me stopped outside her cafe where I had put my shopping down to flag down a cab. She came outside to check I was OK and offered to call me one then got me to sit at an outdoor table and went a got me a drink (for free) while we waited for it. All the while nattering on about pregnancy and babies and how hard it can be and how she had grandchildren.

I hear about these horrible Londoners but have yet to encounter any. You get back what you put out.

Yeah, I was about to say, I have never been offered a seat on the train or tube, and I have a 2 hours each way daily commute so could really do with it on occasion. (But granted, I am too shy to ask so have just sat on the floor, so my fault really).

I totally get where the OP is coming from. It is another version of people wanting to touch you and stroke you.