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"overdue" on dodgy dates?

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jamsandwich · 09/03/2010 11:27

My 12 week scan date came out 9 days earlier than my dates based on LMP/ OPK result and I have been getting more and more depressed as I got nowhere in convincing maternity service to stick with my own date. I went to 40+14 last time, before having induction and was made to feel very guilty/ selfish/ irresponsible for doing this. It was a grim experience that I didn't want to repeat.

But just for the benefit of anyone else out there currently worried about going "overdue" using dodgy scan dates - there is hope!

My midwife has been very supportive, and has discussed my case with two immediate line managers, both of whom said variants on "no, we have to stick with the scan date" and that I could only negotiate over the date "if" I go overdue (pretty bloody likely given my history and the 9 day discrepancy). Then it was meant to be up to me to write to the Head of Midwifery to beg for clemency. I kept trying to write the letter, giving up as it felt hopeless etc.

Then today, got a call from the Head honcho saying my miwife has spoken to her on my behalf, she has now spoken to a Consultant Obs and they have agreed to go by my date. Just like that - no sweat needed from me, no intimate details required. But she said she appreciated that I had kept good records and there is "no point us being in a battle over this!"

Can't believe it. So anyone out there in the same position, don't give up and just take it to the top! Yay, women know their bodies best!

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TaurielTest · 09/03/2010 12:09

Glad to hear it, yay for your midwife and for you for pursuing it. This stuff matters, especially since protocols about low-risk vs high-risk (for home births, water births, birth centres, induction etc. etc.) are tied so closely to them.

missedith01 · 09/03/2010 12:26

Surely the bottom line is that you don't have to have an induction if you don't want one? How were they going to make you?

Good for you for sticking to your guns.

jamsandwich · 09/03/2010 12:51

No of course you're right, they can't force you and I am usually Mrs Assertive.

But when you're desperate to get the baby out, friends are bothering you daily about whether you've burst yet and professionals are basically bullying you to have intervention, it's not easy to stay your level-headed self! If I hadn't got my EDD changed, I'd have been requesting to go to 40+23 (+14 by my dates, mind) and I don't think many professionals would have been able to resist a spot of guilt-tripping.

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jamsandwich · 09/03/2010 20:57

Bumping (pardon the pun) in case there's someone else this could help!?

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