Third baby shock

[mumofE]

Hi All
I've just found out I'm pg with my third. It was a complete accident. We thought we might have another child after a couple more years but now we are expecting him/her much sooner! My older 2 are nearly 5 and 16 months. I'm in quite a bit of shock and have sort of retreated from the world. Can't answer the phone, don't want to talk to anyone about it really. I'm just not sure how I'll cope with 3 especially as the youngest won't even be 2. On top of this, I'm just feeling shattered, and quesy ALL the time. Help!

Deeeeeeeeep breaths. There you go.

You will be fine. 5yo will be in school, and after a few months youngest two will entertain each other. You'll love it when it happens, and think afterwards that you wouldn't have had it any differently.

CONGRATULATIONS!

For a second there I thought you meant you had one of 5 months and one of 16 months then I was a bit for you lol!

I am also pregnant with my third my first is also 5 years and my second is 20 months will be 2 yrs 5 months when this one comes! I too have a slight panic now and again thing oh god what have I done. but we will be fine it may even be a bit easier as the older one will help out and you wont have to drag him anywhere because he is too bug for a buggy but too small to walk distances at least you can through the baby and toddler into a buggy without much trouble.

It will be fun I promise

There are an awful lot of contraception failures around. I wonder if it is time for some reassessing.

3 is mad but it will be fine and having them close together will probably help when they are a bit older.

Should say my 3rd was planned I like a challenge!

Third babies are the best. Mine (planned) has just turned three and has been the easiest child in the universe. I have a few friends with three and they all think the same. Good luck and congratulations.

Congratulations

I had a totally unexpected 3rd (mirena failure) who is now 6 - when she was born dd1 was 3y10m and ds 22m. It was hectic, especially as I was pretty ill due to the pregnancy, but I LOVE being a mum of 3 and it is brilliant now they are 6, 8, 10.

3rd time round was easy - had all the gear, all the clothes, even the nappies as am was cloth user. Dd2 just slipped into the family and was pretty much no bother. Bf her for 2 years, BLW, co-sleeping - all the easy options! And she is the easiest, most laid back child (except when you deny her chocolate!), eats well, sleeps well, is sassy and bright and fun and exceptionally articulate!

Have fun - it will be great, really!

Thanks for all your messages! I think part of it is that DS2 is just so hectic at the mo, and so grumpy. Everything turns to a tantrum. How will he be when he's upstaged by another little one?!
My Dh has been taking zinc recently for his immune system and I know a freind had said something about it being good for fertility. Well it seems it may be!
Fingers crossed for a girl this time!

I understand a bit of how you are feeling - we had a TOTAL shock number 4 conception - I was in total shock (had actual hysterics when I found out), and couldn't stop crying for weeks. In fact, I have had several months of counselling about it as I was adamant that after 3, we were done.

My number 3 will have JUST turned 2 by the time this one is born (in about 8 weeks time) and I'm now starting to get a bit excited. I have found having three really easy - for me it was a much easier transition than from 1-2, or even 0-1 , as he's had to just slot into the family and has been very easy.

Good luck, and take some time for it to sink in!

MumofE you sound scary like me! My DS2 is also a nightmare into everything, seems to not know damager, always making a mess, hits his big brother and throws himself to the ground if I try and tell him no!

I am hoping its the terrible two's a tad early so he will be ok by the time the next one comes!

When are you due I am October and am also hoping for a little girl

I felt the same when I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd there will be 22 months between them when the baby comes, it has been hard as I get spd and have anaemia and we got really upset when we found out, but some of the reasons for being upset have gone like we moved to a bigger house, and are nearer everything in our new area, and now we are kind of looking forward to meeting him, knowing he will be as sweet as our other 2, I am worried about jealousy as dd does not like anyone else to even touch me or me to even touch my ds1 at all even if I put my hand on his shoulder she gets mad, but she will have to get over it I guess lol, I think you will feel better, I had nausea at first too and it makes everything seem about 100 times worse

Oh good people in the same boat as me! Although I am envious Jennylee as would love to move to bigger house but can just about afford the one we have . I am worried about all the things you and MumofE are worried about so at least we are not alone. Still pretty much in denial and have convinced myself that my lack of symptoms means something is wrong. I told my husband last night that if I could just have a quick peek now I would probably feel all the better, cos once you see the heartbeat then you know its a baby in there and not an alien trying to destroy life as you know it. I really am willing myself to think happy thoughts but its hard and the 12 weeks scan is a life time away. Plus I know when we start telling our friends and family they'll all think we are nuts, and thats just going to add to my growing paranoia and insecurity . However I do know that once you have babe in arms its a whole other story .

I'm pg with #3, my dd is 3, and my ds is 12 months, so I'm feeling anxious to say the least about how I'll manage. I'm 13weeks now, and tbh the most difficult thing at the moment is coping with the tiredness. I keep telling myself it will be hard when the sleepless nights and nappy changing etc hits, but it doesn't last long, then the younger two will be really close in age and might occupy themselves while I lie down for a few years to recover!!! Read on here that people adapt to the situations they find themselves in remarkably easily, and I can't imagine down the line when the three dc's are all here that you'd regret having the last one. Good luck though, I know it is intimidating!

Congratulations! Three are great. I have found this time round easier by far.

the scans make it a lot easier, my last one at 29 weeks to check his growth, he looked a bit rounded like a baby not just a scan photo and that made me feel better to think of it as a baby instead of an ordeal, I still get bad days but think its the spd and feeling tired mroe than the baby utself, one thing I notice though - I'm so over baby stuff it does not excite me at all, and I used to love all the stuff and catalogues and getting new prams, now its like great mroe stuff to find space for I am very worried about having the baby in hospital and leaving dd1 with anyone as she has not been left with anyone and is clingy, I really want a homebirth but appreciate that might not happen or if it does she still might have to go to other relatives for a period of time a bit in denial about that.