14 Months old still not speeping through.

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14 month old can not get sleepy til 9 and then wakes at midnight and 5. Some nights he can go through from 10 til 4-5 but not very often.
When he falls asleep we put him upstairs which is not too good. We tried the laying him down in his cot a few night for hours on end but still no joy. He hets one sleep during the day about half an hour but can still be up til 9 before he gets sleepy. Any ideas or anyone going through the same????

My nearly 16 month old is not sleeping through either. Usually he wakes up at about 11-12am at which point I bring him into our bed (we love co-sleeping so has been carrying on till now), and normally he'd sleep through till about 6.30 but occassionally wakes up about once btw 12-6.30.

He also goes through phases of waking up loads, 3/4 times throughout the night. These phases last for a few days, prob growth spurt, teething etc etc.

I have no advice, but as I'm currently PG with number 2 I will be trying to get him to sleep through on his own in his own cot. It's going to be a hell of a task Im' sure!

First of all, I know this is difficult for you but don't believe all the nonsense about everybody else's baby sleeping through from 6 weeks or whatever and beat yourself up about it. 50% of children under 3 do not sleep through.

Secondly, I would heartily recommend Elizabeth Pantley's No-Cry Sleep Solution. It is an utterly brilliant book with lots of different approaches depending on whether you co-sleep, breastfeed or bottlefeed. I found it very useful indeed and it is reasonably priced too.

the sears book is fabulous on toddler sleep

very gentle and lots of good, practical advice without CC or CIO

I meant that the situation was difficult, btw, I hope I didn't come across as patronising!

I have 3 children age 3/6/9 years. I was up 3 times last night to take them to loo, becuase they were shouting etc. Often one comes into our room in the night with a nightmare. They get ill. All normal part of parenthood. Don't get hung up on it unless it is a problem for your family.

you are not alone!

Agree with the advice- don't worry about it (unless it is really annoying you!). All children at some point start getting the hang of sleeping through. My 27mth old is still rubbish and often comes into bed with us (i dont mind though he is very lovely to cuddle!). My DS1 didnt sleep properly until he was 3- and then he just did. I didnt resort to any book/manual. He just learnt to settle himself.

Agree dont worry about it. My dd1 was over 4 before she first slept for over 9 hours. At 1 she was up most the night, by 2 was up about 15 times a night and gradually it got better. Now she is 8 we cant get her out of bed some mornings and she rarely wakes fully in the night (falls out of bed a lot! but sorts herself out). Dd2 was great but didnt get a full nights sleep until she was about 18months. Dd3 is now 4 and still up most nights. You adapt. They improve. Try not to stress too much. Although I can remember being stressed with it with dd1 so its easy to say ....