Help! People worrying me about my bump size....

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I am 31+5 and for the last few weeks I have had so many comments from people about my (in their opinion) small bump.

My measurements according to the midwife are fine, but I was measured the wrong height and weight at the Hospital at 12 weeks, so my growth chart curves are not right.

Feel a bit worried, as have had a real roller coaster ride getting (and staying) pregnant. Just want to cry when people say bump is small. I am a size 16, so not a small girl to start with!
Anybody else been in this situation, and should I just ignore the comments?
Help!
thanks

ignore it! people always, always comment, and trust me none of them say "wow, your bump looks jusst right!"

if the midwife is happy, then you should trust her, not what other people think. bump size varies so much.

I worked with someone who was pg at the same time as me when I had my first child. I was MASSIVE and everyone said i looked like i was having twins, she had a teeeeeny weeeny bump and looked about 6 months pregnant when she was term.

she went on to have a 10lb baby! where it came from i'll never know cos her bump really did look small lol
mine was 9lb 1, so a pound lighter but my bump was about twice the size.

so relax, it means nothing

Ignore ignore ignore. I've had 'Wow your bump is so big' and people saying 'wow your bump is tiny' in roughly equal measure. Honestly healthy bumps vary enormously in size, and nobody who isn't an expert will have the first clue what is right for you. Your midwife however is an expert and she isn't worried.

I got this all the time when pregnant with my second dd so I can sympathise with you. People can sometimes be tactless and they don't realise that we can then worry about comments. I went on to have a healthy 10lb, 6oz baby. Good luck and try not to worry.

People can be thinking they're complimenting you by saying you're small.
My friend has a lovely small round 'all baby' bump, i'm jealous :-p

My bump is all wide and I just look fat.

If midwife says you're measuring okay then you're fine!
Even if you're not measuring okay you can still be fine, my midwife measured me as 25 weeks when i was 32, i was rushed in for a growth scan and turned out baby was size of 35 week old.
Depends on all sorts, how much anmeotic fluid you have, position of baby, how big placenta is even (they can vary from 1lb to 3lb at delivery if i remember rightly, and of course how much fat you have.
People cannot necessarily judge size of your baby by size of your belly.

Thanks ladies, will try and suppress the 'extra worry' pregnant hormones going round my brain, and TRY and be rational!

Don't worry about it, everyone carries differently and it can vary enormously between pregnancies.

With my first I wasn't obviously pregnant until almost 35 weeks. With this one people have been stepping back in horror and saying "What?" from about 30 weeks the bump is so big.

As mummyof2 says bump size has no correlation to baby size. A friend of mine has whoppers, all 10lbs+ and she barely looks pregnant (on a small frame) until 30 weeks or so.

Oh God - I'm guilty of commenting on neat bumps. My bumps were all ginormahoosive and I was very envious of women who seem to stay more in proportion! The comments are bound to be meant as a compliment, but I can sympathise with your irritation/concern as I had it from the other perspective (My God you're HUUUUGE! How many babies do you have in there? etc).

I had people saying I must be having twins as my bump was so massive, first time round. It pissed me off so much. When I still had 12 weeks to go someone asked me how overdue I was

I had a friend who was due the same time as me and her bump was weeny - people would comment on that as well, and she would get quite upset.

IME people are very unthinking, and having a visible 'condition' like pregnancy very much makes you public property.

My advice is either to ignore them or to say something along the lines of 'thanks for pointing that out, I'm actually really sensitive about it so I'd rather you didn't remind me'. And maybe you'll have less stretch-marks/achey bump pains than us pregnant hippos?

Oh, just remembered another pregnancy highpoint! Once a freelance consultant was sent down to my office by my boss to gawp at my 'giant bump'. Charming!

Seems the stretch marks have still managed to make their presence felt! I'm sure purple and red suits me though!
This is good, definitely helping!
My SIL had the huge bump issue, we climbed up St Michaels Mount when she was six months pregnant, and the lady at the top practically had a fit, saying 'Don't go into labour here will you!' Gorgeous niece was 10lb 12oz though...

IGNORE them! I always get the "neat" comment - as though I've been keeping it tidy somehow. I was getting quite paranoid until I had a scan two weeks ago (am 38 weeks now) and they told me that she was roughly 7lbs - so the bump size has no relation to the size of the baby so please don't worry. We are just the lucky ones. Plus I think if its your first then you are normally smaller too. Also, some people bloat and retain water more - as long as your midwife isn't concerned then you don't need to be. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

As everyone has said... don't worry and ignore!! I was 'neat'. A phrase I hadn't heard before being pregnant.

I work in the catering industry so meet a lot of different people everyday. It made me feel public property everyday - as a lot of people commented. I wasn't worried though - my midwife wasn't - I'm not tall but not short either and I'm sure that makes a difference too. I was luckily very healthy and able to continue cycling everywhere til about 6 months and I worked until 2 weeks before I had DD by CS at 38+1 due to placenta praevia. She was absolutely beautifully perfect at 5 pounds 10 ounces. Had her weighed today at 11 weeks and is now 12 pounds!

My friend has 3 DC and said she was dramatically different sizes and shapes each time. Being the 'neatest' with her DS who was the 3rd child.

I've had the "what a lovely neat bump" and "are you sure there's only one in there" - on the same day. Ignore them. They're trying to be nice!