20 week scan today - yes or no to finding out the sex?

[NorkyButNice]

DH and I are in conflict over whether we should find out the sex of DC2 at the scan today - we did find out with DS but this time I'd like to wait till the birth to find out what we're having.

How did you decide if you and your partner didn't agree?

Have the suprise!

I am the Nosiest Person on Earth but I simply did not want to know the sex (luckily DP didn't mind not knowing either)

SO SO lovely at the birth when you find out... and DP said it was great breaking the news to everone and hearing their whoops of delight etc

I agree!

DH says he'll only have to think about one set of names if we find out (lazy sod)!

Don't find out!!!!

Gives you another shopping trip after lo arrives

I found out, and it was fab - DH and I had a private love-in moment, and have been happily discussing the fact that we are having a DD (we have a DS already). I like the fact that finding out is removed from the actual having a baby part - it means two very special moments, in my book. But entirely up to you. Hope the scan goes well

We knew for our first ds as i had problems in the pregnancy. And for ds2 we didnt, as the mother i feel its your right really if you want to wait, does your hubby have a really good reason to know. If not tell him to 'have a little patience' (remembering to sing that line in the take that tune

If either of you are really hoping for one sex or the other then find out, it will give you time to get over your disappointment if it isn't what you want.

If you're not bothered, genuinely, then wait and have a surprise.

We both wanted a surprise, first time and this time.

Cuold the sonographer whisper it to your OH? I know a few couples who did this.

Thinking of a name for both sexes is part of the fun! Then in years time you can say to a girl "If you were a boy you were going to be called ....." and they can say "Thank goodness I'm a girl then!" (I was going to be a Stuart)

Lol dibbydab, or should i say stuart

I would find out, would second what LittleOneMum said, gives you two special moments, and also gives you time to process the information, which I dont think you really do at the actual birth, HOWEVER, DH and I kept this totally to ourselves, and will never, ever tell anyone that we knew. I like a surprise when someone else has a baby, and didnt want to ruin the surprise for friends/family, but didnt want them to know that we knew, as that seemed a bit annoying (does that make any sense at all?)