anyone gone off sex totally?

[LoobyLou82]

anyone gone off sex totally? Third pregnancy and having sex about once a month! just dont want to do it, is that really bad? feeling huge this time, each preg my sex drive decreased. I can be horny but I dont really wanna have sex its uncomfortable etc. Im 24 weeks but look about 32 weeks gone.

Please let others feel the same?

Lou x

I'm the same - now 33 weeks and feeling very sorry for my husband. I just feel big, and can't get into a position where the baby doesn't feel as though he's totally in the way which isn't particularly conducive to feeling sexy!

I sympathise totally!

Yes and I'm not even pregnant!!!!!
Been like it for ten years

Well I seem to have just about got my desire for a s**g back after all the sickness and feeling like crap (16+3 now) but every time we've attempted it just isn't going very far, we're both (well I say both, me more than DH) far too tense about it when we start and then I want it to stop... I know it won't hurt the baby but can't really relax and enjoy!!! Plus previously favoured positions are already starting to feel uncomfortalbe so goodness knows what it'll be like at 33 weeks. tbh I'm not that bothered but looks like poor DH is in for a long dry 2010 between pregnancy and birth recovery!

Once a month?That's loads!I'm 28 weeks and have had sex twice this pregnancy.I just can't bear the thought of it.I was the same last time and wanted to have sex two weeks after my DD was born but I did have a C section!

Hahaha
Father of bump totally freaked out that something is watching or that the baby will arrive with a flat head from his efforts. Poor chap. I am trying to reassure him that sex is normal whilst not really interested myself but feeling that we "ought to" - i think we'd both be happier if someone said that it is actually OK to abstain for 9 months. Instead we are made to feel inadequate for not really being up for it.

Yep.Completely off the idea both times.
Only just started getting really interested again when TTC this time- unfortunately for DH fell pregnant first time!
So it's another barren couple of years dry patch for him, poor love.

I was about normal up until 35 weeks, now at 37 weeks. Bleugh. Just so heavy and unweildy.

However, DH is now happy because even though I am bleugh about it because I want to have sex to see if will hurry baby along. He will take what he can get ATM .

My sex drive actually increased, which i found bizarre because i thought i would be put off by having a big belly in the way! BUT then i hit about 31 weeks. Now the thought of having sex really puts me off and i dont even want to try. Think its gonna be a long wait for DP now...hehehe.

We've only had sex twice since I conceived on honeymoon!!! (and I confess to one of those times being a mercy shag for my husband, I wasn't too bothered really...)

Mine has gone from good to excelent, he touches my boobs and im his xx im 10wks pregnant with my 4th, took a gap of 13yrs from my youngest to this one, xx getting over the worse, and i have 4 wks of food to catch up on, the first couple of weeks, i just obliged and let him get it over and done with, and leave me alone to feel ill in my little corner. xx i love him loads and really kind, i say i dont feel well and he will do housework, (well dishes,)I had sex with my youngest, and started my labour.

Hell yes! Am 19 weeks and DH just "got some" for the first time last week. It was 5 am and when I felt the hand sneaking across me, I told him, I'm not changing postion and DO NOT jiggle my tummy and he just took what he could get He'd be a very happy bunny with once a month at the moment! I was very relieved when over Xmas some of our friends shared their lack of sex during pg stories - made DH feel like part of a little gang of neglected husbands!

I'm still thinking about it but haven't had any sexual contact with dh since I found out I was pregnant. I couldn't think of anything worse at the moment. Dh worries that it will complicate things and as I can't even bend down and take my socks off without his assistance I don't think he views me as a desirable being at the moment!

thanks guys so glad im not alone.I could happily go to bed with a cuppa and watch tv. Im not too fussed. Last night we managed to do stuff, not full sex but at least i know thats me for a few weeks. It strange because if i do it often and by often i mean once a WEEK then i can get the urge for it but if i go weeks and weeks i just dont even think about it I have friends who are married who have sex 3/4 times a week as per normal but we are normally when not preg once a week or fortnight. This is my third baby so will have 3 under 3.5yrs. i think im trying my best. still worry my husband has to resort to a quick handshake but i dont like the thought of that. I often worry he may loose interest in me.

Aussieng LOL at the "I'm not changing position" etc.

Exactly how I am at the moment, I don't mind having a quick shag just so long as I don't actually have to do anything ATM.

me too, have had one shag in 13 weeks. DP is, err, looking after himself...

Went off completely for the whole of my previous pregnancy and beyond (I had been cut three times and was paranoid about it hurting). Took me a good few months after the birth to even think about it, frankly.