Fear of miscarriage?

[misswinters]

Hi..
Um.. i'm slightly nervous of posting.

I'm currently 3 months pregnant, and feeling in good health except for morning sickness. My only problem is.. I miscarriaged our first child at around the same time last year, and am now terrified of doing the same again. My fiance is being so supportive, but I don't know.. I wanted to know if any other mums have had similar fears.

Thanks
misswinters

Congratulations on your pregnancy. It is perfectly normal to worry about miscarriage. It is even more normal to worry about it if you have had it happen in the past.

I am currently pregnant 17weeks and even now I worry that something is going to go wrong. It does ease though.

Try to relax. What you are feeling is normal.

I miscarried much earlier than you but was very anxious to get beyond that date so I know what you mean. The chances of it happening to you again are very minute. Sadly once you have a miscarriage I don't think you every truly relax in pregnancy. I had a little boy after my miscarriage and am currently 32 weeks pregnant with my second and I still worry.

I know just how you feel. I had a mc at 10wks a year ago and am now almost 8 wks, and completely terrified. Have you seen a heartbeat on a scan? Did you see a heartbeat last time before you mc'd? The reason I ask is that if you have seen the hb this time, then now at 12 wks there's only a miniscule chance of mc, according to the Miscarriage Association. I know it won't stop you worrying - but for me it helps to tell myself the statistics are on my side.

Best of luck

misswinters I'm in almost exactly the same boat. I had my first mc almost exactly 3 years ago, and am nearly 10 weeks pregnant. I'm probably driving everyone on the September thread mad with questions about the smallest thing because like you I am so nervous and can't quite believe I'm a)pregnant again and b)still pregnant. Have received a lot of support and feedback - new to mumsnet and have to say it's amazing - and realising that it's totally normal to feel this way. Congratulations ! It's sometime hard to feel those congratulations though, I find, because if you've mc'd you are acutely aware of what can go wrong, more so than of what can go right. I think Chynah makes a good point - I'm not sure we'll ever fully relax until we have our baby in our arms. But I'm sure we'll get there.

Is this your first child?

I miscarried at 10 wks last Jan and am now currently 37 wks with my 3rd pregnancy. I can really relate to your feelings. In the first few weeks of this pregnancy I was a nervous wreck & while it was great to get past the 10 wk stage it took me much much longer to accept that the baby seemed to be ok. It was at about 30 wks that I started to feel maybe this really is going to happen.

As Ladyrabbit said, we probably won't fully relax until we have our babies in our arms.

Fingers crossed for you x

Thanks for the replies everyone

Ladyrabbit - yes, this is my first child. I'm excited, but still very scared.

It's helping having my fiance here, last time he was away when I mc'ed. He's been talking sense into me for the past couple of months.

And I completely agree.. until our babies are in our arms, it's very difficult not to have that fear.