surprise pregnancy- up and down!

[dappymoo]

Hi,
Got a BFP the day before yesterday after doing a test "just to put my mind at rest that I wasn't pregnant"!!
Got two more positives and now bricking it! My man and I are a bit shocked and have only just moved house, have a trip to Vietnam in two months, and supposedly our wedding in August!!

I feel totally in limbo. Hoping to get an appointment at docs early next week to find out if I definitely am, and I have no idea how far gone I could be either, as I have been irregular since coming off and going back on the pill in the last few months. Basically I finished the pill as normal 3 weeks ago but never came on, and have massively sore boobs and cramping pains (I REALLY thought I'd have my period any day!)

Also paranoid about damage I could have done if I was pregnant while on the pill, and I was drinking like a fish as I had no idea! Feel so guilty!

PLUS I feel like I can't talk to anyone as it's such a tricky time up til 12 weeks (whenever that is!!) My boyfriend is being lovely and saying try to relax but I think he's as bewildered as me...

I know I sound so stupid and clueless, but one minute I feel all happy and mumsy, the next I feel totally irresponsible and alone...

Sorry for the ramble!! Advice much appreciated x

Ok first off, lets breathe.

Now, you've had a massive shock to the system and it's understandable that you're feeling all over the place.

If you didn't have a withdrawal bleed from your pill a couple of weeks ago then it could be likely that you concieved during that cycle. Plus, the symptons you describe are early pregnancy signs.

Did you go back on the pill at the end of your seven day break?

As to you doing any damage, discuss this with your Doc and he should be able to give you some reassurance. Just remember that lots of women have done the same as you whilst not knowing they've been pregnant and they've gone on to have perfectly healthy babies.

I know you say you feel alone, but there are lots of people around Mumsnet with whom you can share your troubles. I know that it can be a lonely time, but sites like this are very helpful as they'll be people on here who've been through similar situations to yourself.

As to the rest of your post, just take it one step at a time. Focus on going to the Doctors and then once you've dealt with that focus on the next situation.

Also, remember to take it easy on yourself.

hiya i've just had a massive shock too. i have a baby who is 7 1/2months and just got a faint positive test this morning, and this was while i'm on the Pill. as i never had a withdrawl bleed on my pill free days i went to docs last week who told me not to take the pill until period started but he reassured me that even if i was on the pill and pregnant it wouldn't really cause any damage to the baby. i have also been drinking like a fish so now i'm worried about what alcohol damage i've done, but after doing some research i think the damage would be minimal again. one min i'm very happy then next i'm very worried as DH and i are hard pushed for money as it is so how much worse is it going to be with 2 babies?

anyho reason for telling you this is i'm in the same boat, i know how you feel and if you want to talk you know where to find me...lurking on these chat boards

Hello! Thanks for replying, I'm now about 4 weeks late so I didn't start the pill again just in case Hermya, and thanks for advice, I'm trying to get an appointment today to check for sure.

Lauraloo I'm definitely with you on being happy one minute and very worried the next! Even though it's unexpected and we're worried about money etc, I'm still really worried that something could go wrong. In a way I just want the next few weeks to be over so I can be defo pregnant or defo not!

I am eating like an absolute pig too now, I don't know if it's sickness or just worry but as long as I'm eating I don't feel like I have some weird hangover!
How are you feeling now Lauraloo?

Ah man! Just been to the docs and it was sooo uneventful, no clearer on anything really... I guess this limbo is kind of normal for the first few months.
He guesstimated I'm about 4 weeks, but who knows! I actually can't remember having a period since december...! But then have only had symptoms last few weeks..

Ah well it's the waiting game, maybe I'm better off trying to forget about it a bit for now...! But it's hard!!!