Is it normal to go off your partner when pregnant?

[LeeKerry]

This is my first thread and post and I'm loving this site!!
But I really need some advice, or just some general "It's okay, that's normal and your not just a total cowbag" sort of thing
I'm 12 and a half weeks pregnant with my third...my youngest is 8. It's my partners first though and our relationship is only a year in, we are getting married 6th March and he's very happy and over the moon about being a husband and father etc. He's very loving but he's doing me head in! Since about week 5 or 6 his affections and general niceness grates on me and I wish he'd go away! I feel just awful saying it but I daren't say it to anyone else because we are getting married in few weeks, having a baby and should be "in love" and all that sopey crap! Sorry that's how I feel about it, I do not feel at all in love, just generaly crap. I just simply don't want his attention or love, which I know is ridiculous because who wouldn't?! He does nothing really wrong either, he is this nicest and most caring man I've ever met! Will do anything for me ...oh except leave me alone or stop loving me so damn much! Oh I'm so awful! I keep reminding myself it's just hormones and it will pass but I can't stand it...he's always there, I just so want my own space, my own bed, my own house! What's wrong with me?! It's really getting me down, i don't know how to deal with it...I hate it when I can see him coming for a hug or a kiss, and have to fight the urge to say "please don't" .. My heightened sense of smell doesn't help, and for some reason it's his smell that I hate the most, why? He has to use cream for his eczema, but the smell is horrible (how mean is that, I just want to not smell everything! I mean it's cream, it's not fragranced!) ..sometimes I can smell his breath so strongly it makes me recoil, I've tried to tell him as politely as I can but he's offended (naturally) and says he cant help it, but I don't know what I can do to stop smelling him! I'm aware that I am a terrible mooody so-and-so and that I'm easily annoyed and agitated and so very very tired all the time, but it doesn't help when I feel so negatively towards the man I love. I'm so worried too and I upset at the thought I might not feel the way I'm supposed to on our wedding day because of my stupid hormones/mnoodiness
Sorry for the rant, I just don't know where to turn or what (if anything) I can do...

OMG!! i'm so glad im not the only one who feels like this,i thought i was going mental!!

I felt exactly the same way about my partner early on. We hadn't been together that long and I fell pregnant unexpectedly. TBH, I think I just got scared! I knew I was "stuck" with this one as we were having a baby together and I got commitment-phobic! Now I am 30+2 weeks and now I getting more "nesty" I love the fact that he is a lovely guy and I love him full stop.

Don't forget your hormones are all over the place! I felt like I had permanent PMT for teh first trimester and EVERYONE did my head in!

hello well, I'm 10weeks pregnant with my first baby & I can totally relate to everything you guys say...
I can't stand him breathing on me in bed & i get so (angry)ANGRY when I have to turn around.
He sweats in bed sometimes (sad)& all i can smell is that, it makes me sick!

I was so in love with him before i fell pregnant & now i can't stand him most times, ITS CRAZY. I hope this phase passes soon because he gets a little upset.

I really hate it when he eats & leaves his plates etc on the coffee table for me to clean up.... why are men so lazy most times?? Shouldn't they be helping us with the house work now more than ever because we are pregnant instead of making more work for us??

I must say he did the dishes this morning (without been asked) before work.. ha ha ha .. YEPEE..

All the best with the pregnancy's ladies

So glad i read this, you all made me laugh and now I feel totally normal that its 3am and i'm up because OH was breathing on me.... I'm not psycho-woman after all :)

I get a very oversensitive sense of smell when pregnant. I currently cannot stand the smell of DH's aftershave or deoderant. I am up now because I am finding the smell of him on our bedsheets so irritating. I have started spending the odd night in a guest room

oh this has made me giggle. I seem to go thru stages but luckily he is understanding and knows its my hormones.

the breath thing!!! oh please dont breathe on me!!! I cant even kiss sometimes, its like a need a breeze in my face or a want to puke.

my friend suggested why dont we do it doggy with my head out the window i guess it would solve a few probelms!!

Hi there this is my first time replying to anything on this site but I had to register and write back to your post. It made me laugh so much I have been feeling exactly the same about everything my partner does and the smell off him makes me want to run a mile. He doesn't smell bad its no different than before I was pregnant its just me that's gone a bit mad. Also at first I was overly paranoid that he was cheating or sneaking about behind my back even although he wouldn't have the time or the brains to do so and get away with it, now I just think well if he is at least I won't have to put up with him anymore. I am so glad to hear someone else say all this , not that its a nice feeling to have about the person I was mad about before and know how confusing it is to think this way. We kept fighting recently and I wanted to punch him every time I looked at him, now he keeps being nice and telling me he loves me but I still want to punch him the poor guy cant win. I try to hide it all but sometimes I just shout it out luckily he's not offended easily n half the time thinks I'm joking.... I'm not!!!
I do believe now that its just hormones and this feeling will pass after having the baby, perhaps not straight away as this is my second and I know how emotional having a baby makes me, I was on my own last time through pregnancy and afterwards though so have nothing to compare with. I expect no miracles but am keeping my fingers crossed haha just need to bide my time and try to be nice.

I am also experiencing the same, I am 8 weeks and this last week his face just annoys me, I can't kiss him as I can smell his breath so much and then when he brushes his teeth the smell of the toothpaste makes me feel sick. Our sexlife is up in the air too.... It seems he just wants to 'sort himself' before I get in from work and although I'm not particularly in the mood I wanted to do it for him. His family are not excited at all and all of these little things make me doubt him!!! I was so in love 2 weeks ago and now it seems I can't stand him!!!

I haven't read the whole thread but in my first pregnancy my DH smelt of onions! It was disgusting and I thought I was gonna throw up every time he came near. After I'd given birth, the smell disappeared....I think its quite normal!

Reading this, and talking to friends has made me feel a lot better. I got married 4 months ago and been with my partner for 5 years. Im 12 weeks pregnant and he's driving me nuts-Im getting hugely irritated by stuff that used to bug me a bit. Its awful as he feels I regret the marriage and Im wondering the same! Its really good to know that hormones are likely the culprit and I havent just been in denial for 5 years. I do think it might help shift some things that could do with changing. A friend said she hated her husband the entire pregnancy!

Hi I'm hoping there's someone out there who's going to understand my situation and maybe give me some advice.
I've been with my boyfriend for less than 6 months, in this time I left my home and got a house with him and have fallen pregnant. This was not a planned pregnancy and I was actually on the pill... I also took an ellaone pill which had no affect.
I told my boyfriend straight away and he was over joyed with the thought of us having a baby. I felt really scared as this is something I have never ever wanted! He made me feel safe and supported to which I thought what right do I have to abort a child? As time has gone on I have realised it was all just the "honeymoon phase and I don't actually have any feelings for him. When he touches me, eats, moves or anything I just feel so repulsed... that sounds absolutely awful and I hate myself every second for feeling this way! He is an amazing guy and could not be faulted for all the things he has done! I really really don't want to go ahead with this pregnancy and I defiantly don't want to be with him but I hate the fact of aborting a baby and don't think I would forgive myself? He was so excited he told all of his family, so not only would he hate me, they would too! I'm 7 weeks and I just wish I could go back in time. I really do not love him but he's convinced he loves me... I'm worried the longer I leave this the more I will hurt him (which I really don't want to do) - he is completely against abortions and I'm unsure how he would react. I have confided in my mum who says she will support me no matter what and I should do what I thinks best... but that decision is hard when I don't even know myself, yet I'm racing against the clock as I'm already at 7 weeks. Please can anyone give me some advice on what I should do?

Hi emiliaangel

The situation you have written about is pretty much exactly my situation can you advise me of what you did in the end??

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First Post and a bit harsh so please don't eat me alive. Me getting pregnant with my partner happened very quickly (currently in my 1st trimester) , he loves me unconditionally, he would do anything and I mean anything for me but I just can not stand him. I know it might be hormones but I really don't think it is. We are so different which can be a good thing but in this case we are not. My priorities are baby and making sure I have a very bright future for both of us, his priority is getting a Nintendo switch so he can get more whatever they are OK pokemon go and go to the pub with his friends. He lack ambition and motivation not currently working but I know he will be a good dad. Would I be really selfish if I ended things (I always said a baby isn't a reason to stay with someone)

Deeply irritated by DH for most of this pregnancy. So much he does irrationally grates on me. What a silly response by the person who said it sounds like you’ve fallen out of love with him... nope just pregnancy hormones giving us the rage!!

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