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For those who've had MC - any point trying again before first af?

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yogamat · 09/02/2010 13:46

Am very keen to start trying again asap as bleeding has now stopped - natural mc at 6.5w.
Has anyone fallen pregnant straight after?
Everyone keeps telling me to wait for an af but I don't want to wait - I want to get on with it asap.
Any advice would be great!
x

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ShowOfHands · 09/02/2010 13:48

There's no reason not to try. The waiting for your period thing is just so you can date the pregnancy.

It's common not to ovulate in the cycle immediately following a mc but you might.

I got pg again straight away and have a dd to show for it.

I'm sorry for your mc.

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yogamat · 09/02/2010 13:54

Thanks Showofhands. I love positive stories!

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shhhh · 09/02/2010 14:21

no matter what we say you will do what you want .

I had 2 mc's before I got pregnant eventually with dd (now 4 and since joined by ds 3).
No matter what anyone saying about "oh it will happen" or "don't rush" or "don't start trying, have a break" I did what I wanted to...

Tok me around 6 months to get pregnant with each failed pregnancy and dd so I guess it didn't matter had I tried straight away or not iykwim.

Go for what you feel is best and good luck xx

peanutpie · 09/02/2010 14:25

I had a miscarriage in October and got pregnant again straight away. I had a natural miscarriage at 10 weeks and then ovulated about 3 weeks after the miscarriage.

In the past I've waited a while as I felt it was the right thing to do. However this time, getting straight on with it felt right.

roundabout1 · 09/02/2010 14:45

I had an early m/c & conceived straight after bleeding had stopped. Good job really as dp was away for a month after that & I was really impatient to get going again. My mw told me you can be very fertile straight after a m/c so if you are impatient I'd give it a go, you've nothing to loose after all x

goingforitagain · 09/02/2010 14:52

I had a mc at 8wks last july. had a D&C and was told to wait 3 cycles...... YEAH RIGHT!!!
not a hope in hell was I waiting. I figured if my body was ready to get pregnant again then it would...... and it did.
Got BFP 5wks later and am now 27wks with a little boy on the way. kicking me to bits as I sit here.
do what you feel is right for you? mostly its for dating purposes that they want you to wait but that can be determined at a scan.
also they say emotional purposes but only you can determine that.
for me the only way for me to get over it was to be pregnant as soon as possible again!
Good luck xx

somethinganything · 09/02/2010 15:04

I also had a natural miscarriage at 6.5 weeks, got pregnant straight way (no AF) and DD is now 25 months. I was warned to wait three months and I did have some v heavy bleeding in early pregnancy with DD, which added to my anxiety levels at bit and may have been linked to conceiving so quickly. But it was ok in the end. Best of luck whatever you decide to do - hope it happens as quickly as poss for you

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yogamat · 09/02/2010 17:13

Thanks so much ladies. After feeling really crap you have really cheered me up.
I am going to go for it.
Like some of you have said, the only way for me personally to get over this is to get pregnant again.
Goingforitagain - those kicks are just wonderful aren't they. Just wait till you get cuddles from your little bundle - it's just amazing.
That's why I'm so desperate to do it all again, and again!

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Summerhols · 09/02/2010 21:03

I had a MC on our honeymoon . But as we were on our hm we got down to business not really thinking about getting pregs again but to have a bit of fun . I am now pregs with our first and it is a honeymoon baby. So I say go for it, but perhaps check with GP just be sure?

Good luck sweetie

aquababe · 09/02/2010 21:13

After my first mc I felt that the only way to get over it was to get pregnant again so tried pretty much straight away. as i was ultra fertile i got pregnant but miscarried again. this really knocked me for six emotionally and so i waited the 3 months because i didn't feel like i could get over it again if i mc a third time. it then took a further 8 months to finally get pregnant with my ds. but i don't regret trying straight away after the first mc.

Do whats right for you? A doctor's medical opinion is just that 'an opinion'. No-one knows your body emotional strength better than you.

Ziggurat · 09/02/2010 21:13

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

I had my 2nd m/c at about 6 weeks, and then conceived DS1 that very cycle. He is now a year old!

Forget the dating business - if you're trying to get pregnant, you'll know roughly when you conceived anyway, plus the scan will date everything just fine.

I had a reassurance scan at 6 weeks which showed me to be at the dates I thought I was.

I would never push anyone to start trying immediately, but if someone wanted to and was ready, then I say good luck to them!

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yogamat · 09/02/2010 21:41

Mind def made up now!
Thanks again for taking the time to post ladies.
It really helps so so much to know that your not the only one in the world who feels this way and that other people have got through it too.
I so pleased to here about all your sucesses and that, despite you losses, you got the babies you deserve.
Feeling very positive now - thanks so much for that.

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megonthemoon · 09/02/2010 21:49

I have heard that you have a slightly higher risk of mc if you get pregnant straight away rather than waiting for first period, but not sure if this is really based in fact.

I mced at 6 weeks in November. Had first AF less than 3 weeks after and got started straight away Got pg first cycle and now 9 weeks pg, so so far so good (baby due in Sept if things continue to go well) Like you I just wanted to get going again, but DH and I did decide to give myself those couple of weeks before we started again just to make sure my body was physically healed.

Good luck with whatever you decide - hope you have good news quickly!

malteser1981 · 10/02/2010 14:23

Wishing you good luck, I'm in the same situation, still taking the folic acid, so just going to see what happens.

happyatlast · 10/02/2010 14:28

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks and as soon as the bleeding stopped I tried again, I got pregnant straight away, I didnt get another period inbetween.

I dont see why you shouldnt apart from like someone previously said, it a bit more difficult to tell your dates when you havent actually had a period to go by.

Good luck.

BiggleBoggle · 10/02/2010 15:04

Just another one to add - I had a miscarriage at about 6 weeks and tried again straightaway, against the advice of the doctor but he didn't seem to be very clear on anything to be honest. I got pregnant that month and am now about 20 weeks. Good luck!

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yogamat · 10/02/2010 17:04

I love reading all these great posts - thanks again guys!
I appear to be getting some ewcm? At CD10 post mc? Is that possible?
Ah well going to give it a go and hope for the best.
To those who have posted who are pregnant - I wish you all the luck in the world for the rest of you pregnancy and the birth. Such a magical time.
x

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yogamat · 10/02/2010 17:05

Meant to add - Malteser81 loads of luck to you too. Lets hope this is a super fertile month for us both!
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megonthemoon · 10/02/2010 18:13

yogamat - I had my first period about 3 weeks after mc, so must have ovulated about a week after it. So yep, seems reasonable to me, and I suggest you and DP get busy tonight

Best of luck

negrilbaby · 11/02/2010 16:48

Agree with most comments here. Had second miscarriage at 6 weeks. Fell pregnant straight after. DS is now 2. I was over 40 and decided to let nature take its course as I was running out of time(or so I thought!). Am 43 now and 19 weeks pregnant again.

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