feel sooo disheartened...

[chestnut100]

I am 21 weeks pregnant today. Apart from the afternoon after my scan a week ago, I havent felt the baby move at all. I know she is fine, the scan confirmed this, as did the doc when she listened to the heartbeat a few days ago, but i just feel so fed up about it!

I keep waking up thinking "today will be the day", but it never is!I think the fact I felt her for a short while after the scan is making me worse!

Until I feel this baby regularly, I know I am going to keep worrying and feeling stressed!

I know logically its my first baby, the placenta is at the front etc....but I just feel cheated; everyone I know who has had a baby has felt it by now, and when people say "oh you haven't yet?" it really gets to me!

Any supportive words for this self indulgent stress head?!

I'm pregnant with second ds and also have the placenta at the front which has meant that movements have been less obvious and I didn't feel anything much till about 19 weeks which is late for a second pregnancy. It is worrying but as your baby gets bigger then you will feel the movements through the placenta but it may just take a bit more time. Please don't be disheartened. It will happen and as pregnancy progresses - I'm now 30 weeks, the movements will feel more obvious.

Good luck, I'm sure it won't be long before you feel the first flutters and it's great that you've had everything confirmed as going well by the doctor.

Have you tried giving bump a good prod to see if that wakes him/her up a bit?

not really much i can say except you should start to feel some movement in the next few weeks. I also felt very little before 25 weeks also because of anterior placenta - its my 3rd and felt more movement early in first pregnancy (also had anterior placenta in 2nd pregnancy).

and anyway when you do start to feel her then you'll get even more stressed when the next day she moves to a different position and you don't feel anything for a few days. thats normal.

by around 26-28 weeks should feel regular movement though. not much help i know but really stressing isn't doing either of you any good.

I was about 23-24 weeks before I felt anything. And I didn't realise it was baby. I told a colleague that my tummy felt like little lemonade bubbles were bursting in it - she laughed and said it was baby moving.

It will happen, then when they are kicking your ribs to pieces you'll be begging baby to stop. Don't get disheartened.