Here we go again...pregnancy after mc

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History: I have one DS who is 2, and have had 3 mc's in the past, most recent one being last September.

Just found out this morning that I'm pregnant again (first month of trying again - we only did it twice!) and I thought I would be happy, but really it's only one hurdle passed, isn't it?

Each time I get pg I try to hard to stay positive, but it's so hard to think good thoughts when I know what it's like to end up in hospital having ERPC surgery.

So I'm looking at this little pink line and wishing I didn't have all these horrible experiences to cloud what should be such a happy time.

I don't know whether to ask for an early scan or not - not sure what difference it would make really as all my MCs have been around 11-12 weeks. Yup, just as I start to feel 'safe' - it's shit.

Sorry for moaning, I know I am lucky to have my DS, but I'm a bit of a mixed-up mess this morning!

Hi Just wanted to say hello and congratulations!
I have a 2 year old as well and had 2 mc since then before this pregnancy - now 20 weeks, which has stuck thankfully.
My mc were much earlier (6 weeks) so for me I didn't have quite such a long wait until I felt I was past the danger point - poor you having had the horrible experiences at 11/12 weeks, where you definitely feel 'nearly there'.
I think I would probably ask for an early scan anyway just for the reassurance.
Can't really help with other advice except you can only take each day as it comes and look after yourself. I really feel for you! Goodluck.

I was in a similar situation this time last year - and DD2 is now sitting chewing her fingers adn probably needing her nappy changed. Pregnancy after mc is so difficult, taking it one day at a time was all that got me through. good luck and tcxx

I know exactly how you feel. I have a dd (4) and have had 5 mc's last 1 being in july. Im now pregnant again and have reached 10 weeks today. Part of me think the twins are gonna stick but i dont want to get too attached incase it goes wrong again.
I feel so jealous of people who fall pregnant and there is no doubt in their mind that in 9 months or whatever they will have their healthy baby at the end of it.

Thankyou all for your replies. October feels like forever away! I think I will phone the midwife and ask for EPAU referral - I'm hoping that if I explain my history, they'll be sympathetic.

I've never had a 'natural' MC, they have all just been lots and lots of bleeding and then a trip to hospital. In Sept I needed a blood transfusion. My thoughts are that if I had asked for an early scan, I could have got the ERPC done sooner...

Good to hear your success stories. Starshaker I know what you mean, I have a friend who told EVERYONE as soon as she got a positive test - she just has such confidence, and I really envy her that!