2 days until due date - The texts have started already!

[mama2moo]

In the space of 10 minutes tonight I had 2 and dp had 1 text from friends asking if anything was happening yet.

I am so upset that this has started already. What do you do? I dont like being reminded that I am still waiting - Dd was 2 days early so we never had this before.

Do they keep texting if you just ignore them?

Any advice welcome

Annoying isn't it!!!! I have added on two extra weeks to my EDD to avoid the constant,"are you still here","any news", brigade!

I know they mean well but it doesn't help when you are gearing yourself up for labour, it puts added pressure on you and makes you even more frustrated and impatient!

I would text them back at 2am and just say everythings as it was! Maybe they will get the hint that when there's news they will be informed!

Other than that switch off your phone and enjoy the final stage of your pregnancy, I went 10 days over with ds2, tried everything to get things going but he came when he was good and ready!

Good luck!

You are lucky its just 2 days! I was having them from 37 weeks with DD1. It's the annoying "still here?" question, i know they mean well, but when they see you in all the massive proportions it's quite obvious you are STILL here!

My MIL was the worst when DD1 was due, we knew the sex from 20 weeks but she didn't want to know so I was sooo good and never mentioned anything, made sure nursery door was closed (we didn't for SIL oops) and all pink purchases hidden.

5 days after DD's due date she was going about me STILL being here and baby hurrying up etc, and after about the 10th comment I snapped "she'll come when she's good and ready". Ooops! That shut her up! I honestly didn't do it out of spite, I had just had enough comments!

But just try remember they do mean well and are excited about the new baby too! Although best not to answer as they might think you're in labour and sit waiting on a response, buying you some time!

Good luck and I wish you and baby a safe and speedy time! x

Thanks both

I am due today and have just updated my facebook status so hopefully that will stop them today!

I got some last night and have just ignored them. Its not I would actually tell any of them that I was in labour anyway!

PMSL lola at letting it slip about the gender! That taught her a lesson!!!

Ah yes I remember this, spent the week leading up to due date getting frequent phonecalls from parents just to 'chat', and then panicky text messages from them when we didn't answer the phone, convinced I had been rushed to hospital. In the end dh took to ringing them every day 'just to say that she hasn't gone in to labour', which got the message accross, but then of course I went two weeks over so I started getting suggestions on how to hurry the baby up. The final straw was when my mum texted me to say I should have sex. My mum is great but that is not something I wanted to hear from her!

Facebook did help for friends, you can post and then ignore all of the comments.
Good luck!

Either turn off your phone or send a mass text message in the early hours to tell them that nothing has happened. There is nothing wrong with being blunt in these situations.

Both of my children were over a week late and I had a lot of comments. I did snap at my father in the end he said "haven't you had that baby yet?" and I said "yes dad, I had it last week, I thought I just wouldn't bother to tell you. Is that what you think I would do? No? then stop asking, it's really annoying"

It worked

Totally with you it's soooo annoying.

MIL rang DH on the due date of dd1 to see 'if anything was happening' DH replied yes we're just about to go into the hospital. She couldn't quite believe it! Neither could I though- whoever heard of babies coming on their due date?!

Spare a thought for my poor sister though. she went into labour at 28 weeks with her ds1 and was on and off u ntil he was born at 31 wks.

So when she was pregnant with her dd1 & 2 we hounded her constantly from about 28 weeks with 'Any twinges?' She was overdue with them both In our defence it was because we were worried about her..

I'm due today too. Getting lots of texts etc. Don't mind too much, though it does get tedious texting back. Plus, I really don't need reminding of my still-pregnant state!

Facebook is good for letting world at large (at least those who use FB) know that the baby is not here yet.

Someone told me I should text back "guess!". But that seems a bit mean! People are only excited, after all.

Mama2moo and Blushes, HAPPY DUE DATE DAY!

(whisper voice, any news yet, tee hee......!)

Good luck to you both,
x

aaaggghhhh i agree very annoying, when i was expecting my first,
i was so hormonal didnt care if i annoyed some one by saying pls dont text to ask me i will let u no wen something happens!!

If nobody texted you at all, you'd be even more put out. "Have you had it yet?" is a stupid text but somebody just letting you know that they also know your baby is due, that they haven't forgotten about you, that they're thinking of you at this momentous time for you.... is nice, isn't it?

No it is not. I am a week overdue and am utterly fucked off with it. I don't need MIL/my mother to be ringing me every bloody day to "have a chat" to know they are thinking of me.

It is not helpful when you are trying to forget the fact that you are overdue to keep on being reminded of the fact 3 or 4 tmies per day.

you HAVE to reply as well as what people are waiting for is you not to answer....

The texts have stopped - For now! I think my facebook update worked!

fibilou I moaned to my mum that people had started texting and she doesnt bother me now! Luckily MIL lives in the States but I am sure she is texting dp - Stupid bitch!

I've already started fibbing about my due date (added a week) and I'm only 14 weeks!

I know my well meaning IL's will be on the phone every 2 hours asking if anything's happened yet!

Last time I was driven to distraction by people calling and texting to see have I had the baby yet? I went over due by 9 days, and my mother rang me twice a day every day for about 3 weeks, always starting the conversation with the question 'any twinges?' I got to the point where I was replying to 'have you had it' texts by sending one back saying, 'ooh yes, had it 3 weeks ago and forgot to tell you.' My dad in particular did not find this funny, but I explained to him that I didn't find flippant comments about being lazy and not getting on with it very funny either.

This time round only husband and I know the due date. I haven't evn told my immediate family or 2 best friends. I had dinner with one friend last night and she was very understanding, but took a guess anyway and was annoyingly close!

If I got to the stage where I had people phoning this time, I would be inclined to put a message on my answerphone that I was feeling tired and would get back to people as soon as I could if they left a message. And then switch all the phones off!

Loving this thread!
Im 3 days overdue with my first- and am amazed at how many people have rang/txted/emailed. It is nice to know they are excited but also driving me totally f**king nuts!!
Extending EDD is a top idea and will def be doing that if I get up the duff again!

I have had more today! Why do people not think that maybe you dont want to be reminded.

I have found that ignoring people is working a treat! They dont text again!