Worrying about baby after 12 week scan

[DillpicklesMum]

Hi, I've joined Mums Net for the first time in the hope somebody will understand how I'm feeling as everybody else tells me I'm being silly or paranoid. Had my dating scan at 13 weeks and I've become increasingly convinced that there is something wrong with the baby, to be specific, that the head or face isn't forming right. DH and others including my GP keep telling me that you can't tell diddly from these scan pictures but try as I might I can't get the idea out of my head. The GP perscribed anti-depressants but they made me really sick. finding it very hard to cope and worry that my two year old is suffering from my low moods. Anybody else had similar feelings??

Oh Dillpickles...I am sure if there had been anything wrong they would have shown some concern at the time.

There was another thread on here recently where someone said exactly the same, but it turned out she just couldn't make out the picture too well (I think)

Seriously, my 12 week scan picture could be anything...a walnut, a wellie, a prawn....

I am not trying to make light of your feeling, really. Hopefully someone who can talk more sense than me will come along shortly.

perhaps go on google images and look at some pics of 12 week scans, might help to see how they are really all pretty hard to make out at this stage and well the faces are definitely odd looking. Did you have the same fear with you two year old?

Sending you calming vibes,
X

They all look like aliens in scan photos. It's normal to worry, we all do. It'll get easier!

It's not very clear on the scan pics sometimes but I was reading a website the other day which explained that the ultrasound is not showing the actual physical outline of the baby, but showing 'slices' of the baby. Here in bonny Scotland I was only offered a dating scan, and no more scans so I have to accept that what will be will be, and I am sure that everything for you will also be fine. When I look at my scan pic it is like a little alien.
If the sonographer didn't comment on anything untoward then I would expect that everything will be fine. Try not to worry too much xxx

My 12 week scan with my two year old looked fairly like a baby but this one looks like a cross between Lillian from shameless and the Joker from Batman. Got myself in such a state, feel like I'm cheating myself out of the excitment I should be having. Thanks for the messages, makes me feel less like a silly old thing.

Your GP prescribed anti-depressants, you may not know that just as you can get post natal depression you can get antenatal depression. I was extremely anxious in the way that you describe - in the end the only thing that made me feel better was the birth of my child. I had a scan privately at 15 weeks and that was fab because it was extremely high quality and I could see the baby very clearly and obviously happy and healthy. Is this something you could afford? Alternatively will you be getting a 20 week scan?

Glad I'm not the only one Georgimama. I am due another scan in 4 weeks time when I'll be 19 weeks, hopefully this one will be better and put my mind at rest, or at least until something else starts worrying me! guess what I'm really worried about is whether I'll be able to love it...even writing that fear is hard and I adore my son so don't know why I should feel like that but I do.

At my 12wk scan my baby's head was a mega funny shape all lumpy and on the picture where the baby was looking at the camera as it were it looked like a power ranger or an owl.
My 20wk scan is lots clearer and actually looks like a baby less like an alien.
When you have your scan in a few weeks ask lots of questions to put your mind at rest.

agree with everyone else, you really can't tell much from a scan picture, they do tend to look a bit weird.

if you're worried could you afford to have one of those 4d scans?

Why are you worried about being able to love your child?

sweetheart, a qualified sonographer, who is professionally qualified to look at 12 week scans, thought everything was fine, so it very very probably is.

it is totally natural to worry about whether and how you are going to love your second (third/fourth) child. i did.

try to rest and relax (try some yoga and visualisation maybe) and take your GP's advice re any possible depression type things.

take care. xx