Please help..! any ladies that can help ease my mind

[iwishuponastar]

Can anyone help put my mind at rest and stop me worrying so much. I have just found out I am pregnant, I think im around 5wks+3 but cant be sure of dates because of my last period being a bit messed up. I have done several pregnancy tests and they are all BFP. I have had 3 previous miscarriages and my last m/c was a mmc oct 09. Went for my 12wk scan to be told the baby had died at 6wks. I have no children.

This pregnancy is just filling my head full of fear and I am worried I am stressing myself out too much and I am going to cause myself to have a m/c.

I was investigated after my 3rd m/c and don't get my results till next week. I tried to move my appointment sooner but they couldnt get me in. My mind was put at a little ease because the nurse was able to call me to give my blood results and she said everything was neg and I had no clotting issues. I have been taking baby asprin since I found out I was pregnant and am not sure if this is the right thing to do as my results have come back ok. My consultant did say they may put me on this even if all my results come back negative. I just don't no weather taking them will do me or the baby any harm.

I have been getting some light cramps and twinges but nothing too bad. I have also had a nude/pinkish discharge which is very minimal and I have had this on & off since I found out last week from 4wks, is this normal? I am booked in for an early scan in 2 wks time but I can't seem to relax in anyway. Is there anything else that I can do to put my mind at rest.

I don't think there is any problem with taking low dose aspirin - it can help with implantation. I would keep taking it.

I think you just have to acknowledge that after three miscarriages you are going to be nervous as hell. Do your best to get through the first 12 week. Don't think too far into the future - concentrate on 'today'. Think to yourself "everything is going well today" and don't panic by thinking about how many weeks and months there are to go in the pregnancy.

The best of luck to you. It's really good news that there isn't any reason for your miscarriages. I am sure this one will be a sticker. xx

Iwish -- taking low dose aspirin will not do you or your baby any harm so please don't worry. I have had 2 miscarriages and a diagnosed clotting issue and have been on 75mg since the beginning of my pregnancy. Some doctors do prescribe aspirin to women who have had unexplained multiple miscarriages simply because it really does seem to work in certain cases.

I can truly empathise with the stress of pregnancy after loss. It is incredibly hard to remain calm but that is really all you can do. Just to reassure you, I had terrible anxieties, negative thoughts and panic attacks at the beginning of this pregnancy and I am now 29 weeks with a very active baby in my tummy.

When I was at your stage, this little bean really had no idea what I was going through and was happily growing in my tummy oblivious to my anxieties. So please don't worry that your worry is going to cause harm. It's more for you (so that you don't go crazy!) that I am saying to try as best you can to relax.

Will you be able to request an early scan? I went for one at 7 weeks and then booked myself for a private scan at 10 weeks for the extra reassurance -- best money ever spent!

Hang in there and I am sending you many sticky positive thoughts

xxxxx

do you ahve a walk in early pregnancy unit near you? there are several in london.

look, i am NO expert, but it could be that your progesterone levels are low (the spotting might imply that). the women's natural health centre in london (dr Trevor wing) can help you with that. he did me (natural progesterone cream...having miscarried at 6 weeks and been shown to have borderline progesterone levels, i'm now 12 weeks preg).

my heart goes out to you...awful to be so scared, but totally understandable.

Oh sorry -- you will be in for an early scan which is great.

Cramping is entirely normal and women seem to have all sorts of dischrge in the early days due to implantation.

Please do keep us posted!

I disagree about asprin - only take it if prescribed by Dr, as for some it can increase risk of mc.

Please seek advice from a professional.

Good luck with pg.

Thank you all so much for you kind reasuring words, it certainly does help. I have an early scan in 2 wks which will make me 7wks, I see the consultant next week and the nurse said he may want to scan me then which Im a bit hesitant about because of my dates and it may be too early to see anything and I don't want to add more worry. I will be 6wks+4. I will see what he says, after all he knows best.
sophable I am going to ask about the progesterone cream, I did mention it when I went for my investigations and he said there is no proven evidence in it working although I no another lady who is under him and he did start her off on this.
stinkypinky I understand where you are coming from but after having 3 previous m/c without taking anything, I need to see if this will work, I have read a number of ladies have taken it even when there results have come back as normal and they have gone onto have healthy pregnancies.
BigGLittleG & bearcrumble Thank you so much your words are so reasuring and I feel a little more relaxed now. I will keep you updated.

hi wishuponastar

Just wanted to say hello

I am also very newly pregnant (4wks+4) after a mc a year ago followed by fertility problems, and very nervous. I have also had light spotting since the very beginning with this pregnancy. In terms of what can be done now, my EPU did blood tests to check my progesterone levels and also to check that my HCG levels are doubling every 48hours. So far all results have been normal and this has helped to reassure me, as it's too early for a scan. It's so hard at this stage, time just seems to drag and every tiny spot of pink on the tissue is terrifying. I find small milestones help - like for now I'm not thinking any further ahead than my next appointment at the EPU on Friday. Good luck and keep us posted

ok, haven't read the whole thread so don't know if i'm repeating but after 2 miscarraiges last year and no investigations, when i got pregnant this time i decided to take baby asprin. GP didn't actively encourage but said it would do no harm. When i had an appointment with the consultant about another issue at 14 weeks (currently 18 weeks with movement and a good strong heartbeatthat i can hear with my angelsounds doppler) he asked if i was taking baby asprin. I braced myself for a bollocking but he was glad to hear i'd taken it since bfp and advised me to carry on until 34 weeks. I have no evidence but do wonder if i'd taken it last time whether i'd have miscarried or not. Point i'm making is that the asprin will do absolutely no harm provided it's the 75mg which tescos do for about 80p. Good luck

If it's any reassurance I know two ladies who have had 3 consecutive misscarraiges - all 'unexplained' who've then gone on to have two healthy kids. I've not been unlucky enough to experience a miscarraige myself but did have implantation bleeding with this one at 6-7 weeks and very, very scary - more brown than pink discharge and kind of came and went over a week - I do really sympathise with the worry you must be going through. I got scanned at 6 weeks and 6 days by an EPU and they could see a heartbeat by then although it all looked completely sac-like.

iwish I definitely agree with your approach. As you have had several unexplained miscarriages while taking no medication, I don't see how a tiny dose of aspirin could have any adverse effects.

Moreover, if your consultant said he would put you on it even if all your results came back as normal, then that is a further confirmation that you are taking the right approach.

And you are right that many women have gone on to have normal pregnancies with aspirin after repeated losses. Stinkypinky seems to be reiterating standard medical advice which doesn't apply in your case.

Regarding progesterone, I spoke with two high-risk pregnancy specialists in London(one of whom works alongside Dr. Raj Rai at St. Mary's Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic in London) and they both said that progesterone supplementation in early pregnancy has no effect on the outcome of the pregnancy i.e. if a pregnancy starts out with a hormone imbalance, no amount of progesterone cream or suppositories is going to be able to correct this.

I know how you feel about going too early for a scan. As you mention though, perhaps trust that your doctor is doing all that he can to ensure that this little one sticks!

Again, I wish you all the best and pls keep us posted.

xxxx

Hi 2ndDestiny

I had alot more pinkish discharge last night and this morning (sorry if tmi) I called the epu and they said there is nothing they can do this early on in my pregnancy, I am 5+4. They have told me to wait another week but if I got bright red blood appear to call my gp. I asked about the blood tests to check my progesterone levels and also my HCG levels but the nurse said that would not proove anything. Waiting a week is going to feel forever. I can't stop worrying about it. How much spotting have you had? mine has been on & off since last week but has got heavier since last night. The nurse recomended I continue taking the baby asprin and it won't do any harm so at least my mind is at rest with that now.

What is your appointment for on Friday at the epu? I hope it goes well.

keepingeverythingcrossed thanks for your post, the nurse I spoke to this morning has advised me to take it so Im glad I started it. Im just worried about this pink discharge Im getting, did you have anything like this early on in your pregnancy. I didn't get it with my other 3 m/c but didn't get any bleeding with the others either.

I have just started bleeding and it's red blood so not a good sign. The EPU wont do any blood tests or anything but have told me to wait for 2wks, I can't beleive it, I'm going out my mind. Looks like it is happening again.

Oh honey, I am so sorry. I think there is still hope if there's just a bit of red blood - it depends if it gets heavier or not.

Is there someone with you? I hope you have got some real life support. I am keeping everything crossed for you that the bleeding stops and that your pregnancy will be ok.

When you had the investigations did they check for the level of Natural Killer Cells? Probably not something to think about right now, but in a few weeks time (if this is a miscarriage) if you go on the Fertility Friends website there's a lot of help and advice about recurrent miscarriage and further steps you can take.

Hi bearcrunble I have support from my partner, mum & sister. These are the only people that know of my pregnancy at the moment but they are being great. The bleeding was weird, it was only there when I wiped myself after the toilet, there was quite a bit there but no clots just bright red in colour, after posting on here last night about it I went straight home and went straight to the toilet to check, I didnt have any blood in my underwear or no other blood appeared that night so it was just the once I saw it when I went to the toilet about 16.00. Nothing this morning and the pink discharge has seemed to have gone. May be things will be ok, but Im not getting my hopes up.

When they carried out my tests I didn't have any to test for natural killer cells.

Will keep you updated, I see consultant Thursday and hopefully they will scan me. x x

Yes do keep us updated. I think things could well be fine if it has stopped again. Best of luck for Thursday. x

Iwish -- that sounds really positive. Fingers crossed. We are all rooting for you so keep us posted.

xxx