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Sheer panic about bump, DS and DH. Please help.

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 14/01/2010 18:48

My baby has an irregular heartbeat and she's big so have to have growth scans. I always have protein in my wee, lots of glucose in my wee, keytones in my wee, highish blood pressure (not massively high), etc.

I just feel very panicky that something is really wrong. I have regular midwife and consultant appointments, and I have yet another scan booked for 2 weeks time. I'm 34+1 now. She kicks a lot and she's head down although she's not engaged. I had a little bit of a show night before last. I get contractions every evening and they hurt. But they fade away at bed time.

I feel shakey inside. I want to go back on my ADs and haven't been allowed them since I was 6 weeks pregnant. Doctors and consultants have refused which in a way I'm glad about as I probably would have blamed them for her irregular heartbeat.

I worry about DS's every whimper. He's 20 mo and he seems to be picking up on my anxiety and that there's obviously something big coming. I feel guilty all the time I'm at work as I don't want to leave him and I worry about everything. I'm terrified he'll get ill or something but I don't know why I think that. I worry that he'll feel left out or rejected because he'll have a baby sister but he's my beautiful baby boy and I'd never prefer one over the other.

I worry anything will happen to my DH or that he doesn't know how much I love him. I worry that I snap at him and I'll make him unhappy.

I'm a contractor at work and it looks as though my boss isn't re-employing me after maternity leave so there's going to be massive pressure on me during the 6 months maternity leave to find a job. My boss can't have kids and she can't even look at me at the moment.

I'm just generally shakey, scared, upset and anxious.

Please tell me why I feel this way.

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coldtits · 14/01/2010 18:54

YOu feel this way because you are under huge stress, what with facing joblessness and a potentially poorly baby. Stress tends to amplify everything and reduce our ability to rationalise.

Rationally, your ds will nEVER remeber a life without his sister, and I think you will be surprised and please at the relationship they will have independently of you. Rationally, your Dh probably isn't going to die any time soon. Rationally, you cannot do anything to affect the job situation so you might as well stop thinking about it. And rationally, you are a bag of hormones right now so you are not going to be full par anyway./

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 14/01/2010 19:35

Thanks Cold, that makes me feel a bit better. I suppose I hadn't thought about the relationship they will have with each other, just the relationship that each will have with me IYKWIM

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