2nd time around questions - emotional wreck!

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Expecting baby number 2 (15 weeks) and feel like I'm totally overemotional. Burst into tears in the office yesterday at reading an email. What is wrong with me? very embarrassing and I'm trying to hide it from work as long as possible. Work is pretty stressy at the best of times but return from first baby was a nightmare.
Other questions;
Can you ask if they will cut you on the first scar (episiotomy?)? midwife said no, would leave me to tear (eek). Looks bad enough down there.
Does breastfeeding just come back to you? Had no issues first time round.
How on earth do folks cope with a toddler and a newborn when you are on so little sleep? I can't get my head around this as it was so hard first time and I felt so down through lack of sleep. Any advice would be great.

Overemotional for the whole of both of my pregnancies - nothing wrong, just pregnant!

I had episiotomy first time round, second time, tore (over old scar) but far less painful than original cut and healed far easier. Good analogy, when you cut lettuce the sides turn brown, when you tear it it is better preserved!

Breastfeeding - same same same.

Not sure how people cope with toddlers and newborns, theyjust do. Mine, 12 weeks and 2 years. Not particularly sleep deprived, but am co-sleeping and I think this helps.

HTH

It's far harder being pregnant and having a toddler than having two without a bump and all of the associated hormones/tiredness etc. You will be fine, I promise you (and this from someone who had a 15 month gap and a terrible sleeper second time around)

I had the same episiotomy experience as mamibabi - far less painful and healed more quickly.

BF - it's like riding a bike - it feels a bit odd the first time you try again after a break and then (hopefully) you're both away..

HTH a bit?!

Sorry you're feeling so rotten. You are NOT being overemotional. Your harmones are raging, which is a good thing they have a lot to do. It should ease up, give it time.

As to leaving you to tear, I've never heard that before. I had twins first time round, #2twin was a footling breech with forceps so nice large episiotimy done (joy?).
Next time around I was told definitely episiotimy, not to be left to tear. Must have done it on original place or very near as it appears as one neat thing down there!

Breast feeding comes back to you - I had the same worry : twins to next had 6yrs between, shouldn't think it'll be any different this time!

Please, please just try not to worry so much. X

Ah cheers mamibabi, that's reassuring. I'm normally not emotional at work but I'm blubbing at everything at the moment.

So, are you more likely to tear over the old scar? Have to say I had a peek down below last night and it's not pretty...wish I'd taken a before photo although where I'd keep it or what I'd do with it I don't know!

RB

Ah thanks for the messages, feel better already. I am terrible at keeping things in perspective and looking back on my posts from first time, think I had pnd and I just didn't do anything about it.