7.3 weeks early scan doesn't look good but need advice

[Boos75]

I'm not sure if this thread should be here or in the miscarriage section. I guess I chose here as am looking for reassurance..

I am 7 weeks 4 days pg and went yesterday evening for an early scan, which I booked privately as it's my first pregnancy and I like to worry! The Dr did all the measurements and said he couldn't easily see a heartbeat and the embryo is measuring small for 7.3 weeks. He said it was hard to call but given my age (34) it doesn't look good and advised another scan on Monday. I'm pretty certain about my dates as although I conceived during my second cycle off the Pill I know the day I ovulated (had cramps and tested + using an OPK) and I also know the day I got a BFP, as had a BFN two days before.

So, I guess I'm asking has anyone out there been in a similar position and it worked out fine, as I need to think positive to get through to Monday.

Also, rather than pay for a private scan again on Monday I was going to call my GP to see if I could be referred to my NHS hospital. Do you think that's likely? I've had no bleeding but have had a Dr say my scan doesn't look too good? Thank you

Ladies, thank you so much for your messages and your kind words of support. It really does help to hear positive stories of people who have gone on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I'm finding it really tough today even though I've just been for a long walk with my mum. I think yesterday I felt the scan was a practical step and I actually just felt so sorry for the other ladies there that I almost forgot my own problems and Sunday being Sunday is quieter and I have more time to think. Am actually looking foward to getting to work tomorrow as it really helped me on Friday. I work in a small team and my boss told them all with my permission. I probably told too many people that I was pregnant but I wear my heart on my sleeve and can't hide my emotions so would rather people know what I'm going through as, as you all have said, it is so common that people are able to offer words of advice and support.

Joygirl78 Did you end up miscarrying naturally or did you have to also have an ERPC? I'm quite new to MN so will have to work out my settings later on and I may well message you if that's ok. However, before I do that am heading outside whilst it's sunny to do some gardening now I don't have to worry about toxoplasmosis! I will wear gloves though..xx

Hi Boos. Yes, I did end up MC naturally. I had a very slow bleed that just gained momentum. Probably about 12 days in total. I won't lie - at the peak it became painful and i needed the paracetomol / co-codomal extra strength pills that you can get over the counter at the chemist. Moving around a lot helped. MC happen differently for different people - some people have a very heavy short bleed, others a longer slower lighter one. Most people do get bad cramps unfortunately. So - painkillers, hot water bottles and breathing through it are a big help.

My parents were amazing, spent time with me at home kept me occupied etc. They scanned me again after 2 weeks, and gave me an all clear - so i didn't need the EPRC. I didn't go back to work until after that so ended up taking 2 weeks off. My managers were great about it. One thing i did do which helped me was talk - to friends/family as it was going on. Friends hadn't known i was pregnant, but were extremely supportive. You say above that you prefer that people know what's going on - so if that is you, then i'd encourage that.

You are more than welcome to get in touch directly if you want to - you can send me a private message, and I am happy to email or even talk if you want to.