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confusedandalone · 11/01/2010 21:51

hi all, i am happily married and we have 3 children 7, 2 and 4 months. after birth of dc3 i went to docs about contraception and he advised me to wait b4 going on pill until periods returned. (this took 9 weeks) in eantime we have only had sex about 3 times all of which we have been careful. however, period was late and about a week ago i took a test which was positive. i am beside myself with worry as we did want to have a forth child but not for another 3 or more years! husband is very supportive but due to me still having to work and raise 3 very young children i cant see that i can go through with this pregnancy although it breaks my heart to even think about the alternative. so confused

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 11/01/2010 22:15

I am preg with no.4 - due in April - and was in an almost similar situation to you except DH didn't want a 4th and I had accepted 3 was my lot and plenty enough work, thank you very much and was happy with 3.

However, after going to the Doc and discussing the alternatives, getting the leaflets, taking time to think, we are having a 4th baby.

Our children are 4, 3 and 1.

You are happily married, as are we and this sort of made the decision for us iyswim? Initially DH wasn't interested but once he took a week or so to think about things, he quickly came round and is very attentive/supportive/excited.

We had sex once, we were a little tipsy, DH... ahem... withdrew and I still fell preg. Coupling that with the fact we are happy and stable and apart from the house being a bit 'cosy' once this one arrives, we sort of felt that there was no reason not to go ahead. I am not suggesting it is that simple for you of course.

You must tell him asap as otherwise you will feel terribly alone and sad. You need to know how he feels.

Not sure if my ramblings are of any use, but didn't want to leave this unanswered as I have recently been in a similar situation. x

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 11/01/2010 22:16

DS1 was 4m when I got a positive test for DS2.

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 11/01/2010 22:17

Sorry, just realised your DH knows and is supportive - that's good. You need to take time to let it sink in, you are probably in a bit of shock.

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confusedandalone · 11/01/2010 22:20

thanks for your reply, Dh knows all about it and feels as confused as me, we want another child eventually but we thing that at the mo it would be just to much. this one would be born b4 our youngest was 1! i just cant believe that we have been careful and this has happened. i am sooo angry! i want another child but i know we wouldnt could cope, hubby works 60 plus hours a week leaving most of chidcare to me and then i work part time too! our kids are everything to us i just cant believe i am in this situation.