am i naughty??

[winjy]

found out my 12 weeks scan wont be for 3 weeks and by then il be nearly 14 weeks so thought id take matters into my own hands sooo...i phoned ante natal department and said i been having cramps (i have but not as bad as i made out) and they got me a cancellation to be scanned tomorrow at qtr to 4 (im 11 weeks today) am i bad?? i mc in june and am going out fo my mind waiting to be scanned another 3 weeks id prob be sectioned!!

thoughts please!!

Oh for goodness sake stop being so self righteous and give the OP a break.

Yes is's a bit selfish but not the worst thing in the world to do. I lost a baby at 20 weeks last year and really needed those extra scans at 9 and 11 weeks before having a nuchal and CVS at 12 weeks with this pregnancy. I have found this current pregnancy so very very worrying. I have literally felt ill before each scan and sobbed my way through each of them. So I can understand how anxious the OP is. Yes the wording of the orginal post was prob a bit more cheeky than the OP meant it to come across as but the OP has had a difficult MC and so it is entirely understandable that she is nervous and needs a timely scan. I don't think we need to analyse every word in the OP's message.

As for the poster who I will not name who said the OP is "temping fate". That is, in my opinon, a really cruel thing to say to a woman who has already had a MC and is anxiously waiting for her first scan.

To the OP I really really hope all is well and you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Lots of people have had MC (I have had two) and I wouldn't want to imply I was having another to get an earlier scan, it would very much feel like I was tempting fate.

mmm am worry winjy but have to agree with the majority here.

I am very sorry to hear about your mc and I really do understand how you are feeling.

I miscarried in February, was pregnant again in April - because of health service being so overstretched here, I would have had to wait until 20 weeks for my first scan.

We had to pay privately to have an earlier scan and to be honest we really couldnt afford it but definately wouldnt have took an appointment from someone who genuinely needed it as I know how awful that is.

I dont think its naughty but I do think its selfish.

Doing this didnt occur to me.

Hope you have a very healthy, happy pregnancy.

The OP isn't taking an appointment from someone in need. It is more likely that someone who was scheduled a routine scan will have it a day later or that she has been offered a cancellation. Stop giving the OP such a hard time she sounds stressed enough as it is.

I don't blame you as I was tempted to do the same to get an early scan as I was completely paranoid. I didn't though as I didn't want to tempt fate. I agree with whoever said that the scan only stops you worrying for about 3 days (3 hours, I'd say) so it really isn't the be all and end all. At the end of the day, what's going to happen is going to happen and there's nothing anyone can do about it.

If you're having cramps then of course its fine to have a scan.

If you're not and saying you can't 'afford a private one' then yes it's selfish and taking resources away from someone else. Children are expensive and this is a planned pregnancy so paying to set your worries to bed would be the right thing to do. Only if you're not having cramps.

Hope everything goes ok for you tomorrow.

She asked if it was bad form to exaggerate her symptoms. Most posters seems to think it is.

IMO her fibbing was probably unnecessary, and had she just told the simple truth she'd have been sympathetically received.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow winjy, hope all goes well.

Winjy - i see you havent posted what the outcome was!

I hope all is well and maybe some comments was harsh, but not meant to cut you down just answered your post honestly!

Good luck and i hope you can talk to someone, because the worries dont go after scans and it becomes abit of an obsession!