Nealry half way, but dreading another baby in the house.

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This is number two. Ds was a fairly easy going baby and is a good kid - normal 3 yr old with ups and downs, but lovely.

This one was planned, but I have always been apprehensive. I want 2 kids, but DREAD the first year. I find babies suffocating and felt utterly lost with ds for the first year, despite loads of support and help and a fab dh.

I am really beginning to wish my pregnancy would last forever so I do not have to have another baby to care for.

You will be fine, by the end of the pregnancy you will be wishing this baby here!

The first year granted is hard, but think of all the joy you will give your ds by having a little brother or sister.

I'm due my 4th in July so I really know what you mean the feeling of being trapped when they are tiny. Start planning now ways of how you can cope.

Also I think that the harder you think it is going to be the easier it actually is, if you see what I mean. You are preparing yourself.

Thanks Gem.

I keep thinkoing 'well, how hard can it be' and then remembering...

I'm 18 weeks with DC2 and know exactly where you are coming from.

DD wasn't a particuarly "hard" baby (she was a demon toddler though ) but my memories of surviving those first few months was being able to relax (mentally if not rest/sleep) when she slept during the day. Not sure how an active 3 year old fits into that plan...

Yes, Dwayne, exactly!
I have enjoyed ds becoming more independent and developing into a person in his own right and who can do things like take himself off to the loo. And I love the 2 hours he is at nursery every morning - I can get stuff done and I have started to feel like myself again.
I love being with him too and feel a bit like the baby will get in our way.

Crapweasal - I am loving your name!

Yes, knowing my luck the baby will be wide awake while ds is out and fast asleep when he is home!

i have waves of feeling totally overwhelmed by the imminent arrival of a baby in the house and this is my 3rd.
Think it is pretty normal.
Difference for you this time is DS he will bring a whole new dynamic.
It is never the same as your first, i keep reminding myself that there is a whole new person in my tummy that i can't wait to meet and see what his/her personality is like and how it's brothers will love it.
Keep talking about it tho cos i didn't admit how scared i was to DH when ds2 was on his way and it did cause trouble for us when we were adjusting to having a new baby in the house. Sometimes i just felt totally overwhelmed. This time we are communicating much better and both freely admit our waves of terrifiedness and joy at looking forward to bubba coming.

Good luck and remember you are primed this time and know what to expect. so it will be different.

I was terrified and dreading the arrival of DC3 last May. I was prepared for exhaustion, boredom, frustration (being trapped in the house/routine/hours of feeding), nipples falling off, incessant crying, etc etc - basically was just not looking forward to it at all (and yes, he was planned and very much wanted!)
Then he arrived and it's been a breeze. I think expecting the worst is good - it will probably be much better than you think, and remember you've done it all before so you've got your strategies for coping already set up. Good luck x

Thaks for all the replies.

It is very reassuring to know I am not alone in feeling this way. My friends all seem surprised when I say how I feel wrt this.

I keep telling dh how I feel. It helps me, but I think he is getting worried! Poor soul.

It is a very wanted child, no doubt about it, but yes, I am terrified!