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I give up, so...

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Deemented · 06/01/2010 14:21

I am going to be induced tomorrow.

Had so many plans about how i wanted to have this baby, but they have all gone out the window. I'm just so incredibly tired and can't take this anymore, so induction it is. Feel like a bit of a failure, but thems the breaks i guess.

Fingers crossedlittle 'un will be here before weekend.

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liahgenisuptheduff · 06/01/2010 14:23

dee i'm sorry I don't know your background but please don't feel like you have failed, that is not the case. Sometimes babies do need a little help making their entrance into the world.

Good luck. x

Poledra · 06/01/2010 14:28

Dee, you are not a failure. And I'm speaking as someone who felt exactly that same way after an emergency c-section for DD1. And then an induction for DD3. And FWIW, DD3's birth was fabulous, by far the best of the 3.

Good luck, hope you're sniffing that baby head by Friday!

Fibilou · 06/01/2010 14:32

Sometimes I wonder if all the encouragement to "choose" and make a birth plan isn't just setting us up to fail and feel bad - after all birth isn't really something we have much control over is it

spula · 06/01/2010 14:37

Was induced then had emergency section after 36 hours. Have NEVER felt like a failure as my child is the most articulate, confident, gorgeous little madam anyone could wish for . It really doesn't matter how they get out, it's what they become once they are out! Focus on enjoying your bundle whenever/however s/he arrives in the world

Allegrogirl · 06/01/2010 15:25

With dd my waters broke and after 96 hours still no contractions so birth plan out the window.

I was induced and had an epidural but it went really well. All over and done with in under 7 hours. So well that my MW has suggested a home birth this time.

Despite it not being how I planned I brought my daughter into the world and it was amazing.

Good luck. Giving birth isn't an exam with a pass or fail.

Trudi2009 · 06/01/2010 15:53

I was induced by choice. I felt bad at first but just couldn't take it anymore. You've just got to think about child birth in terms of getting your baby out as safely and quickly as possible. Anything else (all the things on your birth plan) are just a bonus if you can get them.

fernie3 · 06/01/2010 15:57

I had one naturally starting birth and two inductions, all were fine and not much different from each other!. I dont know what kind of birth you had planned but it might be possible do have a varitation even if you are induced?

2andcounting · 06/01/2010 19:35

I was induced with dd2- and really did not want it ( as hadnt been with dd1 and so couldn't understand how 2nd one was later than the 1st!) but like u was just shattered. anyway had been doing hypnobirthing relaxation tchniques during pregnancy- and realised when i went in to be induced- that i needed to be even more relaxed and confident of my own body now that something unplanned was happening. anyway, was induced, baby didn't budge until they broke my waters- by witch stage i was getting frustrated, but- BEST birth ever, short, fairly painfree, just fabulous!! me, dh AND mvwere on such a high once she was born because it really was just FABULOUS! basically keep thinking positive!!

Caitni · 06/01/2010 19:41

Dee please don't feel like a failure!! Inductions can go well (not had one myself but my sister had an excellent one with her DS) and the main thing is that you'll have your little one here soon . You can still try and be mobile etc if that's what you want...wishing you lots and lots of luck and look forward to hearing your birth announcement

liahgenisuptheduff · 07/01/2010 10:45

good luck for today dee

Disenchanted3 · 07/01/2010 10:49

Dee my labour started 6 hours after induction (no pain in that time) then DS was born 6 hours later.

Good luck, you will be snuggling a tiny baby soon

Greatgoing · 07/01/2010 12:01

Let me guess- NCT?

It is so damaging to suggest we can control our births; it is simply wrong and leads to this sort of awful guilt. Your achievement is getting your baby out into the world safely, not sticking to a set of self-imposed or group imposed 'rules'.

I don't understand what people think 'induction' is? It is only an injection of the hormone that starts of birth; in every other aspect it is a 'natural' birth if you chose it to be!

Induction is not seome magic, 'easy' option over 'natural' childbirth, and neither is a C section. My baby was induced and the birth was a full blown, 12 hour, heave hove, stitches at the end job with no pain relief. I had no birth plan.

My very best wishes to you and my sympathy that you feel this way. Good luck with a wonderful birth and baby.

mama2moo · 07/01/2010 12:28

Good luck, I have been wondering how you are getting on. How far are you now?

At least it will be over and done with! Everyone I know who has been induced have been fine and said it hasnt been any different once its going.

Good luck, I look forward to the birth announcement

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Deemented · 07/01/2010 15:40

No birth announcement yet - they've sent me home as they decided they'd rather break my waters then use the gel/pessaries, but they couldn't reach to do it. Have to go back tomorrow at 3...

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liahgenisuptheduff · 07/01/2010 17:09

what would you prefer them to do?

liahgenisuptheduff · 07/01/2010 17:10

sorry hit post too soon.

Don't want to be the voice of doom but if they couldn't reach to break your waters dee sounds to me that you're not that favourable.

How far are you? What's reason for induction?

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Deemented · 07/01/2010 17:39

I'm 38+3, and have GD, had a previous csec and a 3rd degree tear. I also have SPD and PGP, as well as a slipped disc.

They have told me that they don't want me to go past 39 weeks, and the MW today scared the bejaysus out of me by telling me at if i go past 39 weeks with GD then i stand a greater risk of having a stillbirth. Having lost a son already, i'm a bit scared and anxious, i guess.

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liahgenisuptheduff · 07/01/2010 17:48

at that comment from mw. I remember your son now, Of course you will be anxious.

Is this your 1st child since your son?

You could ask if they do the overnight pessary, I have seen good results in first time mothers from this and early arrival inductions?

The pessary would be a more gentle, more natural route to induction, ARM can be a bit brutal, (ie full on ctx straight away). It can be advisable to go for an epi if you are having ARM

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Deemented · 07/01/2010 17:56

No, i've had a daughter since then - vbac.

They have told me that they didn't really want to go down the pessary/gel route as once it's in it's in and they dont have much control over it - they said they would much prefer to break my waters, give me 24 hours to go into labour and if not then they would put me on the drip as they can control that much easier.

They did also mention elective c-section, but i really don't want another c-sec... though i honestly don't know right now.

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mama2moo · 07/01/2010 19:04

What?? My friend had GD and that was never mentioned. She was induced at 40 weeks purely because of the risk of a big baby and to get her back to normal.

Fingers crossed for you

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