Is this a jinx?

[stillfrazzled]

Nearly 5 weeks pg. Bleeding since y'day - not heavily, but enough to make me frantic.

Before it all started, I found a fabulous bundle of mat clothes on eBay - exactly my size, lovely stuff, fraction of retail cost. In my excitement, put in a Best Offer bid.

It has been accepted. I knew it was stupidly early, but reasoned that if it all went wrong I would hopefully need it at some point, but also could sell on if worst came to worst.

For some reason, now I am actually in the middle of a potential miscarriage, it feels like a massive jinx. Although I do realise this is utterly illogical.

WWYD?

Don't worry about the clothes, you have not jinxed anything. The baby doesn't know about e bay yet! You can always resell them , or keep them for future use.

Instead, go and lie down and think happy thoughts about your baby, talk to it and encourage it to stay. ASAP phone your doctor and get a referral to your local early pregnancy unit (probably won't see you til 6 weeks but it'll be nice to know a date).

I had a load of bleeding from 5-8 weeks and I am now 40+2 so no need to panic. But get yourself proper reassurance/ information asap.

There can be no correlation between you buying some maternity clothes and a possible miscarriage. So stop beating yourself up about provoking the latter by doing the former.

If you miscarry, there will be a medical reason, and it will not be your fault. Hopefully, this is not the case. See your GP asap, and put your mind at rest. It is possible to have some bleeding around this time without it being a miscarriage.

Hope it works out for you.

Thank you! Good point about baby's ignorance of ebay... Have phoned hospital btw, so am in the system.

Re bleeding: how much, and what kind did you have? This is mostly bloody mucus, ie red/pinkish, but definitely that CM consistency. Hoping is cervical erosion or similar but have mild cramps too.

The waiting is appalling, isn't it?

The waiting is TERRIBLE. You have my sympathy. I had red too, then it went brown for a few days, then there would be more red. Sort of in gushes. Reeeeaaaaally hope it all works out for you.

Thank you so much.

Mine's gone from red, to pinky, to brown to nothing (this morning, was thrilled), to splodge of red, to nothing but still crampy which may or may not be tension...

Is total headfeck. If only I knew I was having a scan in a couple of days or something, but the thought of two weeks is just awful.

How you doing, stillfrazzled? Two weeks is a long time.

Hi, thanks for thinking of me!

Bleeding has slowed down to almost nothing, just coloured discharge really with the odd dab of browny red (last one y'day morning). So that's miles better.

BUT my EPU say they don't do reassurance scans, so I won't be scanned until the 13 week one. Which I think is pretty terrible.

I intend to beg my GP to refer me and if not, to go private. No way can I stand to wonder for seven weeks...

Oh my God! That's terrible- it's hardly a reassurance scan if you've had a bleed! Can you lie and say you've had more?

Anyway, good news that's it's virtually stopped; if you leave it a week and do a pregnancy test, might that be an indicator too? Not sure how long those pregnancy hormones take to subside in the case of a MC.

Let me know how you get on though- I'll keep this thread on my watched list so I don't lose it.

Phone up your EPU at your local hospital. Dont be superstitious (sp??) it wont have anything to do with that at all.
Thinking of you.

I was going to try to do a test in a few days, yes.

As for the Dr and EPU, had planned to be a bit vague on when the bleeding stopped (assuming it doesn't start again, of course).

Just keeping my fingers crossed. Don't know whether to prepare myself for the worst and think it's gone, so good news is a nice surprise, or think positive.

I'd go and find a sympathetic GP to fight your corner for you. At the very least they could run a blood test for levels of beta HCG which will give you some indication of the way things are going. But if your GP is able to refer you with bleeding as a 'suspected ectopic' then the hospital have to give you a much earlier scan. My DH, a GP with personal (okay, proxy) experience of multiple miscarriages, always manages to get his patients in for a scan within a day or so. Really is worth pushing for to set your mind at rest. He tends to encourage them to think hard about whether they are experiencing one sided pain / shoulder pain / similar ... I know it's cheeky but the system is sh*t and it is inhumane to leave a woman unsure as to whether she has lost a baby or not.

Oooh good tip, thank you Frozen.

Should I leave it a few days? I am (I think) at 5+1, assuming I'm still anything - earliest they'll expect to see a heartbeat is 7 weeks, they say, although I think I was scanned at 6+3 or so with DS and they found him.

Or would you get the wheels rolling now?

Hmm, you're right about the scan. At your stage serial bHCG (spaced 48 hours) is likely to be more informative than scanning. You'd expect to see a gestational sac at this point but perhaps not yolk sac and fetal pole / hb, as you probably know. To some degree it's up to you - if they scanned you now and it was inconclusive, they'd probably have to invite you back for another scan a week later particularly if there's a 'suspicion' of ectopic. I'd be tempted to get the wheels rolling now because I'd just want to be doing something otherwise i'd go mad, but I realise that not everyone has my lack of parience with these things. i guess it depends how you'd feel about an early scan that didn't show much. If there is a suspicion of ectopic then the hospital themselves might do the serial bHCGs (it's in most hospital protocols to do these) so you still might get some reassurance sooner if you go to the doc and are a bit vague about your dates now.

Hi Frozen, have had a think and am going to go to the GP on Tuesday or Wednesday. Depending which dr I get, I will either tell them the absolute truth or fudge things a bit.

I want to feel I'm doing something, but basically think an inconclusive scan would make me feel worse. Also bleeding has completely stopped since Tuesday which am hoping like hell is a good sign.

Thanks for the support, I will post again to let you know how I get on.