Need a rant - What is wrong with big babies??

[mama2moo]

Im 35 weeks pg with dc2 (dd was only 7lb 1oz)

Everyone I see now says 'God your massive, I bet thats a 9/10lber in there' like its something awful to have a big baby.

Yes, I know it will hurt more but so what. So long as baby is ok thats all that should matter??

Ahhhhh, I wish I could shut myself away now and not see anyone to get the horrible comments anymore.

Rant over, thanks!

People always say 'yuo're massive' no matter what, I have found. It applies to actual babies too... My DS3 has Downs and was absolutely tiny at 6 months old, only 11lb, (which is not much bigger than his brothers at birth!) and STILL everyone kept saying 'oh, he's big, isn't he?! Um, no actually...

I've actually heard that bigger babies are easier to give birth to. Not that I'd know, mine were average./

I always got people gasping and saying 'you're massive ' to me at the end of my pregnancies. My babies ranged in weight between 6lb 14oz and 8lb 14oz. I think people forget just how big a bump can get at the end of pregnancy. Big bump doesn't necessarilly mean big baby, anyway.

And then of course there are always those who comment on how small a bump some ladies have. Usually asking if everything is okay .

Whatever comments though, it's easy to become worried by them in due to end of pregnancy hormones. Try to ignore the comments and not let them bother you.

One woman at work kept going on about "oooh, aren't you getting big, going to be a huge baby". When they did a weight estimate at 33 week placental positioning scan the sonographer said the baby was quite small - and at the last antenatal I was measuring 33 at 35.
I did derive a great deal of glee telling my colleague that.

People are just rude OP and unfortunately being pregnant seems to bring out loads of ridiculous comments.

I could be wrong, but isn't it more likely to be bigger (you, not the baby) in a second pregnancy? I know I'm getting bigger more quickly, but don't know if I'll end up being bigger overall.

In any case, people will always comment on something. Saying 'you're massive' or 'you're small' can be equally hurtful and annoying. Try to ignore it.

People just can't resist making comments, negative or otherwise. Ignore them!

A woman I worked with kept telling me I was huge and she hoped for my sake that the baby came early so it wouldn't get too big. She admonished me for eating large (healthy) meals, saying I wasn't helping matters by eating so much. Silly cow! I took great pleasure in telling her I'm actually textbook size for my gestation (a cm for every week).

Completely agree with your need to rant - Don't know what it is that make people think its ok to comment constantly on how we look but it makes me MAD!
'm 36 weeks and do have a rather large bump and I've started pre-empting to the comments by saying "yes I know I'm HUGE aren't I?? Let hope he's not massive eh?....blah blah blah" Whenever I see people - but in reality I really want to just tell people to "eff off I'm 8 months gone what do you expect?!!"

Agree that there's nothing wrong with a big bump or big baby for that matter so long as bump and mum are healthy!

Phew - looks like I needed a rant too ;)

Oh people like to comment - and scaremonger for some reason with big babies.

Size doesnt mean much. You can get a small baby with a big head or the baby may be small but in a poor position.

I have to say pushing 9lb ish DD out was easier than 7.5 lb DS but maybe that was because it was a second baby.

Anyway, even if it did hurt more those moments of hurt in the grand scheme of thing are nothing. Bigger babies usually feed more easily, have more weight to lose if they get ill etc etc. People are less likely to worry about 'breaking' them.

Not much you can actually do about it anyway and bump size doesnt mean much. My bump with DD was much smaller than with DS.

My last baby was 10lb 13oz and he flew out in 2 pushes. Second stage was recorded as 3 minutes. No pain relief either, so bigger doesn't necessarily mean more painful.

Bexxa I want to eat him

My 5 month old DS was 11lbs 9oz when born.

He is delicious and I wouldnt want him other way - great talking point as well!

I hate people commenting on the size of my bump too - I don't think they realise just how rude they are being.

Just as a bit of reassurance, my sister had her first, a tiny 6lb 15oz DD with epidural and tore and had stitches. Her second a big DS 9lb 13oz, was out in minutes, only gas and air and no stitches required.

It's reassuring to me as DD1 was 8lb 5oz and everyone keeps telling me I'm massive this time at 26 weeks! But I agree pregnancy does make people feel they have the right to comment.

The worst comment though was my MIL to my sister after my gorgeous nephew was born "oh he doesn't look like a newborn does he?" My sister was so upset, what a stupid thing to say, he didn't look like a bloody 4 yo did he!!

Just don't think about the pain but the delicious baby you'll be holding soon! :D

I don't think size of bump has any bearing on the size of the baby. A friend of mine is a petite little thing with cute little bumps right up until birth and she has had great lumping babies of 11lbs+ all three times.

My bumps (both this time and last time) have been humongous and DS was "only" 8 1/2 lbs.

Feeling your pain OP. I am 36 weeks today and am really sick of people saying how huge I look. If one more person asks me if I am sure there is only one in there then I will smack them . My DS was 6 lb 14 and I had exactly the same comments last time round too !
Good luck BTW.

It really drives me nuts that people feel that they have the right to comment on the size of pregnant bumps - suddenly they have qualified as Midwives and can say with absolute confidence that you are too big / small. I think that people just want something to talk about, and size is an obvious one.

To reassure you, I've had 8lb8, 9lb10 and 9lb1 babies (not all at once!), and all on g&a with no stitches, so agree that size isn't everything

Hope all goes well for you

I think people say those stupid 'You're massive' comments to everyone tbh.

DS1 was 9lb, DS3 was 8lb but because DS2 was over 10lb, while preg with DS3 and this time - preg with DC4 - the MW tries desperately to palm me off on the consultant at around 16 weeks - or sooner if she can justify the appt (which she never can as I never really get a huge bump, they tend to lean inwards) even though DS2 was born with no hitches in pool. I just get sent home with a flea in my ear and an appt. with the consultant again IF I go more than a week overdue, much to MWs dissapointment.

I have been to see cons. this time and needless to say, was sent home only to return if I go overdue by more than a week.

As you can imagine, I feel like an absolute freak from the 16 week mark so the 'massive' comments just bounce off as my CAREGIVER is so rude.

I doubt it hurts more. Mine were big, and I'm sure it's a threshold thing

It's just one of those 'something to say' comments. They're not unkindly meant. If your baby is big, that will be commented on too. And if he or she is small, or hairy, or bald... Basically, people make small talk. Just nod and smile and let it wash over you