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Wishful Thinking? - Wedding 2 weeks after due date?

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bluesnowfalcon · 23/12/2009 10:24

What do you all think - two of our friends have asked us to witness their wedding at a hotel but the wedding is about a fortnight after baby is due.

This is our first baby and I don't know how I'll feel after it all.

Is it realistic to think that we might make it to their wedding let alone witness it with a two week old baby????

All thoughts welcome

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moaningminniewhingesagain · 23/12/2009 10:28

I made it to a Christmas party last year with a 9 day old DS born by CS, felt like shit though and only went because we had to!

If you will only be out for a couple of hours and you really like them, it may well be do-able. Hard to know how you will feel though.

And - due date is a guess, you could easily go 10-14 days over with a first baby, so you might actually have a baby that is 2 days old, or still cooking, by the wedding

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bluesnowfalcon · 23/12/2009 10:37

We've told them that they need to have back ups!

Guess we'll have to wait and see - it is close by but we've been invited for whole thing day and eve! Don't think we'll manage that!

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IMoveTheStarsForChristmas · 23/12/2009 10:39

DS was 9 days overdue, so there is no way I would have managed this!

On the other hand, your DC could be 2 weeks early, so you may have a 4wo by the time they get married. Personally I wouldn't commit to this, but if you're happy to wait and see, then just tell them that

rubyslippedonastraymincepie · 23/12/2009 10:41

i went to a wedding 4 weeks after DD was born

it is entirely possible if utterly knackering

and it depends how on time you are and what the delivery is like (and how feeding is going)

i think at 2 weeks i was out and about (ish) but feeling shockingly tired

MrsBadger · 23/12/2009 10:42

how far away is it?
ime the travel is usaully the killer

so long as you can keep the baby close to you in a sling or something and feed it every time it squeaks, it's mostly your discomfort that'll stop you doing stuff, iyswim - the baby won;t care so long as you are there.

For comparison, 6wks after my due date we took dd to Morocco for ten days and had a fab time - she was early though, and we booked at the very last minute.

StealthPolarBear · 23/12/2009 10:45

We went to DH's cousin's wedding when DS was 10 days old (the wedding was 14 days after his due date).
I had a straightforward labour, quick recovery and feeding went well. Still, it was a big deal - the wedding was about an hour away. We only went for the ceremony, and went to the reception hotel but left before the meal.
I have to admit I wouldn't have gone if it hadn't been a close family wedding. Would have hated to have been gone all day.

StealthPolarBear · 23/12/2009 10:47

Oh and plan what you're going to wear well in advance - maternity trousers from about 5/6 months and a top were my outfit And pack the car with everytrhing you need the night before

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bluesnowfalcon · 23/12/2009 10:55

The wedding is about 1/2 hour away from us so not too bad hadn't thought as far as what to wear/take especially as we haven't bought anything for the baby yet - feels too early still!

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rubyslippedonastraymincepie · 23/12/2009 11:29

i bought my wedding outfit when i was 4 months pregnant knowing i would still look 4 months pregnant at the wedding

i was/am breastfeeding and the dress was easily pull downable for easy access

we had a bag with loads of nappies, wipes and spare clothes

peppapighastakenovermylife · 23/12/2009 12:02

It also depends on the birth - CS has been mentioned but with my first I had to have a very large episiotomy and sitting and the process of standing up were awful. We were meant to be going to a wedding but I just couldnt go.

You also need to think about sleep deprivation, your mental health, baby's health etc. I unfortunately had pnd twice and couldnt leave the house without sobbing / having a panic attack. Gosh I do make this sound appealing don't I

Saying that, and hopefully, everything will be fine though. Other friends were fine to go off shopping a few days after the birth and with DD I was in starbucks within 24 hours

Also think about the fact you will still be bleeding after the birth - possibly quite heavily at this point when you think about your outfit!

Think the message is to say yes if we can but for them to have very strong back ups.

ziggyf · 23/12/2009 12:20

I would have been fine to go to a wedding two weeks after EDD, but LO was 2 weeks early and the birth was fairly straight forward thankfully. Even two weeks after the birth I would have been fine and would definitely have gone if it had been a close friend. However, I still looked pretty ropey at 2 weeks post-birth and was knackered so might have turned down being a witness! I wouldn't have needed the stress of having to be on time (I was constantly late for the first few months!), looking reasonable for photos and worrying about whether baby would need feeding at an important moment!

Z x

StealthPolarBear · 23/12/2009 12:23

good point about the stress of the importance of being on time - in the first few weeks it's normally nappy change - feed - try to leave the house - explosive poo - nappy change - baby needs another feed - repeat

ziggyf · 23/12/2009 12:29

Exactly, I was always 15-30 mins late no matter how early I tried to leave! And L always needed feeding at the worst possible moment lol.

NancyDrewRocks · 23/12/2009 15:33

When I saw the thread title I thought you were planning to get married two weeks after your baby was born and was about to reply along the lines of "Weeeeeell I suppose it is do - able"!!

I think you will be fine. I flew to BF's wedding in Italy when DS was 4 wks old (thank goodness for him being two weeks early!) - I had DD 15mths in tow and was also bridesmaid. It wasn't the best day out I've ever had but actually it was fun and I wouldn't have missed it for the world.

Go for it

pigleychez · 23/12/2009 16:00

Think it all depends when you actually give birth. I was meant to be going to a friends big birthday party 2 weeks after DD was due. I said id make it if I could. It turned out DD was 2 weeks late then I was in hospital for 4 days so missed it completely.

We are in a similiar situation this time. DH is best man at our friends wedding. They are having a very small wedding 3 weeks before im due with number 2. Should be fine, It is however in Cardiff and we are in the south east so will be taking hospital bag and notes with me just in case!
They are having a big party/reception a few weeks later when they return from their honeymoon which is going to be more tricky as its 2 days after my due date! DH as best man will do his best to be there as long as im not in Labour or still in hospital ( party is still 50 miles away) I will endevour to be there if at all possible, but who knows.
Im kinda thinking 1 week early would be good timing this time!

Id probably say, all being well id go but they need to be prepared that if you cant make it they need to have some stand in witnesses just in case.

LynetteScavo · 23/12/2009 16:10

Well, 2 weeks after my due date with all 3 of mine I was giving birth, so I wouldn't have made it.

MumNWLondon · 23/12/2009 17:46

Also would you have someone to help you with the baby if it cries when you are supposed to be signing?

Both my DC a couple of days late and I would have been fine with this.

Also bear in mind that in the week or so after the birth your hormones are all over the place...

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bluesnowfalcon · 23/12/2009 18:09

Thanks all for the messages - it's been good to hear all the stories and opinions Guess the long shot is that i'll have to wait and see!

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LovelyMonster · 26/12/2009 03:07

Its a tough call. Just bear in mind that if your baby goes two weeks overdue they may well be inducing you at the time of the wedding!

TeenyTinyToria · 26/12/2009 08:45

I got married four weeks after having ds. That was after a horrible induced birth and post-natal complications from an episiotomy. No problems, just a bit tired.

I think if you're just witnessing the wedding then you should be fine, the only problem would be going overdue.

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bluesnowfalcon · 27/12/2009 11:30

Thanks all x

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