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Anomaly scan tomorrow..sick with worry

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memorylapse · 22/12/2009 23:48

Im 21 weeks pregnant after losing my last two babies late in pregnancy...Ive posted before about my pregnancy anxieties....

I had a nuchal scan which was fine and another scan at 15 weeks..both were private but I kind of hoped that anything major would be spotted..
I had a private gender scan on friday and the sonographer put the fear of god into me...she was very quiet and merely checked the sex then spent 5 mins taking measurements and frowning a lot..she then asked when my anomaly scan was..usually at a private scan they will point things out to you..but she said nothing..DH and I actually felt uneasy.
she said that although I must understand that she wasnt checking baby's anatomy..she would tell us if she spotted anything worrying..but at the end of the scan she again asked when I was attending for my next scan..

So Ive convinced myself that something horrible is wrong and I cant go to bed even though Im exhausted

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hairymelons · 22/12/2009 23:53

I can't really help you but didn't want to read and run.
You must be so worried. She did say she would tell you if she saw something though. Can you call your midwife in the morning for a chat?

Frizbe · 22/12/2009 23:58

{{{Hugs}}} I didn't want your post to go unanswered, as you're so worried. I hope things go ok for you at your scan tomorrow. I would like to think if anything had been wrong then the private sonographer would have asked you to go and see your midwife/Dr asap, rather than just asking when your next scan was. Maybe she just had a bad bedside manner?

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 00:03

I did call my MW today who tried to reassure me that as far as she knew they were duty bound to let you know if they spot anything obviously wrong on a private scan..she said there are things that are very apparent at this stage which a good sonographer shouldnt have missed..Im still a nervous wreck though

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hairymelons · 23/12/2009 00:07

Oh poor you. Can you distract yourself from thinking about this at all?
You must be sick with worry but you need to rest, is your OH around to give you a back rub? Can you make yourself think happy thoughts? I'm not being glib, I know what it's like to worry and I know you can drive yourself mad with it.
Shame a stiff drink is out of the question...

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 00:11

DH has gone to bed..his attitude is..no point worrying..I know deep down he is though

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pinkypanther · 23/12/2009 10:25

Memorylapse, it's not quite the same I know, but my 12 week scan was exactly like that...the lady doing the scanning didn't say anything at all for the first 2 - 3 minutes until I broke the silence by asking if it was still alive (as this was 6 months after my MMC). Fortunately he was still alive but that experience stayed with me for a while.

Just put it down to her having a bad day/bedside manner - your midwife is right, she should definitely have said if something was obviously wrong.

BTW, it's absolutely normal for you to feel the way you do after two previous losses. I really hope everything is ok today (the odds are still strongly in your favour that it will be) - let us know how you get on x

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 10:34

thanks pinkpanther...Ive been up hhalf the night..I just want it over with now

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peppapighastakenovermylife · 23/12/2009 12:06

What time is the scan? Who did you have the private one with? I know baby bond are duty bound to tell you - and they are properly trained sonographers (if thats the right word) - not just someone who is there to produce nice pictures.

With DD I went for a private early scan and everything was fine. I then had a message on my phone asking me to go back as soon as possible. I was terrified but apparently they take loads of measurements for their own records (maybe they do research?) and they had forgotten to take one. They also kept asking when my NHS scans were - just I think to check that you were going and getting one.

buchenoelpoppy34 · 23/12/2009 12:16

I do feel for you as was like that after I lost
y baby late on. Agree with others that they would say something as have to and also some sonographers have appalling bedside manner. Have you got a note or sticker on your file detailing your previous history? I would get one put on as I found it helped considerably as staff no longer wondered why they had a gibbering loon on their hands.

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 12:36

no stickers but my notes do record my previous history..Sorry to hear about your loss poppy

peppa..the scan was performed in Chester by a lady who works as an NHS sonographer at one of my local catchment hospitals so I would have assumed that she would say something.

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ziggyf · 23/12/2009 12:40

I hope the scan goes well today, as the others have said the sonographer would have told you if there was anything obvious wrong. It's totally natural that you would be worried though given your history, what time is your scan today?

Did you find out what you are having?

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 12:48

2pm...and yes we did find out..hopefully shes right..but she said she was certain it was a little girl

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bigpreggybelly · 23/12/2009 13:39

Hope its OK for you. Statistically the vast majority of scans will show nothing abnormal, so chances are it will all be OK.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 23/12/2009 14:16

Hope it went ok, ML! I'm sure there's nothing to worry about. x

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memorylapse · 23/12/2009 15:32

Im back and I basically worked myself into a frenzy over nothing!..sonographer was lovely..I explained the situation to her so she turned the screen towards me and explained everything she was checking and told me if it looked ok..baby was in a funny position so she couldnt check the heart properly so went for a walk and drunk some water..baby moved a little so she could see all 4 chambers but couldnt quite get the 5th pic she needed, she wasnt concerned though but I will have to have a follow up scan to dot the i's and cross the t's.

got a lovely full onview of her face, she was opening and closing her mouth..she kept putting her hands over her face..but eventually moved them so the sonographer could see her face...I feel like I can relax now..for the time being!

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hairymelons · 23/12/2009 16:19

That's great news, how lovely to see her face

everylittlebeat · 23/12/2009 16:37

glad to read your update

pinkypanther · 23/12/2009 17:09

That's great news Memorylapse

Hope you can now enjoy Christmas and that all goes ok for the rest of the pregnancy.

Frizbe · 23/12/2009 20:28

great news

MumNWLondon · 23/12/2009 23:57

good news, but you should go back to the clinic where you had the gender scan and complain about the sonographer, she worried you silly.... anyone working is this role as a duty towards her patients and she behaved in a totally unprofessional way.

out of interest why have private gender scan - would you not find out at the anomoly scan?

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memorylapse · 24/12/2009 11:43

mumnwlondon...we were told we wouldnt be told the sex at our NHS one..it said so on the leaflet we were sent..but as it happens the sonographer was happy to tell us.

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first1 · 30/12/2009 18:10

I have mine tomorrow afternoon (20+3), terrified to be honest

katiecubs · 30/12/2009 18:38

Super news congratulations!!!!! xx

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memorylapse · 30/12/2009 20:23

first1..hope it all goes well for you

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harimosmummy · 30/12/2009 20:28

Memorylapse - so happy your scan was all good. Many, many good wishes for the rest of your pregnancy.

And First1 - good luck to you too.

I only found out I was pregnant with my first at 21 weeks (I know, I know.. .It really DOES happen) and I had an agonising couple of days before I could get all the scans etc., sorted to know everything was alright.. so in a sort of a way, I know how you feel.

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