Question for Mears or Leese - appetite and diet in pregnancy

[cheeky]

With first pregnancy had enormous appetite. This time although i'm not at all nauseous, which is why I didn't realise I was pregnant until I was 8 weeks I am hardly eating. I'm 10 weeks now and even if I feel ravenous, I get full after a couple of mouthfuls.

Have you come across this before, is there a medical reason for it and will the lack of food affect the baby. I'm taking sanatogen pronatal tablets every day but have heard different things about nourishment in pregnancy. Some people say that the baby will get what it needs and its therefore just the mother that suffers if the diet is poor and some say that the baby needs you to eat a good diet.

I'm worried sick, especially as I wasn't taking folic acid for the first few weeks as I didn't know I was pregnant

Yep, still is early days cheeky - will take a couple of days for the iron in your system to work its way thru. Keep us posted - good to hear about your appetite.
Good for you Wills - let us know what the results are!

I've always loved yogurt and have eating a lot so dar in this pregnancy. However my sister in law has just told me that when she was pregnant her midwife told me not to eat bio yougurt in pregnancy. Any ideas whether it is safe or not? I have never heard this before

by the way only slight pain since stopping pronatal

cheeky - this would be a new one on me too. I've always understood bio yoghurt to be fine (could be wrong!)
Glad the pain is easing for you.

Glad you said that Leese, because so did I.

This is the first time I have read this thread and I find it really interesting ....
First of all Cheeky ... my doctor prescribed me some kind of pregnancy (with iron) tablet when I was pg with DS ... I think it was called Preggaday or something and boy did I feel bad. I can not stand being constipated ... I have a real problem with piles if I am and that gives me more pain and trauma than anything else in the world. Anyway ... I stopped with the tablets ... went back to plain old folic acid and trying hard to eat lots of green leafy veggies and didn't feel bad anymore. My doctor (bless him ) didn't believe me and kept prescribing them for me but I never took them!
One the appetite front I am facing a dilemma. With DS I was ravenously hungry for 40 weeks and put on 4 st!! I suffered from morning sickness until 16 weeks but that didn't stop me ... eating was the only thing that made me not feel sick.
Anyway ... now it is a whole new ball game. I am 8 weeks and am again suffering from major nausea (no vomiting but dry retching all the time) ... only now it is all day. The only time I don't feel sick is when I am asleep ... but I am finding it hard to sleep as I am worrying about everything .... money/ miscarrying again / baby being healthy etc. If my DH comes to bed having had a couple of drinks (and he smokes too) I can't sleep as the smell of alcohol and cigarettes on him makes me retch (and he is meticulous at brushing his teeth and doing listerine etc too). Last night I lay awake retching and crying until 2am. So today I am knackered and feel even more sick because of it.
The hungrier I am the more sick I feel but the thought of food makes me feel even worse and once I have eaten I sit over the loo just wanting to get rid of it and wanting to die.
I'm sorry ... I started writing this as a support to cheeky and have ended up blurting it all out and to be honest I am feeling really really miserable.
I keep apologising to DH for not going near him when he has had a cigarette (he only ever smokes outside) and miss my cuddles with him but I just can't go near him as he makes me feel sick and it is really upsetting me. He has promised to give up soon but he is not making much of an effort. He has promised to give up before the baby is born as last time he didn't and because he was still smoking after DS was born it caused me to start again which I don't want to do .... BUT I need him to stop now as I can't bear to be near him. This morning I mentioned to him that he could sleep in the spare room until he has given up and he was really cross ... I know that I could sleep in the spare room but I need to be near DS in the night ....
Sorry for the rant ... but I am feeling so miserable and can't understand that DH, who is being so great about my feeling sick (takes DS off my hands as soon as he walks in the door, cooks dinner etc) is being so insensitive and is not doing the one thing that would make my life so much better at the moment .....
Cheeky ... sorry to hijack your thread .... glad your pain is getting a bit better .... {{{}}}

Oh Ghosty how horrendous. Men! They give so lovingly in some ways and then are dreadfully selfish in others. Mine doesn't smoke but even now I can't bear the smell of alcohol and often ask him to turn over in bed. I think that smoke would make the situation intolerable as well so you really have my sympathies. DH has just come back from a run and I can't stand the smell of sweat - stale or not. Its taken him awhile but I just can't go near him until he's had a shower (something he's doing as I type) nevertheless I think its still hurts him that I don't like his "manly scent" ugh! Not sure I have any foolproof ways of tackling him but here are some ideas....

1. Take the emotional side out (I had to over the sweat), sit down and tell him calmly in the evening when ds is asleep how you feel. Explain that you're not forcing him to give up smoking but (and go gentle) if not then its his decision but could he sleep in the spare room.
2. OR get tonnes of brochures on the effects of secondary smoke (this is emotional, emotional blackmail to be specific )
3. OR Insist he uses Fabreeze to shower with before coming to bed .
4. Move to the spare room and take ds with you! Bit dramatic and depending on the layout of your house possibly cutting your nose off to spite your face etc.

Now in terms of being sick, what you're describing is my first trimester and unfortunately a large part of my second (it went to be replaced by indigestion ). Again I think everyone has to find something that works for them and to adapt as other elements change so here's some things that worked for me.

1. Pick but have no meals
2. Eat during the day when I actually fancied something rather than when the clock said it was food time
3. Carbohydrates worked for me - bread, pasta etc.

Even so I rarely ate a full day's worth of food but at 31 wks little one is doing fine so far (fingers crossed because I'm still neurotic!).

Oh and for me the best thing - mumsnet! Keep talking.

Good luck and loads of cyber hugs!

Just thought of another one re: dh ghosty. Give the problem to him. Tell him that you can't abide the smell and its making you ill (this is fact not emotion!). Ask him what he suggests as a solution - you may find he has something that we would never think of.

Ghosty, I'm so sorry you're having an awful time. No advice, just wanted to say sympathies really.

Thanks so much Wills ... for your words of wisdom .... and WWW for your support ... I felt better just after posting my message so mumsnet had already helped a bit!!
I actually asked DH what we should do about the problem this evening after DS went to bed and he did say that he was going to try to give up after this packet.... He doesn't actually smoke that much ... only about 5 a day during the week and maybe 10 at weekends but still the smell is just awful. I vowed when I was pg with DS and I had the same 'thing' about cigarette smoke that I would never let myself smell like that again but when DS was 5 months I gave in but never went back to smoking regularly again like DH does.
He has said that he will have a shower tonight before he comes to bed so hopefully I will get some sleep. If it goes on he will have to go to the spare room though ...