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BFP and hiding it from inlaws, any ideas...

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PoppyIsApain · 18/12/2009 17:32

Hi, i have got my BFP today which is great but it is my DH birthday next week and we are meant to be going out with his family to the pub for a drink or 3. Obviously i cant drink now but my inlaws know i would never choose to have a juice rather than alcohol, ill also have this prob xmas day, any ideas of how i can disguise my pg from them in these alcohol infused occasions?

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Slambang · 18/12/2009 17:35

why hide it?

Slambang · 18/12/2009 17:36

oops - and congratulations

difficultdecision · 18/12/2009 17:36

could you be the driver?

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PoppyIsApain · 18/12/2009 17:37

As i will only be 5 weeks pg and dont want to tell them till im at least 8 weeks.

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EldonAve · 18/12/2009 17:38

drink vodka & tonic but ditch the tonic

arrive later then they will have all started on the booze and it will be easier to hide?

allstarsprincess · 18/12/2009 17:40

Lie. Tell them you are on antibiotics for an ear infection and cannot mix! I am in exactly the same situation at the moment. Cannot tell them until mid Jan so over xmas I have an ear infection.

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PoppyIsApain · 18/12/2009 17:40

I suppose i could have vodka and orange ditching the vodka, making sure dh always buys my drink, or i get mine.

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PoppyIsApain · 18/12/2009 17:41

Love it allstar, will do that

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MrsMopple · 18/12/2009 17:43

Congratulations, Poppy!!

I managed to disguise an early pregnancy at a 4 day work conference, by accepting alcoholic drinks and maybe taking a sip or two, then losing them. At dinner each night I had a glass of wine poured for me and did the same - as the evening wore on, when everyone else's glasses were being refilled, mine was still full. They were all getting drunk and no one noticed!!

May have similar situation at Christmas - I have just had a BFP, which I'm delighted about, but it's v early and DH doesn't want to share our news as last time I got a BFP it ended in an early miscarriage. What we're planning is that when I get offered a glass of wine, I will take it. DH will have the same, and at some point, when his glass is nearly empty to my full one, we'll switch them over!

Only other thing is to get your DH to buy your first drink of a G&T without the G and then plead driving or stomach upset or something. Good luck!!

MrsMopple · 18/12/2009 17:44

I'm such a slow typist, sorry for so many x posts

FabIsGettingReadyForXmas · 18/12/2009 17:46

Start mentioning your ailment now so the antibiotics line isn't obviously a trick.

We weren't going to tell anyone I was expecting with DS1 but when the midwife said I would lose him and have to have a D&C I said to DH I want them to have had the enjoyment of knowing a baby was coming even if i did then lose him. I was scanned at 8 + 5 and told them that day. He is now 8.

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PoppyIsApain · 18/12/2009 17:46

Congrats allstar and mrsmopple

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earlyriser · 18/12/2009 17:53

Or say you have a urine infection, and need to avoid alcohol, drink lots of cranberry juice and keep visiting the loo (you may well be doing that anyway

oh and congratulations

ilovemydogandmrobama · 18/12/2009 17:54

Say you are beating the Christmas rush and detoxing early?

woowa · 18/12/2009 22:47

I hid BFP from inlaws, and first scan (8 weeks) and MW appointment from parents staying with us, by behaving non-suspiciously (!), and having a glass of wine in front of them. One glass is ok, just drink half of it, in very small sips, and have water too. If they insist you drink more, just let them pour it and don't drink it. My SIL ended up drinking mine in a restaurant!

WinterWonderland · 18/12/2009 23:03

Definitely don't do the antibiotics thing - nobody believes it, especially if you're "of a certain age" and recently married etc.

Accept every drink offered, raise it to your lips a few times then discreetly lose it. Get your DH to have a few sips. Wander about with it if you can and leave it somewhere. And when it's your round, get a something and tonic without the something and knock it back.

The key thing is that everybody remembers you loudly accepting a drink!

I totally understand not wanting to tell people until you're further along, it's natural. The thing is, once you annoucne you're pregnant, they'll all pretend they knew all along. People just like to do that. Ignore it.

beautifulgirls · 19/12/2009 11:06

You could pretend to have the hangover from hell and have sworn off alcohol until new year?

winjy · 19/12/2009 11:46

good antibiotic to say u are on is metronidazole for tooth ache/infection..comes with severe warning not to touch alcohol!!
but like the others said u can prob disguise it..a lemonade with ice and lemon in looks alcoholic!! im 8+2 weeks and hiding it from my mum and am going there xmas day but im driving so thats my excuse good luck!

MumNWLondon · 19/12/2009 19:44

Buy the drinks and get the drink without alchohol. Or get a small beer/wine and play with it get your DH to drink it, tip it in plant (and drinking a little of it isn't a problem). Or be the driver?

Tizzyjacko · 19/12/2009 19:46

Sit next to DH and get him to swap full glass for empty....its a hard job (for him) but someone's gotta do it.

nowwearefour · 19/12/2009 20:02

accept a glass and wine but just dont drink it- over dinner that is. at the pub just get a tonic or a coke and say vodka is in it or something like that. dont tell them if you dont want to yet. congratulations!

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