Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

Original poster

Is it possible to be a pregnant Yummy Mummy?

23 replies

AgentZigzagDoingAYuleLog · 07/12/2009 18:15

Is it actually possible to feel attractive when you're so much heavier and unwieldy than you normally are?

Being pregnant is lovely and amazing, and I'm not talking about how attractive the bloke who got you into this finds you or even that looking and feeling attractive is that important, but at 35 wks I just feel sooo huge waaaahhh!!!

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

blondiep14 · 08/12/2009 09:12

Me too AZZ, am 35 weeks as well and I am enormously gargantuan.
When I go in to a shop I can see the panic in people's eyes, I look ready to drop any nano-second!

MrsBadger · 08/12/2009 09:24

yes but it is hard work and you can;t do it all the time

I am a pregnant yummy mummy for about 20min a week, usually when I have just dried my hair

the rest of the time I have bags under my eyes, unbrushed hair, toddler snot on my shoulders and porridge on my jeans.

thedollshouse · 08/12/2009 09:45

I have seen them. It isn't me though I look and feel vile.

It is all worth it though, although I shan't be doing it again thats for sure!

Original poster

AgentZigzagDoingAYuleLog · 08/12/2009 10:36

Lol at 20 mins a week, that's good going MrsB!

It is all worth it I know, but because DD2 is all up front I've had people saying I look ready to pop since before wk 30. I could take it as a complement that I'm cooking DD2 really well, but because of the huge slant society puts on not being 'fat' it's hard to separate out being preg in your mind from that slant. So when anyone says that, and I see the surprise on their faces that I've got another however many weeks to go, I think 'blimey, I really must be big'

OP posts:

Bettymum · 08/12/2009 11:24

I am almost 23 weeks. I dropped DD off at nursery this morning with a huge green bogey smeared on my cheek. I think it was one of hers.
Not very yummy, eh?

Original poster

AgentZigzagDoingAYuleLog · 08/12/2009 11:27

hahahahaha betty, there's nowt like a good bit of snot to accessorise with is there??

OP posts:

Hullygully · 08/12/2009 11:28

No. I'm afraid it's against the law.

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 08/12/2009 11:29

as long as you don't go down the route of cropped tops with your belly out.
Not a good look, especially in winter!

mistletoekisses · 08/12/2009 12:20

I think that it is entirely possible, until you get towards the end of the final trimester. But I think you need a fair amount of disposable income to be so. I know some ladies who were uber glamourous, smooth and polished throughout their pregnancies - but they spent an absolute fortune on their underwear, clothes and even shoes in larger sizes.

But, then at about 32-34 weeks, they went into 'hiding'. High heels were finally relegated, and the tracksuit bottoms came into their own

Morloth · 08/12/2009 12:21

DH seems to find me more attractive when I am knocked up. Probably some sort of caveman thing. Because he keeps rubbing my tummy and saying "phwoar" I am feeling pretty good about how I look.

Original poster

AgentZigzagDoingAYuleLog · 08/12/2009 12:24

Yeah mistletoe, that's part of it I think. I spent loads, for me, on clothes to fit in the summer, and now it's down to the last few weeks I've got hardly anything to wear and I'm defo not shelling out on anything else when there's Christmas, DD1s birthday and the baby to buy for.

High heels? What are these things of which you speak?

OP posts:

MamaLazarou · 08/12/2009 12:35

I feel pretty good - my hair is thicker and shinier, my skin is the clearest it's been since the early 1980s, and I haven't put any weight on anywhere except boobs and bump.

Perhaps it helps that I'm not particularly into fashion or dressing up. I'm more of a jeans-and-trainers girl, so don't really mind all the daggy maternity wear.

It also helps that my husband tells me several times a day that I am beautiful.

mistletoekisses · 08/12/2009 12:37

AgentZIgzag - they are those lovely spiky (maybe even spangly) delights in your wardrobe gathering dust.

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 08/12/2009 14:03

Birkenstocks were as spangly as I got during pregnancy - but then in winter I think you can really go for it with accessories and be uber chic and yummy

Bettymum · 08/12/2009 14:15

AgentZigZag - the worst thing was that DD had looked up at me when I got her out of the car at nursery and said "wassat?" I said "it's my face, darling."
Note to self: check face in the wing mirror next time she does that.

porcupine11 · 08/12/2009 14:18

i hope it's possible - i have to go to a black tie wedding the week before my due date!

Bonsoir · 08/12/2009 14:19

There are some seriously yummy pregnant mummies at DD's school [green]. The sort who put on 9kg max by the end of their pregnancy, having started out a perfect size 36 (UK 8), all of it on their tummy.

The obstetricians here make pregnant women cry when they put on too much weight, so fiercely do they tell them off .

thedollshouse · 08/12/2009 14:36

Thank God I'm not in France then Bonsoir.

Pregnancy does not suit me at all. Before I had ds I was very slim and when I got pregnant I just ballooned. This time I know that I have put on weight but I refuse to weigh myself as I don't want to get depressed about it. When I went for my nuchal scan I behaved like a total loon and refused to get on the weighing scales, I then burst into tears and the midwife agreed to weigh me without writing my weight on the notes. I don't think I could cope if the obstetricians and midwives were telling me off for putting on weight.

I think the problem with me is I am short with a small frame so every pound shows. I also don't feel that I am a naturally slim person, I was only a size 6-8 before I had ds but I worked hard to maintain that weight. When you are pregnant I think your body reverts to its natural shape/weight which in my case is obviously fat bloater.

I know it sounds incredibly shallow but I just can't wait until April when I will be able to diet and start a fitness regime. I want to feel like the old me again, to be able to have an interest in clothes and not put my head down every time I pass a mirror.

Original poster

AgentZigzagDoingAYuleLog · 08/12/2009 14:47

I don't think it is shallow dollshouse.

It's all very well to say 'it doesn't matter how you look', but if that really were the case everybody would walk round in sacking.

How you look and how you feel are linked, and if it's all you can do to haul yourself off the setee, it doesn't go a long way to making you feel 'fit', in both senses of the word! I can't wait to get on my bike working up a sweat again mmmmm proper exercise

OP posts:

MyNameIsInigoMontoya · 08/12/2009 14:51

I saw one once - out clubbing no less, in a slinky black dress, looking gorgeous and completely un-knackered. Cow!

I think it helps if you don't get a bump the size of Wales though, it's so much easier to look nice if you have a little neat bump... unfortunately mine seem to tend towards Wales-sized (or whale-sized?), so I have given up.

rumpleteaser · 08/12/2009 14:58

I have refused to go near scales too Dollshouse! Managed to avoid them for yrs!

I found one fab pair of maternity trews and a couple of long tops which I feel good in, but can't wear the same thing all the time!
And how can anyone be yummy mummy when they're so full of gas...

or is that just me?

Luxmum · 08/12/2009 16:18

Hmm. yummy up to the end of your second trimester is possible. I'm now OD, and my Daarrling H has refused to have sex with me tonight. (I dont actually WANT sex, but I do want this effing baby out NOW). So now not only do Ifeel HUGE and tired and hormonal, butb alsodeeply unloved. DH is goingto SERIOUSLY pay for this next jan when I get my eternity ring.. [malicious grin emotcom]

mistletoekisses · 08/12/2009 17:13

Luxmum - for refusal 'help' things along, I would throw a very nice handbag along with the eternity ring into the mix.

Flip