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Can we have a severe sickness support thread

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Wonderstuff · 30/11/2009 13:13

I am 7 weeks gone, last week I was feeling a bit nauseaus, on Thursday I couldn't stop throwing up, on Friday the doctor said I had moderate levels of keytones (not sure on spelling there) in my urine and I was to rest completely and try to keep food down or I would end up on a drip. I feel so awful. I have been signed off for 2 weeks and have put dd in full time childcare (normally does 3 days) I feel so guilty that I can't care for her, but I literally can't move, I keep crying all the time. The end seems so far away. I haven't washed my hair in days as the effort just seems too much. I want to go to sleep and wake up when this pregnancy is over.

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MillyMollyMoo · 30/11/2009 14:32

I'm 12 weeks tomorrow and touch wood it's like a dark cloud has lifted, fingers crossed it won't be much longer for you and don't feel guilty it's a case of just doing what ever you have to to get through this.

nickytwotimes · 30/11/2009 14:39

Wonderstuff, I am just coming out of hyperemisis. It was AWFUL. I ended up in hospital on a drip a few times and lost over a stone. I couln't get up and even rolling over in bed tired me. I felt like having an abortion. I also felt awful fo rnot being able to care for my sone. TOday is the first day in 7 weeks I have cared for him myself. The guilt was awful and the hunger/dehydration messes with your mind.
I had a thread here asking for help. I'll link to it next post.
You need to get some anti-emetic meds. It can be a fight, but they are perfectly safe, widely used and can help a lot. Get someone to help you at the docs.

DO not feel guilty - you are ill.

nickytwotimes · 30/11/2009 14:39

Here is my thread

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Wonderstuff · 30/11/2009 14:41

Thanks, glad you are feeling better. Last pg I was sick to the end, threw up every time I brushed my teeth which was special, thankfully not doing that this time. I must have felt better at some point, I did get back to work and go on holiday and stuff later on, can't remember when. The relief at having the baby and being able to eat properly again was amazing. The days are just so long at the moment. Currently surviving on hobnobs and hulahoops.

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Wonderstuff · 30/11/2009 14:44

Thanks nicky, doctor said she didn't want to prescibe so early, but I do wonder if GPs often just don't know what to do, she was nice but seemed at a lose. I half wanted to be admitted to hospital. I too have thought about termination. But have decided that I want this baby enough to carry on. I am never going through this again though.

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penona · 30/11/2009 14:49

Just saw this and your thread too, nicky. I had severe HG during my pregnancy, and also contemplated not going through with it. I have never, before or since, been that ill. It was truly hideous, debilitating, depressing, really an awful experience (and I had had 2 years of IVF previously to endure and thought that was bad!!!).

I had a number of trips to A&E, took all the avalable drugs, and they did make a difference (metaclopromide was my poison! if I could keep the tablet down, would stop being sick for about 6 hours). But the night after I gave birth, it was a miracle, the whole feeling had totally gone. On second night, my DH brought a pizza, spicy tomato pasta and a chocolate cake into the ward. I was STARVING!!!!!

It does pass. I had some respite from weeks 20-28 where I felt and looked great and did stuff. But it is awfully depressing in the meantime, and you need to watch out for the depression as well as the physical sickness. Please get help. And good luck.

nickytwotimes · 30/11/2009 14:49

Your GP probably knows too little.
The earlier the intervention, the better. Research proves it. Also, the issue of ketones in your urine need to be attended to.
You may be better getting admitted as they are FAR more experienced than GPs with this sort of thing. They also have access to a greater range of drugs and know the combinations they can be used in.
Can you admit yourself? In our area, we can phone the early pregnancy unit ourselves and they will arange to have you in either for the day or for longer.

penona · 30/11/2009 14:50

PS I started vomiting blood and took myself to AnE, they gave me drip etc and also prescribed me drugs. My GP said 'Oh that's what you get when pregnant'. Great! (A man, of course).

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Wonderstuff · 30/11/2009 15:11

Not sure if I can admit myself. I am managing to keep things down atm if I stay really still, so I think I am now better hydrated. It seems if I can manage to get down a slice of toast in the morning and nibble something bland the minute I feel the sickness increase I can manage. If I have another day where I am constantly sick I will ask to go to hospital. I look and feel awful. I really must get a shower, but the thought of that effort makes me queezy. I feel so trapped.

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MarianneM · 30/11/2009 16:07

So glad I found this thread! I'm eight weeks gone and have been feeling pretty sick for a couple of weeks...until last night when I started being sick. Been sick nine times and counting, feel like I'm dying, can't keep ANYTHING down. Can't even get out of bed. And I was supposed to go back to work today after a year's maternity leave! Asked if I can extend it my leave until January, so had to come clean about being pregnant.

Called doc today who said she could give me a prescription for some kind of anti-sickness drug though it's not ideal in early pregnancy. Said no, but regret it now. Do you think it's ok to take something for sickness at this stage?

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Wonderstuff · 30/11/2009 16:17

I think (though really am no expert) it is all about weighing up risk, the risk of the drug is very, very small, the risk to your health if you become dehydrated and/or malnurished could be significant.

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Oblomov · 30/11/2009 16:24

sickness can be awful. I was prescribed 2 drugs. helped a bit. not much.

nickytwotimes · 30/11/2009 16:58

The drugs have been in wide use for years.
I wouldn't hesitate to take them having just been through hell.
Of course the 'ideal' is to take nothing in early pregnancy, but in the real world people have to take all kinds of prescription drugs and do so with no problems.
Many docs do not take this problem seriously enough. It can be life threatening at worst and is certainly very life-limiting for many.

BellasYummyMummy · 30/11/2009 17:29

i feel for all you ladies. I had moderate ms but nothing like you have all described. After having my head down the loo all this weekend with gastroenteritis i can only begin to imagine how horrid this must be for you all lasting so long. i so hope the sickness passes for you quickly.

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Wonderstuff · 01/12/2009 08:35

Well I'm still being really sick and feeling just awful so have another appointment to see another doctor at 10. I just can't function at all.

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Wonderstuff · 01/12/2009 10:42

Back from docs, no ketones and not dehydrated today, still feel bloody awful though. Had blood taken, no idea why, but to go back on Thurs. Apparently digestive biscuits, hoola hoops and coke is an adequate diet. Never ever again
Got BO too, normally I never smell, in clean clothes, had a shower last night, whats that all about

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TinksandFloris · 01/12/2009 11:31

Hi,

I've just found out I'm PG with my third child. Spent the first 4 months with both my other DC's in and out of hospital with HG.

I'm just coming up 6 weeks pregnant and feel ill with no signs of vomiting as yet....it normally hits me at about 7 weeks.

I'm absolutely dreading this first trimester.

Has anyone ever had HG in a pregnancy and not in another?? I can always dream!

nickytwotimes · 01/12/2009 12:25

Wonderstuff, if you are unable to function, you should be given the option of medication. Like I said, you may have to push, but it is better to take medication than go through the bloody hell of sever ms/hyperemisis. A lot of GPs are needlessly terrified of prescribing so much as a paracetamol to a pg woman so do try another GP and do really go for it when stressing how unwell you are. Remember the emotional/mental effects can be pretty devastating too. FOr me they were almost as bad as the physical.

Hope you have a better pregnancy this time, Tinks. You are a brave woman.

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Wonderstuff · 01/12/2009 12:40

Thanks nicky, do feel a bit better today, which is worrying me, I am seeing my doctor for the first time on Thurs, and he was sympathetic and did prescribe some anti-sickness stuff last time (which I only took a couple of times) he also practises acupuncture so I am hopeful he will be willing to prescribe something. I feel so awful for not being able to look after dd. I had her on Thurs and I just kept crying and the poor thing didn't know what to do, she gave me lots of hugs which was lovely, but I remember being terrified when I was small if my mum cried.

Tinks I am definitly feeling worse this pg than I was last time, maybe you will have more luck with this one?

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nickytwotimes · 01/12/2009 12:45

Aw, wonderstuff, it is rotten feeling so guilty about not being able to care for your lo. I was the same. I am well on the mend now though and ds has emerged unscathed if a little clingy, but he is so pleased to have his mum back. Your wee one will be too. Try not to feel guilt. You can't help being ill (becasue God knows if you could, you would!) and your wee girl knows you love her. Just cuddle her when you feel able and tell her you will be better soon and you can do lots of fun things then. I kept telling ds that I was looking forward to being better so we could play. No idea if he understood, but as I say, he survived and is happy and healthy as always.

TinksandFloris · 01/12/2009 13:43

Both my PG's I was being sick about every 15-20 mins for about 8 weeks. So not able to keep anything down at all. Both times I was given stemetil (an anti-emetic.) The tablets didn't really have enough time to take effect so they ended up giving me ahem suppositories. At least I wasn't able to throw them up and they did take the edge off eventually.

I wasn't admitted to hospital the first time as my (then) doctor was rubbish. However, second time, when my keytones were through the roof and my blood-pressure in my boots. They admitted me to hospital to be re-hydrated. Some nurses were really sympathetic, some said it was a psychological thing.

I lost over a stone in weight both times, but I did get through it and I did start to feel better. During my second pregnancy I felt overwhelmingly guilty for sitting my (then) 3 yr old in front of the TV for hours at a time whilst I spent days with my head down the loo. He doesn't even remember me being ill now, and so although I felt really bad for putting him through it, he doesn't remember now.

Don't struggle through, go to your Docs. Some are of the view that HG is all in the mind but a good doctor will check your keytones and make sure you're getting what you need.

I hope my story will help others to realise that although its absolutely hideous, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Eat what you can, drink what you can and rest as much as possible.

This time, as long as I can get through Christmas without wanting to die, that'll be enough for me.

Good luck. xx

nickytwotimes · 01/12/2009 13:46

Tinks, it is good to know yur 3yr old doesn't even remember it now.

Although I am looking after ds for chunks of the day now by myself, a lot of it involves CBeebies as I am still getting my strength back.

TinksandFloris · 01/12/2009 13:49

How old is your LO?

nickytwotimes · 01/12/2009 13:55

Mine is 3.
Not sure how old Wonder's is.

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Wonderstuff · 01/12/2009 13:57

I have a 2 year old dd. I am really hoping she is so young she will soon forget the last few days and the next month or so.

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